For all the Wild Souls Suffocated into Suits.

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The door shut and the noise from the outside world faded away.

I was in the viper’s nest. Across the table sat a still man, his suit and soul buttoned up to the neck. In his hands he held a pen and a piece of paper that were going to permit whether or not I was acceptable enough to hand over my hours and become another one of his faithful employees.

I was in the situation I loathed most of all: a situation where people became machines, where wild souls were tamed, where narcissists and sociopaths flourished as they spat out a market-approved script of lies and exaggerations.

The interview began and the questions flowed away as formulaic as anticipated. “So what specifically about this role interests you?” he asked first. “What skills from your previous jobs can you apply to this role?” he asked second. “Where do you see yourself in five years time?” he asked third.

As I gave a fake smile and chirped out generic answers, I felt the knives cut away at my heart. Here I was: lying and hiding my true self just to “play the game” and obtain a job I didn’t even want. I knew I wouldn’t be staying at the job long term—I knew I didn’t believe anything I was telling this man. And yet I did it anyway.

This was the way it was: two wild creatures of the universe trapped in boxes, playing the game in all its ugliness and falsity. Our ties tightened like nooses on necks; our souls suffocated within these suits of society. For some reason I was destined never to figure out, this is how it was.

The interview screeched along, and after the final handshake was done, I walked out and relaxed the muscles in my cheeks. I made it out the building and onto the busy street. As I stood there, back in civilization, an overwhelming sadness filled my body. It surged up from within and filled my bones, my flesh, my fingertips, my shoes, my pockets—the core of my being told me everything was wrong about what had just happened.

I could hear the voices of my peers and parents and teachers in my head: “That’s life,” they would say. “It’s called growing up,” they would say. But this was a feeling so strong—so conflicting—that I just couldn’t ignore it any longer.

How could lying and denying who you really were be the logical path? How could starving my soul in a stress-filled job be the thing that was encouraged?

No, I couldn’t ignore that profound sadness, and from that moment on I made a promise to myself. I made a promise never to pander to the corporate world again. I didn’t care what anyone else thought of me, or what low-paying jobs I had to work.

In that interview, I felt the power of the entire universe telling me to turn my back on that phoney world. Working casual jobs and finding other ways to make money for my adventures would have to be the way I went forward for now. There was nothing noble about silencing your inner voice to work a socially accepted job. There was nothing sane about lying and being false just to bluff your way into a job you didn’t want anyway.

In a moment of clarity, everything made sense and I loosened my tie from my neck and walked off, free, into the city crowd.

Two years and many adventures later, my bank account is often a sorry sight, my social status is at an all time low, and I have still never worn a suit or had a full-time job. But the things I have seen, felt, tasted, and explored I would not trade for all the gold and riches in the world.

I may not have a large portfolio and polished resume, but I have seen the sun rise over the Himalayas, I have camped alone in the perpetual daylight of Iceland, I have watched volcanoes erupt, wrote poetry under the stars—shared beautiful moments with people all over the world.

I have delved into the depths of my mind and awakened a way of being that I simply never felt was possible to feel. Yes, I may be an outcast and outsider to many, but on the trail of my own path, oh how my spirit soars.

As I stay true to who I am, as I continue following my inner voice—as my neck stays tie-less and my eyes blaze and burn with the wildfires of life—oh, how my spirit soars.

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author: Ryan Millward

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Ryan Millward

Ryan Millward is a nomadic space monkey writing his way through the wilderness of planet earth. Incompatible with anything to do with normality or sanity, his interests include travel, writing, hiking, drinking, and searching for the proverbial philosopher’s stone. He is the writer behind the blog, “The Thoughts From The Wild.” He hopes to be a published author one day.

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Monica Guirguis Dec 2, 2018 1:31pm

Thank you so very much for sharing this. I too work for corporate America and feel all the same emotions you described. You have encouraged me more today to take the steps forward out of my comfort zone that I’ve known for quite some time now were inevitable. I’m so appreciative for your story. Thank you.

Erica Kitner Nov 30, 2018 3:41am

Thank you for sharing that experience of how overwhelming soulbleeding feeling shook your path and helped you stay centered in your own truths… it is this way for me quite often as well. A buffer to all the thoughts and disapproving perceptions of others- for you have tasted the Universe’s opinion now. there is no turning back from that.

Judy McCord Nov 28, 2018 9:42am

Great job! You have revealed truths for many.

Jason Yuchá Nov 28, 2018 9:16am

I KNOW THIS PREDICAMENT AND OVERALL SENTIMENT ALL TOO WELL… and yet again I face this now, in this very moment. Embracing my bohemian roots, wild heart, and my gypsy soul is effortless, easy, and fulfilling. Trying to make it work in a suit has proven to be more arduous as the years progress. It feels more like an uphill battle. My heart is a stubborn one, and it battles with such a ferocity, waiting for the day it claims victory of my mind/ego. The war has yet to be won, the victor has yet to be named… I wonder in the end, if I’ll look back and find a past filled with regret or pain?

It goes without saying, “one of the most difficult decision one can ever make in their lifetime is knowing when to stay, or when to walk away.” Do I follow my dreams and live out my passions, honoring my authentic self, thus preserving my sacredness by bringing my true self, and gifts from my higher self to the forefront of my existence? It sounds like a no brainer? an easy decision, right? It’s a profound statement to make, and an even more prolific one to write, and re-read.

However, surrendering to this truth, and fully making that decision requires courage, trust, faith, and hope, that the universe will provide me with all that I require. At the end of the day it comes down to simply believing in oneself and capitalizing on the innate gifts we often times keep hidden, or neglect. We sacrifice our personal power on the account of fear, status, interpretation of wealth, and perceived happiness. We let the world dictate what should matter, what’s important, and how success is defined for us?

I guess for most of us, or at least for myself, I dont always practice what I preach. How I invest my time each day doesn’t match what my soul has been brought here to do; this I know to be true. I am a very self aware person. However, what good is self awareness without a tenacious spirit, or courageous heart? Somewhere along the line, I stopped believing in myself, and have allowed the world to define success for me. The oppression of the “suit life” is all I have ever known… and all I no longer want to really know. It’s so hard to make that first step into ownership of your true self. It’s so hard to move past the fluidity and comforts this illusionary world offers. Yet, how much longer can I continue to invest in something I no longer believe in; that which is no longer me? I guess it comes down to that defining moment when I’ve had enough, hopefully before I’ve lost myself, or squandered away my gifts to complete my life mission/divine purpose this lifetime. I assume, the day when I choose to finally put away the suit, is the day I decided to stop to insulting my soul. Until then, I remain at war with my ego.

THE HARDEST THING IN LIFE IS LETTING GO OF WHAT YOU THOUGHT WAS REAL. The privilege of a lifetime is becoming who you truly are; before the world told you who to be.

Jason Tyler Yucha

Rachel Santos Nov 28, 2018 8:38am

Yep. That’s me. Looking for a place that honors my wildness and still pays the bills.

Jason Yuchá Nov 28, 2018 8:22am

I’m literally facing this right now! Thank you so much for writing this and communicating your beautiful truth wondrous one!!!

Wendy Verona Nov 28, 2018 8:04am

This! I’m a middle-aged woman who 15 months ago got laid off from a corporate job I loathed, but stuck with (up until then) for the money. I’m trying to maintain the courage to pursue my graduate degree even though it’s been a difficult change for everyone in the family. I know I have a long, uncertain future ahead. At best my new career will pay half of my previous, and it’s a much more unpredictable future. It’s scary. But I understand in my soul the sadness you speak of. You are an inspiration. Thank you.

Amy Elliott Nov 27, 2018 1:47pm

I adore the fire in your heart, and how you’re driven to do what you believe. It’s so important to stay true to yourself. Good luck with your future adventures!