December 1, 2017

The Real, Incredible, Powerful way to Please a Man.

I probably shouldn’t be telling you this—but nobody else will.

Read it, and apply it—and your life will improve immeasurably, transforming into an ongoing expression of love.

To please a man, just look at him and say, “Good morning.” That is all it takes.

Don’t look at him and wish he was different; leave your preconceptions under the pillow, your expectations and complexity under the bed. “Good morning” is all it takes. He will be beaming, his thimble full of pride will be overflowing. He will suddenly want to fix the sink, hang the moon, and provide oral pleasure until you can’t deny your satisfaction.

“Good morning”—that is it. He really is that easy. But, there is one complication; if it is later in the day, then say, “Good afternoon,” or, “Good evening.” That is all it takes to please a man.

He is already enough, just as he is. Don’t try to change him; he will change as he does. Don’t try to “correct him,” he isn’t going to get the correction anyway. Just say, “Good morning.”

Mean it, if you can—but even if you don’t mean it, he won’t notice. He isn’t that deep. He’s a simple creature, a puppy looking for approval. Give him that approval.

No matter how old he is, he is at a tender age. He still expects that his dreams will come true. He is a kid at heart, and it is his heart that he will give you. Don’t drive him into obedience class or force him under your broken wing. Just watch him soar, sparked by your approval.

This really is the one and only secret to inspiring, delighting, and taming a man. Don’t force him to be you—or what you want—let him be himself. “Good morning” does just that.

Some woman are much further from saying a simple “good morning” than others. But, no matter how far you are—make the journey, because on the other side lies a very sweet man who will do anything for you.

He will lay his coat down on a puddle, so you don’t get your fancy Christian Louboutins or hip tennis shoes muddy. He will take a bullet for you. But, if you correct him, try to fix him, or disapprove of him, he will go into hiding. He will sit watching football and drinking beer. He will chase other woman in hopes of finding one who can say, “Good morning.”

He is so easy—so simple. Once you can say “good morning,” bask in his happiness and joy, soak in the love that flows your way. Put him to work, and he will be whistling.

I could go on—I could tell you what to do once you can say “good morning”—but really, that is all you need.



Loving the Person & Not the Potential.


Author: Jerry Stocking
Images: Unsplash/Jez TimmsFlickr/Robert Álvarez
Editor: Yoli Ramazzina
Copy editor: Callie Rushton
Social editor: Lieselle Davidson 

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Jerry Stocking Dec 13, 2017 8:59pm

This is exactly it Laura. You are obviously sweet and kind, but you are dissatisfied, wanting to do more for your husband. But he really doesn't need it. That is the whole point. Relax, say good morning to him and mean it. Then let dissatisfaction roam elsewhere if it must, but just afternoon great him with a Good afternoon that represents "all is well." Do you get it? I loved what you wrote, and good morning really is just perfect for him! Explore what you need, want, and desire, but good morning is all he needs, the definition of low maintenance.

Laura Hornby Kutney Dec 13, 2017 5:49pm

Jerry, I had to write in and say how much I enjoyed this article. It is so true. Women complain about how hard it is to find a good man all the time, but once they find one and after the initial excitement, then what? I have seen many men blend into the background of the household like a trustworthy blanket. Sure, it was bought with care. Hours of internet searching to make sure it was the best color, would wash well, and last. Well, then it did as was advertised, but we don’t appreciate it like we did when we first picked it out. It never did anything wrong, it just kept preforming as expected. So yes, say good morning and thank you and I appreciate everything that you do for US. But there must be more that we can do, right? Please tell me! I have written love letters of appreciation—even here: https://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/09/because-i-love-you-more-than-you-may-ever-know/. Still, after 22 years of marriage, is good morning enough? My husband does so much. He is wonderful in every way, a great dad, and on and on. How does one show their deepfelt appreciation on a regular basis in a way that doesn’t feel like habit? After all, many women dream about marrying a husband like mine, and he deserves to feel all the love like he did when we first started dating. Please help me out! He doesn’t seem to like being fussed over, but maybe deep down he does like it? Do tell!

Jerry Stocking Dec 5, 2017 3:25am

Thank you. Very nice to have a compliment from royalty.

Jerry Stocking Dec 5, 2017 3:24am

That’s exciting, you have a lucky husband.

Jerry Stocking Dec 5, 2017 3:23am

Beautifully said. Thank you.

Sarah Cirell Dec 3, 2017 8:27pm

I also applaud this simple message. I once asked a male friend, who was getting over a tough break-up, about the one quality of hers he would miss most. I was shocked by his reply: “Kindness—she was incredibly kind. Not just to me, but to others as well.” In a world where sex sells, we often forget how much simple kindness can buy.

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Jerry Stocking is a modern day Thoreau who left the fast paced world as a stock broker and moved to the woods. He now spends his time helping others, and himself, express their zest for life.

He lives his life with heart wide open on a 33 acre blueberry farm with two ponds and a peaceful pace. Often writing at 3 a.m., there are no social conventions here, just the pursuit of possibilities and unconditional love.

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