Commitment to Stillness: A Habit of Daily Meditation

Via on Feb 1, 2010

Seated Meditation at Home

The most rewarding things in life seem to get kick started by an unfortunate event of some sort, it seems. Or is this just true for me? Knee pain from rigorous exercise brought me to yoga. Heart break brought me to the love of my life. And chronic pain from nerves, joints and muscles in my arms has now brought me to meditation. You know the frustration of chronic pain. It’s when everything you have tried seems ineffective after a while, and the body chooses to fight you instead of respond by healing. It’s when there is no medically obvious reason for your pain and the medical experts enter a guessing game with a sophisticated strategy also known as trial-and-error. It’s when you feel like you have neither patience nor faith left to believe that your pain will subside and your body will fully heal itself. Yes, it is that bittersweet spot of helplessness whence these words and promises flow today. It is high time for me to commit to meditation.

The practice of stillness. I have tried so many times to establish this habit. Many, many times. I would get inspired after a yoga workshop or retreat or from a book or my yogadownload podcasts and promptly put it on the schedule: Daily Meditation, 5 minutes, increase duration weekly. I would commit to practicing stillness and breathing without distraction. Yet, distractions always came and I let them in with open arms. I wanted to be a steady rock on a mountain top and yet I wavered like a leaf in the wind, at the beck and call of whatever sought my attention that week, that month, that year.

I have heard many yoga students struggle more with meditation than with some of the hardest poses. I would love to twist and bend and open into that impossible pose, but please do not ask me to sit still and do nothing! Tell me please I am not the only one suffering from eternal lack of focus and yet hopelessly in love with yoga both in theory and in practice!

Ancient history tells us yoga was born for the sole purpose of opening the body to prepare it for meditation. That without meditation, there is no yoga. In fact, a yoga teacher friend gave me one of the more beautiful descriptions, Yoga without Meditation is just stretching. Meditation is nonnegotiable in every pose. In every breath. In every moment of yoga. So if I can meditate in the poses, why can I not meditate outside of them?

Perhaps we need to answer a fundamental question first: Why Meditate at all? To relax? To gain perspective on life? To live longer? To discover more about ourselves? To become enlightened? What should be the reasons that draw us to something that requires so much commitment and so little tangible return on investment?  We demand strong reasons to commit to yet another task in our lives that steals more minutes from our over-packed days, and for many of us, meditation is too quiet to make a loud compelling case. I have been one of those many until now.

Now my conviction is simple – first, I believe there is a reason I am turning to meditation at this point in my life. There is an inexplicable notion that I can heal myself from this pain, and meditation is at the center of this force. So first and foremost, I am following my heart, and perhaps a bit of wisdom from friends. In my case then, the expected outcome is healing. I am willing to be proven wrong, but not without a fight.

What about you? There have been a thousand and one documented reasons and benefits for meditation. From Eric Schiffman‘s book, “The Practice of Moving into Stillness” to the inspiring poems of Dana Faulds, an entire spectrum of other authors, teachers, and philosophers, we learn that meditation can unlock the depths of our soul and help us firmly establish our inner well-being.

“Meditation helps me think before I act” - This is a mantra I say to myself and have come to believe. Mantras are short phrases and simple thoughts that we can latch onto and repeat quietly to ourselves during meditation or moments of quietude when we want to go inwards.

My point of view here is this. No one can tell you the reasons you should be meditating, least of all yours truly.  So do your research. And find your reason to meditate, and when and only when you have that conviction at the pit of your belly, recognize it and allow it to happen. Go with the Flow of your Heart then.

Practice-of-Stillness

In delaying the practice in the months and years past, I am tinged with some sorrow for not knowing what I see as obvious now. But hindsight is 20/20. We live and learn but so much the better when the latter happens sooner. I have learned these to be 3 excuses you should positively ignore when doubt sets in on your intention to meditate.

1. You need to be good or advanced at yoga to meditate  - No! Meditation does not know exclusion. You can meditate as a complete beginner, or an advanced student, and all shades in between. In fact, I think that beginners may be far more open to receiving the benefits and establishing a good habit early on.

2. You need teachers, classes and guidance to meditate - No! You can certainly learn and benefit from a class-room guided meditation but it is not a necessity. The resources available on the web and in books are tremendous, and you can find hundreds of podcasts and videos on self-guided meditation, and eventually, you establish the basic fundamentals and do it on your own.

3. You need to become religious or spiritual or something that you are not, in order not to meditate -No! Meditation is about learning and discovering who you are, and it knows no discrimination.  You can be an atheist, a Christian, a monk or a Buddhist. Strongly spiritual or religious people may very well meditate, but not all who do need to be so. Meditation resembles praying, and the simple act of stillness can be discomforting on many levels but it is a sweet challenge to face, unbounded to any denomination, sect or cult.

In building this daily practice, go into it with an open mind, and an unwavering determination and anticipation of good omens to come. To the best of your abilities, cultivate the habits that will ease the path, and prepare you for a journey of self-discovery.

  • Listen to yourself
  • Commit to Regular Practice
  • Hold yourself Accountable
  • Be Brave
  • Be very Patient
  • Have a little Faith

And remember, there is absolutely nothing to lose here and everything to be gained.  Take baby steps, take a step forth and three back, but commit and be inspired, and find your reason to start your self-discovery path.

“Go in and in.
Be the space between two cells,
the vast , resounding
silence in which
spirit dwells…..”

-Dana Faulds, “Poems from the Heart”

About the Author: Farnoosh is a new columnist at Elephant Journal. She created her own blog, Prolific Living, with a vision of embodying the essence of vitality by living a prolific life by conscious eating, voracious reading, diligent yoga, constant traveling, insatiable appreciation of the arts and by imparting that experience to its beloved readers, you!

All photography by the amazing Pascal Monmoine. All graphic design of photos by Prolific Living.

About Farnoosh Brock

Farnoosh only started pursuing her myriad of passions in recent years where workaholism was finally forced to take a backseat, and balance became a matter of intellectual and emotional survival. She has a relentless love for living life to the fullest via reading, traveling, yoga and eating well, all of which and more she explores on Prolific Living. While she is still trying to figure out what she wants to do for the rest of her life, she is excited and thrilled about contributing to Elephant Journal.

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10 Responses to “Commitment to Stillness: A Habit of Daily Meditation”

  1. Hi, Farnoosh.

    Good to see you here as a regular contributor.

    Bob Weisenberg
    http://YogaDemystified.com

  2. Cain Kamano says:

    Aloha Farnoosh,

    How is it that you can be more inspiring each time I read your written words? Your thoughts, energy, and ease of expressions transport me to a "Shakespearian" era, where the "Elizabethan" language dominates the age… yet YOUR speech does not include the "Thee's" and "Thine’s".

    Farnoosh, I have a confession: I never developed the appetite for Yoga… mainly for one reason; I’m relatively a “BIG GUY”. And by that I mean I am not as “limber” as I once was as a teen… I know, hard to believe right? :-) At any rate, I realized that I was looking at Yoga all wrong when I read this: “yoga was born for the sole purpose of opening the body to prepare it for MEDITATION”. WOW, I mean if someone told me that Yoga was invented to help me to focus… to MEDITATE better, instead of just stretching my muscles beyond limits I never really wanted them to go, I would have signed up years ago mainly because I am a HUGE (pun relatively intended. LOL!) FAN of MEDITIATION!

  3. Cain Kamano says:

    I can truly testify to the many wonderful benefits in which meditation has taken me to the depths of dreams, dreams which have been buried under piles of “negative self talk” and worldly pressures… but through a “Commitment to Stillness”, I am able to free my mind to a present state of where I want things to be… and not the way things currently are. With that said, I wholeheartedly agree with the expression that “hindsight is 20/20”… BUT, I also adhere to the fact that much of our future “can be” as well.

  4. Cain Kamano says:

    (Now I just realized that what I wrote can be a much heated, debatable topic in which I might be proclaiming to be a “fortune/future teller” but I want to make this clear… that that is not what I’m saying at all. I guess it’s more along the lines of the “Law of Attraction” and that through meditation and through a “focused clarity of thought”, we can bring about “our future”. Which, in the end Farnoosh, I believe that that’s what you were possibly saying all along when speaking about the “notion that I can heal myself from this pain, and meditation is at the center of this force.”)

  5. Cain Kamano says:

    In the end though, It amazes me on how I can read your words of wisdom written thousands of miles away… as well as others, and be able to put those words together as pieces to a puzzle which ultimately creates a beautiful mosaic of who it is that “I” desire to be in this world. And it is my prayer that my response given here, not only adds to the fulfillment of my own “puzzle”, but to someone else’s “puzzle” as well. Until your next post…

    Sincerely,
    Cain K.A. Kamano

    • Farnoosh says:

      Dear wonderful articulate and kind Cain,
      Wow! What a beautiful response. I almost think you can write it up as a story and share it with others! Thank you and if you know anything about bloggers, you'll know that we do not complain about getting multiple or long comments for that matter.
      I am delighted that you enjoy my words and my thoughts and very happy that I helped you find a reason to do yoga.
      There is a quote from Ashtanga's grandson (Grandson of the father of Ashtanga, Pathabhi Jois) in a yoga video. He said that "ANYONE can do yoga, the old, the very old, the young, the thin, the large, the small, the men, the women, the children, the ONLY person who cannot do yoga is the one indisposed to SLOTH (laziness)" so do yoga. And many happy meditation sessions to you!

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