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September 21, 2024

Enjoying our Aloneness means We’ve got this Life Thing Figured Out.

 

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I often find myself pondering some pretty deep stuff:

What does it mean to love and be loved? What’s the difference between feeling lonely and just being alone? And, perhaps most importantly, why am I so darn happy in my own company?

Deep thoughts, I know. Welcome to my world.

When I start going down the rabbit hole, one famous saying always pops into my mind: “If a tree falls in a forest and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound?” Now, hold that thought—because life can feel a bit like that sometimes.

Imagine, if you will, the vast landscape of our experiences as we navigate the wild ride of life.

In our high moments, we yearn for someone to high-five us, to pop the champagne and say, “You did it!” And in the low moments, well, a comforting presence wouldn’t hurt—maybe even someone to say, “Hey, I’ve been there too, and guess what? You’ll survive.

Having someone in our life is like having a built-in cheerleader and therapist rolled into one. They reflect back our best (and occasionally worst) selves, remind us that we’re pretty awesome, and sometimes nudge us to dive deeper into the murky waters of our own souls. With them, we face our fears, challenge our insecurities, and laugh at our quirks. It’s through these bonds that we sometimes do things we never thought possible—like putting pants on before noon on a Sunday.

But let’s not forget the joys of being your own best company. (And maybe enjoying it a little too much…) Being happy alone is not just okay—it’s fantastic! In fact, being content in your own company is a sign that you’ve got this whole life thing somewhat figured out.

People often confuse solitude with loneliness, but they’re as different as night and day.

Loneliness is the unwelcome guest who overstays their welcome, while solitude is like a cozy night in with your favorite book, a glass of wine, and the knowledge that no one is going to judge your pajama choices. When you embrace solitude, you connect with yourself on a deeper level, free from the noise and demands of the outside world. It’s just you, your thoughts, and maybe that extra slice of pizza no one’s around to see you eat.

Being content in your own company means you’re emotionally mature and self-sufficient. It’s a natural and healthy state where you can live authentically, make decisions that are truly yours, and find peace—no matter what life throws at you. Sure, balancing solitude with a social life is key, but mastering the art of hanging out with yourself is like finding life’s secret cheat code.

We are complex creatures, and our emotions can be a little messy. But hey, that’s part of the fun, right? We’re all doing our best to navigate the ups and downs of life. So, remember to challenge yourself when needed and be gentle when it’s time to take it easy. After all, who better to take care of you than…you?

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