To my “friends” who had an affair with my husband.

I get it.  He’s a manipulator, a smooth talker, he told you everything you wanted to hear.  Forget everything you saw, forget everything I told you, forget who I was, what he said was truth!

I don’t know what he told you, and I don’t want to know. Whatever it was, it worked on you, and you were no longer my friend.  He became the thing you had to have.  You gave up your family for a chance at mine.

For those that he left, I’m sorry, but be thankful. You got away from a truly horrible man before he caused you real damage.  I forgive you.  We are no longer friends because of your betrayal, but I forgive you.

For the one he kept, you should know it was only for a place to live.  You believe yourself in love, and good luck with that.  Please, for the sake of your kids, open your eyes.

You listened to me for years and you wiped my tears.  You saw him with your own eyes.  Yet, you believed his words over actions, and I get it.  I did too, for far too long.

Right now you think he’ll change.  He won’t.  You think by keeping a short leash, he won’t cheat on you.  He will.  You hope that he’ll love you back.  He can’t.

A narcissist doesn’t know how.  He’ll tell you all you want to hear, so he can get what he wants.  He’ll control you so much and so well that you don’t even see it.

I think you are the worst possible friend for doing what you did, but I forgive even you.  Not for your sake, but for my own.  I know what your living situation is, and what it will be, and I wish you luck. But don’t come to my door when you realize your mistake.

I forgive you because I have a new freedom that I wouldn’t have had before.  I get to discover who I am, and make my own decisions.   I will bloom from this.  My kids will know a happy life, and have the best version of me.

I hope the same for you, someday.

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