You know those days when your emotions are running all over the place?

Or your spirit feels so weighed down that no matter what you do, you can’t seem to snap out of it and get it together?

I know for myself, I have wrestled many times with feeling stuck. Having an aching sense that you need to do something but just can’t see a way out. Or when something doesn’t go as planned and feelings of hopelessness creep in.

We may also struggle with uncertainty and pessimism, falsely assuming we’ll be forever stuck in the muck.

As many of us face hardships and adjust to the changing landscape of our worlds, so does the need for us to look more inward for strength and confidence and to feel more empowered.

Self-empowerment is defined as making a conscious effort to take charge of your destiny.

It enables you to sit in the driver’s seat with your shoulders back and your head held high, taking positive action that brings you closer to who you truly are.

Simply put, it’s the freedom to make choices that lies in the understanding that you have options.

Self-empowerment also carries a powerful and positive reciprocal effect. The more we feel empowered, the more we empower others—thus, making the complexities of life more manageable and less burdensome for all.

Here are three ways that we can strengthen our sense of empowerment when we feel stuck:

1. Strive for progress, not perfection. Perfection often causes unwanted stress because it sends the message that our desired outcome must happen in a certain way. That type of thinking is restrictive because it carries a set of expectations and holds limitations to our happiness. Instead, focus on the present by continuously learning, growing, and improving your circumstances. Track progress by asking these simple questions, “What is different this month than the last?” “Could I change anything next month?” Don’t forget to celebrate the small victories, which can motivate us to keep going.

2. Practice self-advocacy. Speak up on matters that mean the most to you. Don’t be afraid to communicate your needs and go your own way. So often, we choose not to use our voice and suffer because we think our concerns are not valid or important. If you’re unsure of where to start, simply ask yourself, “What are the goals I’m trying to achieve?” and go from there. Research your options and seek extra support if necessary. Equip yourself with the knowledge and tools necessary so you can make informed decisions confidently.

3. Honor your story. No two people have the exact same set of experiences and beliefs. We see through assorted lenses and carry different perceptions of the world around us. Being proud of where you are and where you’ve been is vital in progressing forward. Let go of judgement and forgive yourself for past mistakes. If you’re having a difficult time, ask yourself, “How would I treat a friend who was dealing with the same issues?” or “Am I reacting in a harmful or hurtful manner?” Be patient and kind to yourself always.

When we feel more empowered, we climb higher. We strengthen our collective awareness and compassion. We pave the way for kinder interactions and stronger social connections.

Ultimately, we instill hope and encourage others to overcome obstacles for the highest good.

What would you add to the list? What makes you feel empowered? I’d love for you to share!

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