All relationships face challenges.

Yes, even the “good ones.” (Especially the good ones?)

And yet, when talking about relationships, so many people say they want a partner who brings them peace. Who makes them feel comfortable. Who fully supports them. Who makes their life easier.

Sounds perfect, right?

Maybe. But it also doesn’t sound particularly realistic, at least not if that’s what we’re expecting all day every day.

Bringing two lives, two personalities, two sets of values and beliefs and priorities together day in and day out is bound to create a little bit of chaos. Because all the love and attraction in the world can’t stop us from being human. From triggering each other, from annoying each other, from bringing up old wounds—just by being who we are.

When we add in all the regular life stuff that tends to pop up—becoming parents, switching or losing jobs, health issues, moving, grieving, finding and losing ourselves over and over again—it’s honestly a miracle that so many relationships survive.

But I still believe it’s possible to make it through the chaos. To weather the rough seasons.

And maybe I’m an optimist, but I think there’s beauty in finding someone who pushes your buttons a little. Whose very existence nudges you to grow, even when it’s hard. Who is willing to go through that hard with you. Who knows there are going to be days or weeks or months where you struggle to hear each other, to trust each other, to understand each other—to even like each other—but who wants to stay.

Someone who believes that what you have together is worth sticking around for.

If you’re in a relationship that feels challenging right now, I hope these words from self-empowerment coach Anthony D. Brice help calm you through the chaos:

 

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“The right relationship isn’t what you think it is. 

It’s not just peace and passion. It’s not just feeling seen, heard, and chosen. 

The right relationship will call you out. It’ll hold a mirror to your patience, to your pride, your triggers, your past and your patterns.

It’s not about perfection—it’s about reflection.

It’ll expose the stuff that you thought you buried. It’ll test how you handle discomfort. It’ll challenge how you show up when loving someone means showing up differently than you used to. 

I used to think I was a great partner but being with someone real, someone healthy, someone intentional revealed the spaces in me that still needed work. And that’s not a flaw, that’s a gift.

The right relationship doesn’t complete you, it doesn’t—it refines you. It grows you. It stretches your capacity to love, to lead, and to listen. 

So if you’re in something that’s challenging you—not breaking you, not depleting you—but calling you to be more of who you are, you might just be in the right place. 

Uncomfortable sometimes, but worth it every time.”

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