In many traditional societies, learning about your ancestry was a huge part of becoming an adult, of figuring out how you fit into your culture and the grand scheme. Today, many kids don’t even have close relationships with their parents, let along grandparents or ancestors. In the absence of strong communities and rituals to help kids mature, how will adolescents find their place? In this video, Malidoma Some and Waylon discuss how boys can become gentlemen (for more on becoming a woman—which doesn’t seem to be Waylon or Malidoma’s area of expertise—see Dr. Judith Simmer-Brown’s interview on the Feminine Principle). Also discussed: how racial tension can actually be helpful, and whether there’s a place for age-old spiritual wisdom in the modern world.
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July’s Full Moon in Capricorn: The Heart wants what it Wants. How to Love a Woman who Scares You. Our Soulmates are Rarely Who We Expect. The 4 Stages of a Good Divorce. I Still Think of You. Men, Let’s Stop Fooling Ourselves: Size Matters. Reading This Takes Guts. To the One Who Tried to Break Me. An Open Letter to the Fixers. How your Stored Memories in the Amygdala can lead to PTSD.