When Love has left the building…

There is poverty and then there is abundance. There is happiness and there is despair. Caught between all these plethora of emotions are our needs. Those needs which separate us from the beast and which also pulls us apart from the Divine, making us one of the most coveted and yet despised creatures on this planet and perhaps beyond.  

One need which has driven us and continue to do so even today is the need to feel special, the need to feel connected to another soul. LOVE has been charming since time itself. Add to it a hint of ego and reclusiveness and despondency and you have made yourself the perfect cocktail of love and pain and fairy tales and utter disaster!

So, you have met the ONE! In this new age relationship lingos, wondering whether you have found your soulmate or the one and only, super exquisite, infamously famous – Twin Flame – the other half of your soul, your mirror and your true destiny.

Love is the answer to everything. LOVE – the four letters bring so much strength and meaning that people can gleefuly leave their life, which they had built brick by brick, stone by stone – without batting an eyelid. Yet – it is also the most excruciatingly painful human emotion ever known. Can true love be painful? Rather the more pertinent question being does it have to be this painful?

Relationship experts preach that loving another person entails loving oneself. But does self love have the capability to lessen your ability to love another human being selflessly? Or does it in fact enhance your ability to receive and provide endless love? Why is it that you have to discover yourself and improve yourself to such a significant level before being able to attract your true love?

Union with the other half of your soul is supposed to be a beautiful rendition, but can so much pain and anguish leave you so vulnerable that you fail to see the toxicity of your situation and keep sabotaging yourself repeatedly? A common belief is that you have to feel this debilitating anguish in order to find union.

So, if you find yourself hopelessly and pathetically in love with someone who might or might not reciprocate your feelings – and if this mess of a situation keeps you awake at nights and clouds your judgment during the day – well then congratulations must be in order. You would be one of fortunate ones to have met the other half of your soul in this lifetime or are about to begin the most searingly painful one sided love affair which is going to shatter your heart into a million pieces and leave you in a state of deep deep deep state of human codependency and a never ending cycle of self-sabotage!

The very idea that there is someone out there who is your mirror image can be so hopelessly romantic that it is very easy to cling onto it and build a fantasy world around it. Some may feel that entertaining such a concept of love is just feeding your own ego. That all love is equal and any kind of special love is going to distract you from your true path, whoever knows what that is!

But then, it is difficult to pass on the idea that your soul has another part and that only that part can fix your broken heart and soul. That part only can mend your shattered existence and bring together the disjointed gazillion pieces of your life which you have been trying to put together since infinity.

We are humans – mortal beings, well, at least in this physical realm. Just as the waves in a deep sea rush towards the shore with full girth, only to crash onto the hard sand and disintegrate, we too pine for that intense connection with another human. A bond so strong that when united, none of the single units exists anymore for those few seconds. Even when the water settles back into the sea, it is the not the same as the last wave which had crashed onto shore. It carries with itself sediments of sand, only to come rushing back again towards the shore, to crash again! Similarly, love so strong leaves you as a different person, a changed human, and your heart would no longer be the same again, ever again.

But does that mean you stop loving? Nobel Laureate Tagore wrote that “If you cry because the sun has gone out of your life, your tears will prevent you from seeing the stars”! In this eternal game of existence, you do not leave the field because you didn’t score a goal before interval. No matter how much it might hurt, but love, be it in any form, has the ability to heal. So, next time when a stranger leaves their seat for you in the bus or the cashier at your local supermarket helps you to bag your groceries, remember to be thankful for the love which surrounds you and is everywhere. Remember that Love indeed never leaves the building after all!

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