So I met this girl.


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Update: here’s Melissa’s scintillating rebuttal.

A few months back, I was messaging VIP influencers on Instagram (I only message those I respect, who aren’t overly narcissistic, who seem devoted to helping others and being of service).

I messaged a yogini who lived somewhere down south, and had the usual brief convo about “hey, let’s feature you on Elephant! Write a story!!” It’s my goal to get folks off of Zuckerberg-owned Instagram—not completely, not at all—but to get them posting their heart to independent media, not just corporate oligarchy (Google and Facebook are sucking 80% of the money out of all journalism, killing local papers in particular).


A month later or something, I must have seen a story or post and I hearted her. That’s the default “like” on Instagram messages. I remember thinking that she seemed classy, not self-obsessed.

A few days later, she asked me “Is that your nugget?,” about a little video story I’d done on my dog Redford.

I replied. She replied. I replied. She replied. I replied, She replied. I thought, she’s actually wanting to talk, and I became more forthcoming. She was super funny. Witty. Sharp. Quick.

We started texting. A few days of non-stop funny witty sharp quick texting, all day every day, staff and friends wondering what had come over me (I’m rarely on my phone, usually), I asked her out. After a long awkward pause she sent me a monkey covering its face emoticon. Emoji!, I get it!

So, more or less, that’s how it all started.

I’m in love with a Monkey.

A few months after daily texts and calls and video calls (we’ve corresponded more than any relationship in my life, already), I flew out to her in Asheville, near where she lives. We spent three days together, including two at Grove Park, where F. Scott Fitzgerald did some writing. Quartersawn! It was fun, and raw, and scary, and romantic, and scary, and fun.

Then we did another few months of long distance phoning and getting to know. The slowness of long-distance was frustrating, but it forced us to, well, slow down. She had a delightful laugh. She made funny squees of joy and exuberance. She was pretty, and beautiful, without being vain. She was vegan, and is, and loves to eat, and loves to cook, and loves to dance, and had bravely left her career path for something new and unknown and more meaningful for her. She wanted a family, some day.

And all through the future-thoughts and the present-joys, we kept saying, our little mantra: one day at a time.

Who knows what will happen, but I do know: Happy Valentine’s Day, Melissa.

She’s here in my hometown, Boulder, now, for the first time. She’s here for two weeks. It’s real. It’s hard. It’s easy. It’s romantic. She’s patient. She’s fun. She’s confident. She’s open. She’s a keeper.

I wrote a book, a few years ago, about the sort of love I was looking for: sane, grounded, funny (a sign of sane and grounded), a good mother, a genuine-hearted partner who respects my and her own independence.

I’ve found it. Maybe. One day at a time.

All I know is: I’m two-feet-in, and we’re zip-lining off a cliff into something like love.



Waylon reads from, "Things I would like to do with You," his book about Love. Preramble.


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Sheila Mcaughtrie Feb 25, 2019 10:07am

I’m so happy for you both. Guess what? I also met this guy…….. Life changing

Amy Moro Feb 22, 2019 5:34pm

This is one of the most exciting articles to read. Best of luck to you both!!!

Lori Goldman Feb 21, 2019 9:24am

So sweet. All the best 🙂

jackiepooler Feb 19, 2019 11:46am

This made me so incredibly happy to read!! You are such an incredible person – loving, uplifting, inspiring; a phenomenal writer, and, from what i know of my own interactions with you, just a really sweet and genuinely great guy! Wishing you both all the best on this path, wherever it leads. ❤?

Corti Cooper Feb 19, 2019 7:40am

So cute! All the best to you both!

Nikki Leonard Feb 18, 2019 5:16pm

My heart is so full reading this! So happy for you both!

Yvi Si Feb 17, 2019 9:27pm

Good luck for the both of you 🙂

Doria Sharpe Feb 16, 2019 3:49pm

I am so happy for you and Melissa sounds perfect. Finding the subject of your book must be the best thing in the world for you and what an honor for her to realize she was the subject of that book. It’s a wonderful love story.

Elyane Youssef Feb 16, 2019 11:23am

So happy for you, Waylon! <3

Medha sector Feb 16, 2019 1:40am

Wonerfull storry
Congatulations with love, courage and a open heart

cheleb5943 Feb 15, 2019 9:50pm

I want this…this touchable lovable holdable love…flying off into the universe together because you can’t feel the ground beneath…I want ???

    Waylon Lewis Feb 16, 2019 11:00am

    We always want to feel the earth, too! Buddhists talk about joining heaven and earth in our hearts–kinda cheesy, perhaps, but powerful notion, too.

kady Feb 15, 2019 8:38pm

Crazy happy for you. My life coach gave me THE BEST ADVICE years ago…Wake up each day and kiss your partner as if they are a stranger. I love that!

tarainwhistler Feb 15, 2019 6:38pm

That is both inspiring and SO awesome. I’m most happy for you both!

Kadeo66 Feb 15, 2019 6:11pm

Love moves through us and these words flowed from that love. Beautifully strung together like only a soul could do.

Aastha Karki Feb 15, 2019 2:08pm

So happy for you both! This gives me hope…:)

shanne ware Feb 15, 2019 12:56pm

What a beautiful thing… happy for you both……be kind, be gentle, be vulnerable, and be the first to give an inch- as I remember you saying once.

Brenda Gordon Feb 15, 2019 12:51pm

Congrats; enjoy the ride!

Vicki Lee Feb 15, 2019 12:28pm

Love love love it when this happens.

Camellia Kennedy Feb 15, 2019 12:08pm

So happy for both of you!!! Each day has its own promise …..

April Irwin Feb 15, 2019 11:16am

All I have to say is…YESSSS! ?

joeytownsend Feb 15, 2019 10:28am

I am so happy for you both???

genad610 Feb 15, 2019 10:26am

What a beautiful beautiful, timeous post!!! It’s put my own ‘situation’ into perspective. Thank you. Much love and blessings to the two of you, and yeah, one day at a time.

tamara aruj Feb 15, 2019 9:39am

Hi! I don’t know you and have been inspired by your sharing and Elephant for a long time. I come in and out of it and have even thought about stepping out and sharing my soul in words… but what I really wanted to say is how profoundly happy I am for you. My heart feels expansive and I am moved to tears -struggling to type through them. Sending you both love and blessings-one day at a time, and always and forever. Xommmm

    Waylon Lewis Feb 16, 2019 11:01am


bsgbliss Feb 15, 2019 9:02am

Love and blessings to you both ❤?

Tiffini Sears Feb 15, 2019 9:02am

This is wonderful to hear, congratulations and the best of luck to you both 🙂

Aimi Healey-Bracher Feb 15, 2019 8:32am

Yay! I am so happy to read this – it’s a beautiful thing, isn’t it. Lovely, lovely, lovely story to read on a beautiful sunshiney sort of a day. So happy for you!

hannah hiscox Feb 15, 2019 8:32am

I have never commented on an article on here even though I read all the time. Just want to say I really love this.

rlbbecker Feb 15, 2019 8:06am

I live near Asheville too! 🙂 So happy for you!! Have FUN!

Carolyn Wilman Feb 15, 2019 7:58am

Enjoy every moment. The thrill. Excitement. Slowness. Longing. Text message. Etc. So happy for you that you seem to have found your person. You deserve a love that matches the way you love all of us.

Lee Storms Feb 15, 2019 7:48am

I love this! Great romantic poetic heart beating beautiful write!

itssme1960 Feb 15, 2019 7:32am

This gave me hope! XO Feb 15, 2019 7:26am

Recently this also happened to me, at 59 years old! Enjoy!!?

    carolkanjala Feb 15, 2019 9:29am

    Awww, that’s beautiful

    Gina Newlin Feb 16, 2019 4:43pm

    How wonderful to delight in these sweet happenings! Happy for you, happy for Waylon <3

Katherine DuBrall Feb 15, 2019 7:23am

This made my day.

Joseph j. Rusk Feb 15, 2019 7:17am

Love and kindness to you and your staff, Waylon. Love this

Diane Fraser Feb 15, 2019 7:12am

My heart is so happy for you…both ?♥️?

    Diane Fraser Feb 15, 2019 7:15am

    Those weren’t meant to be question marks, they were supposed to be stars of light ! ?

M A Denyer-Green Feb 15, 2019 6:34am

How very lovely to read this. You write with your heart on your sleeve and it’s a beautiful affirmation to yourself, herself and to us readers as to where you are, right now, with this thing called love. I know I want to hear more, whenever you wish to share it with us. Best wishes from a sunny and spring-like Holland.

Julie Balsiger Feb 15, 2019 1:39am

What a sweet, adorable, and lovely letter to get…and share with five million other readers. She is blessed. And so are you. Best wishes for right here, right now, and also later—when that arrives.

Karishma V.P Feb 14, 2019 9:03pm

This is so beautiful! Congrats Waylon and Melissa!

Jen Schwartz Feb 14, 2019 5:56pm

This is written in “your voice” and I love the specificity.
Happy <3 Day, Waylon & Melissa.

    Waylon Lewis Feb 16, 2019 11:02am

    ahaha youuuuuuu:

Marvette Fudge Feb 14, 2019 5:10pm

YAY Waylon!! Congrats. I love, love.

jeankelly117 Feb 14, 2019 4:30pm

I have been reading this site for a while – this is the first thing that was real – not some vague non-speak about some vague half idea – i am rooting for you – I recently shared a cab with a stranger – I talked about history – he mentioned something about a Unicorn – we exchanged numbers (for professional reasons) both went our separate ways – I am rooting for you & Unicorns…

Marisa Vogel Feb 14, 2019 2:19pm

This warrants an all-caps-kind-of YES.

My heart is smiling. Thank you both. ❤️

joseph.calderone Feb 14, 2019 1:14pm

Inspiring modern love story.

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Waylon Lewis

Waylon Lewis, founder of Elephant Journal & host of Walk the Talk Show with Waylon Lewis, is a 1st generation American Buddhist “Dharma Brat.” Voted #1 in U.S. on twitter for #green two years running, Changemaker & Eco Ambassador by Treehugger, Green Hero by Discovery’s Planet Green, Best (!) Shameless Self-Promoter at Westword’s Web Awards, Prominent Buddhist by Shambhala Sun, & 100 Most Influential People in Health & Fitness 2011 by “Greatist”, Waylon is a mediocre climber, lazy yogi, 365-day bicycle commuter & best friend to Redford (his rescue hound). His aim: to bring the good news re: “the mindful life” beyond the choir & to all those who didn’t know they gave a care. | His first book, Things I would like to do with You, touches on modern relationships from a Buddhist point of view. His dream of 9 years, the Elephant “Ecosystem” will find a way to pay 1,000s of writers a month, helping reverse the tide of low-quality, unpaid writing & reading for free online.