How I Found Myself Through My Daughter

Did you ever wonder how your encouragement to someone can help you walk through your own lack of????

The other day as I was thinking about how I shaped my daughter into being an amazing young woman…She is a smart….she owns her own business…she is twenty-eight….married to the love of her life….is a dog mom…I realized that I taught her self-love, confidence, self-worth self-esteem…everything I was lacking….which got me thinking….we are all filled with some sort of self-doubt….and yet we are supposed…to be their encouraging our children to be amazing humans….but how are we really doing it if we feel lacking in our own lives….

As a mother I only wanted the best for my daughter…but not having it myself how was I supposed to set the example…I had to look past my doubts deep within me to overcome this empty feeling ….so I encouraged her to do anything she wanted…and…I was there cheering her on every step of the way….I gave her love….hugged she when she fell…kissed her tears away…I did all this because I love her unconditionally…and…because I did not get this when I was going up….I promised not to be that kind of parent….I was breaking that….I wanted to be better than my mother….I guess when I reflect I am wondering why is it my mother was cold….showed no real emotion…said things I would never say….I then realized maybe that was how she was raised….or maybe she did what she thought was right….either way I was not going to be my Mother…and it is safe to say I am not…..I am better….but along the way and this is important….I lacked so much from the lack of a loving relationship…..no confidence in myself or my art….no self-esteem to put myself out there for fear of rejection…no support system should I fall….I was left to feel I wasn’t going to amount to anything….and in a way I really was just average….I to this day wanted that bond with my mother and still try to have it…but it’s not there….do I secretly resent her….probably…part of my is still that child looking for love, approval…so when it came time to be there for my daughter I found…not only did I give her love, tons and tons of kisses I gave all she needed to achieve her greatness….never did I let her feel alone…afraid….unworthy….And through this I found me….my courage….my self-worth…my confidence…and I am now on my way to a happy loved filled life, a successful career in designing….and I owe it all to my daughter….my greatest accomplishment….my heart and soul…..she is a better version of me….thank you for allowing me to see this and to find me in the process….

I hope this helps one person who has had that kind of loveless home life who feels they don’t matter….we all matter….I am not saying you’ll have to have a child to find yourself….that was my journey….but there is a purpose for all of us…..and when you find yours embrace it for the lessons it will teach you will change you forever.

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