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The minute I unboxed the LELO Enigma Double Sonic Vibrator I went, “Ooooowaaa.”

The second sensory trait I noticed is how extraordinarily soft it is. Sleek. Black. Silky. I could not wait to test drive this beauty.

I bit my lip. I’m very curious to learn about the A-spot that this high-powered toy is rumored to be capable of reaching…

So, I downloaded the LELO app and easily paired my phone to the Enigma Double Sonic U-shaped, flexible vibrator, after it had a full charge. I opened the app, turned on the vibrator, and eased into it slowly—without lube. Alone. Un-partnered.

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I know vibrators are considered masturbation but the vibrators made today don’t seem to even fall in the category of sex or masturbation to me. The feeling is vastly different. More nuanced precision with power vs the simple, playful toys of yesteryear. Sort of like driving California’s famed Highway 17 in a souped-up sports car.

Sex with an engine just hits different (vroom, vroom).

After my own engine began purrrring, I started playing with the app and trying different settings. The Enigma Double Sonic fits snugly inside me. I was amazed how I didn’t really need to hold on to it all the time, once fully swallowed, it lands like a puzzle piece directly on my clit.

I’m surprised at how precise it lands and engages.

Simultaneously, I have never experienced the tapping sensation on the wall closest to my pubic bone. It feels exactly like if someone were to gently tap your shoulder in line when it’s your turn to go, reminding you that they are there.

I giggle at the strange, new feeling…like my vulva is being carefully mined for a precious resource: orgasm.

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I can’t help but fixate on the other end perfectly snuggled up to my clit, vibrating there making my 8,000 nerve endings all a-tingle. Thats a f*ck-ton of enthusiastic pressure to take in, almost too much.

Yes, this end is completely seducing me and I love it (insert a million exclamation points here).

The first strong sensation I felt was a new one; both strong and kinda urgent like needing to pee very badly, but I just emptied my bladder (see the LELO app for more on peegasm & squirting). I ride it out until it passes and I wondered if this was my A-spot waking up?

One thing I do know about orgasm, is the breadth of sensation that can occur. Some sensations are warm and in the exact right spot like you’ve tapped into a whole, unexplored universe. Then the sweet spot can move. Some are weird. Some are right in the groove of where it feels like even deeper pleasure. nirvana, as if everything in that region has melted. It’s in this sensation that things can be so expansive, almost feels like the Grand Canyon somehow fits inside my clit.

Some sensations can feel sharp, sour, uncomfortable or trigger other sensations in the body. Sometimes it’s too much sensation, so I pull back the pressure. Or I crave more pressure!? I just ride it all out, an ombre rainbow of sensation. I love how it keeps changing.

During my self-love time, I might be one-hundred-percent focused on the sensation. Other times it might be half sensation and half mental, letting erotic, little fantasies in my creative mind unfold.

The first orgasm, the very first massive peak I had with the Enigma Double Sonic was so powerful that my entire abdominal wall contracted together with my entire vulva, clit included. No small, joy-filled ripples–but a torrent of pleasure.

Holy f*ck, neither I nor any sexual partners I have had, can do that to me.

I feel like masturbation can be so mental, dreaming about who/what scenario you’re attracted to or low-key obsessed with. The Enigma Double Sonic is so unexpectedly powerful that the sensory turn-on had my full and undivided attention. My mind was calm and quiet and that’s actually what is preferred in a meditative act, to focus wholly on the moment…in this case, just the physical feeling.

Of all the settings you can play with on the phone, I kept coming back to these manual settings the most:

1) Finish Me Off
2) Out of Control

Their descriptions kinda speak for themselves.  I like more sensation and maybe I need to work on giving up some control and welcoming more nuanced teasing and even some edging.

I’m starting to wonder if the future holds smart devices that pleasure and exercise us better than we can do on our own?

A full abs-contraction is right up there with a (partnered) clitoral orgasm I once had that made me feel so rosy and warm in my chest, arching my body towards the heavens on a strong peak. We’re talking about full-body orgasm here.  An orgasm that stays put in just the genitals is minor league orgasm now, like a watered-down cocktail. Like just going through the motions of life– but not fully living and feeling.

Where the heck is the A-spot?

I wanted to jump into the Enigma Double Sonic blindly and just prioritize feeling and sensation, unbiased, without a sex road map. It’s why I didn’t research the A-spot beforehand. Remember I said I felt a strong urge to pee? I must have been right on it or near it, because the A-spot (AFE: Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone) is located between the cervix and the bladder. It’s also the female prostate (located in the same spot as a man’s prostate) and it’s a major erogenous zone. Oh so major, that my words cannot do it justice– it needs to be felt!

The A-spot can also be stimulated via anal but if you’re not into anal or Eiffel towering (I’m here for sex not gymnastics– so I’m gonna leave that to the more able-bodied cheerleaders) then you will love the Enigma Double Sonic providing all the same fun without the risky positioning.

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But what the A-spot actually feels like—even if my anatomy isn’t perfect here—a clitoral orgasm being drawn out of me both internally and externally. I mean after all, the clit is 90% internal, right?

The reason I like and prefer LELO is the same reason I have been wary of using a vibrator too much in the past. I don’t want to overestimate and thus desensitize my nerve endings. If you do this, you may need it harder, faster with more pressure each time to achieve pleasurable peaks and you risk numbing out while going harder than our sensitive bits are really designed to take.

LELO must understand this because the app has settings that don’t vibrate constantly. You may opt in to a tantalizing vibrate-pause-vibrate-pause rhythm that lets your nerves breathe, and then respond and reach for more as opposed to smothering and suffocating them with over-stimulation and excess pressure.

It slowly builds a powerful orgasm, coaxing it out carefully.

I can’t say that I have ever been teased like this… by a vibrator, like whaaaa? This one is quite smart. And it swims too, I love it in my salt bath and it’s totally waterproof to boot.

The LELO app is a treasure trove of sex Q & A, in addition to being a control tower for your vibrator. What’s so great about the app is that you can put it in your partner’s hands to play with. What a wonderful way to get the bedroom communication flowing, not to mention the teasing and foreplay.

If anyone ever knocks or tries to shame your self-care time, self-love practice, and sexploration, stay positive and say, “You don’t know what you’re missing, plus it’s sex with someone that I love.”

The LELO app also has one of the best online sex education offerings I’ve seen, delivered with ample sex-positivity, so you can also direct people there for sexual enlightenment.