In 2019, May you Surrender, May you Forgive, May you Choose Peace over Chaos.

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Lately, I’ve been wishing for lots of things.

A little too much.

In fact, the pressure I’ve put on these wishes has not just created a big gap between expectations and reality, but pierced that gap in its entirety to fall right back on me.

Today, I’d like to stop pushing.

The way I’m going to try to do that is by retiring these wishes. I’ll alleviate them from their nonexistent duties and fictitious responsibility to make me happy.

Instead, I’d like to make a wish for you.

As 2018 comes to an end, I hope you forgive yourself for the mistakes you’ve made over the past year, for not following through on some of the goals you swore you were going to achieve, for not reaching the milestones you entered the year longing to achieve.

I hope you are kind to yourself. I hope you stop counting all of your mistakes and start counting your accomplishments.

You might not have completed every resolution. You might not have earned the success you dreamed about. But you grew into a new person this year. You learned so much this year. You should be proud of yourself for that.

My wish for you is that you forget to bring your baggage along with you into 2019. I hope you walk into the year with an open heart. I hope you give yourself the honor of a clean slate.

As 2018 comes to an end, I hope you stop thinking about the toxic people you cut out of your life these last few months. I hope you learn to accept that they are no longer in your life for a reason, and you are better off without their anchors. I hope you can forgive them enough to move on from them, but not enough to make the same mistake twice.

Above all, I hope you find new people to surround yourself with, people who will love you and respect you despite your quirks, people who would never dare to hurt you, because they mean it when they say they care.

My wish for you is that when you wake up with a headache, you’ll have the freedom to take it slow for the day. To throw your plans out the window, no matter how noble or seemingly important. That you’re not swayed by the pressure to perform—not for a job you don’t like all that much, and especially not for a job that you love. So that you can rest and start over, because tomorrow is always another day.

As 2018 comes to an end, I hope you stop stressing over the “what-ifs” you can no longer change. I hope you learn to accept your past and move on from it. I hope you stop torturing yourself with thoughts about what you should have done differently these last few months and start focusing on how you are going to do better in the future. I hope you look forward instead of behind. I hope you remember you cannot change what happened yesterday, but you are in complete control of what happens tomorrow.

My wish for you is that you won’t daydream about how you can meet that perfect guy or girl. That you’ll find the courage to say the things you want to say, do the things you want to do, and let the truth that transpires have its day.

You’re unique, worthy, and wonderful. May your authentic light shine so brightly that it’ll attract the right person.

As 2018 comes to an end, I hope you stop comparing where you are this year to where you were last year. I hope you realize that—whether you feel like you took 10 steps forward this year or 10 steps backward—you have nothing to be ashamed about. Some years go better than others. You will gain things and you will lose things. You will climb the mountain, and then you will slide back down. I hope you are not too hard on yourself about the path you took these past 12 months. I hope you still love yourself—even on the days you doubt yourself.

My wish for you is that when the maze of work, of love, of life becomes too foggy, you’ll be your own best friend. I hope you’ll always have people that are there for you. But even more so, I hope you’ll always be there for yourself. Console yourself. Listen. Give yourself the right advice. And, most importantly, rest. Maybe tomorrow, the fog will lift.

As 2018 comes to an end, I hope you remember next year does not have to be a repeat of this year. You can restart the resolutions you lost track of lately. Or you can set completely new goals for yourself. You can create any kind of year you want. It is entirely up to you.

My wish for you is that when you read a book or watch a movie or go on vacation, you’ll learn to not judge yourself for it. There’s no need to feel ashamed. Without shame, there can be no regret. Even guilt is just a tool to show us we did something wrong. Don’t let it become a ghost that haunts you wherever you go.

My wish for you is that, given the choice, you’ll choose the peace of quietness over the noise of success, power, and fame. That you’re not tempted to chase whatever can be counted because, in the end, that’s often the only thing we end up doing—tracking numbers. Life isn’t measured mathematically. There’s so little it accounts for, yet we rely on it so much.

My wish for you is that when life pulls you in all kinds of directions, you’ll take the breath it takes to look deep inside and find the “no” you want to find. No matter who or what inundates you with requests, questions, or opportunities. What truly matters is that your “yes,” whoever shall be grateful enough to receive it, comes right from the heart.

My wish for you is that you won’t fall apart when your plans do. That you won’t allow the beautiful act of organized preparation to become one of quietly suffered depression. Regardless of our schemes, God always has bigger plan for us. We’re more than pinballs in a machine, but sometimes, even the best of our intentions fall through the cracks.

My wish for you is that you’ll wake up from the endless nightmare of pleasing everyone. Because for every person you make happy, another falls by the wayside. I want a world in which you dare to love yourself enough to take care of your own happiness first. Always. Only then can your compassion flow freely toward others. Without expectation. Because kindness anticipating return is just leverage— and pressure lies only a few letters from oppression.

My wish for you is that in all of life’s longest fights, you’ll be able to tell the ones in vain from the ones worth fighting. Even if they take decades. Even if on a lost cause, a decade was already spent. Few struggles are worth preserving. But for the ones that are, may you never surrender.

My wish for you is that, when you’re burdened with a tough decision and you’re not sure if you know yourself enough to make it, you’ll step inside the void of solitude where you’ll find the answers. Life without music, without TV, without distractions, lovers, friends — even family — is scary. But every now and then, it’s the exact hole we must fall, no, jump into before we can take our next step.

My wish for you is that when you look up at the stars, you’re not lost in the hopes of tomorrow or the regrets of yesterday. That, if only for a few seconds, you’ll gaze into the sky and just be. Be silent, be still, be amazed at this magic life that found its way into your tiny existence in this gigantic universe.

My wish for you is that when you get lost in all the wishes you make for yourself, you’ll find your way back to wishing more for others.

More so, I set my heart on you sharing those wishes with them. We’re all in someone’s corner, but unless we tell them, how could they know?

I hope now you do.

author: Dina Al-Mahdy

Image: Eat Pray Love (2010)

Editor: Kelsey Michal

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Dina Al-Mahdy

Dina Al-Mahdy is an Egyptian freelance editor, translator and writer at: Bloomsbury Publishing, Elephant Journal, Austin Macauley Publishers, Egypt’s National Center for Translation, and Women of Egypt Magazine. Besides being a reading-promoter and a photo-blogger, she is also an associate at the International Positive Psychology Association (IPPA); and a member at the International Association for Professional Translators and Interpreters (IAPTI) and the International Association for Translation and Intercultural Studies (IATIS).
Dina’s greatest loves are art, books, poetry, nature, writing, photography, translation, traveling and music. She is in a serious relationship with words. Considering the power of words to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble, she hopes to inspire as many people as possible through her writings and to change their lives for the better. She is willingly obsessed with Frida Kahlo and is inspired and influenced by Elizabeth Gilbert, Dalai Lama, Paulo Coelho, Naguib Mahfouz and Radwa Ashour.
Dina has a deep yearning to discover many of the answers that seem to have been hidden or forgotten in today’s world. She muses at the world through a lens steeped in mindfulness, adventure and tenderness. She lives for adventure and wakes each morning with the excitement of a new day waiting to unfold at her feet. She truly believes the best is yet to come and waits, with bated breath, to see what it may hold.
She shares her thoughts on energy healing, meditation, mindfulness, relationships and the universe on FacebookLinkedin, and WordPress.

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Kelly Carpenter Feb 16, 2019 5:02pm

Great article. Thank you.

lindsmarie1986 Feb 9, 2019 10:01am

I was having trouble today, lost in emotions and thoughts. Reading this just saved me, I can’t thank you enough for how you’ve uplifted my spirits. Bless you and the work you are doing to make a difference for people who get lost and need some inspiration.

    Dina Al-Mahdy Feb 9, 2019 2:20pm

    I can’t thank you enough for your kind words. I wish happiness make its way to your heart and settle. Sending you love & light wherever you are dear❤

Laura Lotfy Jan 31, 2019 12:21pm

Woooow THIS ARTICLE IS ONE OF ITS KIND!❤

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 31, 2019 12:27pm

    A huge thanks Laura.. You’ve made my day❤

doaabahey Jan 27, 2019 7:48am

great! keep going <3

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 27, 2019 11:30am

    Many many thanks Doaa for your valuable feedback❤

rasha.eltahhan Jan 27, 2019 12:15am

love this article

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 27, 2019 6:25am

    Many many thanks Rasha for your valuable feedback

samarhigazi Jan 26, 2019 7:38am

Splendid as always

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 26, 2019 12:23pm

    Many many thanks Samar for your valuable feedback❤

nehad.fahmy Jan 26, 2019 4:20am

I love this article ❤?

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 26, 2019 12:23pm

    Many many thanks Nehad for your valuable feedback❤

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 24, 2019 9:32am

    Thanks Omar for your great feedback❤

sally.samy Jan 22, 2019 12:12am

wonderful articl .. Good luck Dina <3

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 22, 2019 1:43am

    Thanks a million Sally for your kindness. You’ve made my day! Blessings <3

sarah.elamir Jan 21, 2019 2:23am

Totally in love with it <3

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 21, 2019 4:39am

    Thanks a million Sarah for your kindness. You’ve made my day! Blessings

Eva De Vor Jan 15, 2019 8:18am

Very soothing..I think I needed it today. Thank you.

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 16, 2019 11:35pm

    Thanks a million Eva for your kindness. You’ve made my day! Blessings ❤

Cindy Chase Jan 8, 2019 5:13am

What a wonderful article. Thank you. ❤️

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 9, 2019 7:39am

    Thank you Cindy for your kind words.. You’ve made my day. Sending you love & light

Tafollaimelda Jan 7, 2019 8:44pm

Love this , thank you for sharing ! Blessings ❤️❤️

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 9, 2019 7:40am

    Thank you dear for your kind words.. You’ve made my day. Sending you love & light

Sherifa Al Araby Jan 7, 2019 10:09am

Dear Dina, please send me your blog link here urgently. This kind of elegant writings must be followed, many thanks in advance

nahlaasalah Jan 6, 2019 2:19pm

You spread a positive mood to life dina

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 7, 2019 1:49am

    Thank you my dearest Nahla for your wonderful kind words.. You’ve made my day❤️

Ahmed Kamal Jan 6, 2019 12:12pm

@elephantjournal @Dinaalmahdy More of this eye opener articles please!

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 7, 2019 1:51am

    Many many thanks for your valuable feedback. Highly appreciated!

Hicham El Masry Jan 6, 2019 12:00pm

I keep on checking this charming article, please keep sharing your warm thoughts.

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 7, 2019 2:05am

    Thank you Hicham for your kind words.. Day made?

Moukhtar El Araby Jan 6, 2019 11:45am

Thank you, the article left me in a very optimistic mood

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 7, 2019 2:11am

    Thank you Moukhtar for your kind words.. Day made 🙂

lolobuxy Jan 6, 2019 10:26am

Amazingly amazing❤️

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 7, 2019 2:07am

    Thank you my sweetest Ola for your kind words.. You’ve made my day. Sending you love & light❤️

Moataz Moukhtar Jan 6, 2019 10:22am

I love who you always cheer me up and spread positive thoughts. Thanks a million

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 7, 2019 2:12am

    Thank you Moataz for your kind words.. You’ve made my day. 🙂

      Moataz Moukhtar Jan 9, 2019 3:40am

      Welcome, you’ve made mine as well.

amira_mfa Jan 6, 2019 9:31am

A lovely article.. Bravo!

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 7, 2019 2:03am

    Thank you my sweetest Amira for your kind words.. You’ve made my day. Sending you love & light❤️

Maria Hindley Jan 6, 2019 9:23am

Oh my God.. I needed that! Thank you for the light and love.. You’re an angel.

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 7, 2019 1:57am

    Thank you Maria for your kind words.. You’ve made my day. Sending you love & light❤️

maroumeh Jan 5, 2019 11:40pm

My favorite one was…
My wish for you is that when you look up at the stars, you’re not lost in the hopes of tomorrow or the regrets of yesterday. That, if only for a few seconds, you’ll gaze into the sky and just be. Be silent, be still, be amazed at this magic life that found its way into your tiny existence in this gigantic universe. ?

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 10, 2019 1:03am

    Thank you for making my day dear. Blessings

joseypardini Jan 5, 2019 12:11am

Thank you. I needed that

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 7, 2019 1:56am

    Thank you Josey for your kind words.. You’ve made my day. Sending you love & light❤️

phelpsKathleen83 Jan 4, 2019 1:40pm

This was a serendipitous find that will continue to inspire me as this year continues on.. thank you.

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 9, 2019 7:52am

    Thank you for your kind words.. You’ve made my day. Sending you love & light

Galina Singer Jan 4, 2019 11:17am

Love this so much! Thank you for the forgiveness, the lightness. What a relief!

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 8, 2019 11:54am

    Glad you like it Galina.. Sending you love & light❤️

Rebecca Anderson Jan 4, 2019 10:50am

Great read. Happy New Year!

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 7, 2019 2:08am

    Thank you Rebecca for your kind words.. You’ve made my day. Sending you love & light❤️

Moataz Moukhtar Jan 2, 2019 4:42pm

Inspiring and cheerfull, can’t wait to read your upcoming article, Happy New Year.

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 9, 2019 7:42am

    Thank you Moataz for your kind words.. You’ve made my day. 🙂

Hanaa Fathy Jan 2, 2019 10:53am

Wishing you the same my beautiful princess. May God bless you..

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 7, 2019 1:52am

    Thank you habibty for your wonderful kind words.. You’ve made my day❤️

      Hanaa Fathy Jan 10, 2019 9:14am

      Proud of you my girl <3

        Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 22, 2019 1:46am

        You’re so kind… Thanks a million dear 🙂

Magdy El-Mahdy Jan 2, 2019 10:48am

Proud of you Dina?

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 8, 2019 11:51am

    Many many thanks dad! You’ve made my day❤️

      Magdy El-Mahdy Jan 10, 2019 9:05am

      Wishing you all the best my dear.

        Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 22, 2019 1:45am

        Thanks a million dear <3

Hossam El-Shamy Jan 2, 2019 10:39am

Love this article!!! Super amazing…

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 8, 2019 11:53am

    Thank you Hossam for your valuable feedback.

      Hossam El-Shamy Jan 10, 2019 8:55am

      You really are a great writer, Dina! Keep it up…

Elena Holmes Jan 1, 2019 10:30pm

This is beautifully written Dina! Thank you for warm wishes. Wishing you the same dear?

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 7, 2019 1:58am

    Thank you Elena for your kind words.. You’ve made my day. Sending you love & light❤️

      Elena Holmes Jan 10, 2019 8:50am

      Blessings <3 <3

        Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 16, 2019 11:38pm

        You’re so kind.. Thanks a million

bradleyfloyd Jan 1, 2019 5:17am

Remarkably beautiful. Thank you for sharing your compassion and love.

    Dina Al-Mahdy Jan 7, 2019 2:02am

    Thank you Bradely for your kind words.. Day made.?