Power of Speech: simple tips to improve your communication skills

Via on Mar 10, 2010

mayan-womenRelationships. Be it in love, in friendship, in politics. With c0-workers, with family, the relationship with yourself or for that matter our relationship with the divine, all relationships evolve directly from your present communication with yourself and others. Moment by moment ideally, but as it is, in our present society our communication usually resembles something like Babylon.

One of the activities that I engage on a regular basis is involved with linguistic work. Sometimes I find myself in a big room with at least 20 people (sometimes more) from all over the world. You name it: American, French, Italian, Russian, Israeli, Indian, Japanese, Chinese, Portuguese, English, Czechoslovakian, Polish, German, Spanish, Turkish, Swedish, Finnish, Argentinean, Vietnamese, Mexicans (like myself); all of these nationalities, and maybe I am forgetting a couple more, we all get together on a daily basis to work in this project or the other and one thing I can tell you with certainty is that the success in our communication is not as dependent on the language we speak as it is on HOW we choose to say the words.

Cultural differences may arise as trademarks of each nationality, for sure. Like when lunchtime arrives, you can  find the Indian giving their complete devotion to the homemade prepare exquisite Indian food, or you can see the Israelis sharing their lunches with each other or managing their time so they can eat together. You can find the Americans sitting at their desks, eating by the computer, usually a sandwich or fast food from the machine. Exceptions to the rule exists, yes, some Americans eat very healthy, some Indians eat by themselves, and some Mexicans mix with the Israelis because it feels like home in México, where we share the educational adage “to eat alone is unhealthy”. My point is: Yes, cultural peculiarities are easy to spot when you mix all those ethnicities in one place, but how do we accomplish to communicate effectively so the work at hand gets done? Well, it is easy, with CLARITY. Notice I said “how do we accomplish to commicate effectively”, sometimes we don’t accomplish it and sooner or later it becomes evident to all that the chaos is result of our misunderstanding of each other, which usually is a consequence of our miscommunication. and then it is obvious to all that the key element og good communication is clarity.

When clarity is not part of the communication, misunderstandings happen, and that is true even if you speak the same language and even if you are part of the same family, or if you live together, or if you are friends that love each other dearly. As sacred scriptures and spiritual practices emphasize ‘To say exactly what you mean is considered one of the three primary paths to enlightment’.

If you have been trying to communicate better with your spouse, with your husband, with your daughter, with your son, with your father, with your mother, with your boss, with your employee, with your co-worker, with the members of Congress, with your teacher, with your student, with your sisters and brothers, , with yourself…

1. Speak slowly

2.Enunciate clearly

3.Listen to yourself

4.Listen to others

5.Regard silence as a part of speech

6.Simplify

Some things are Universal, communication is.

Love,

yeyeombamadalai

About Yesica Pineda

My name is Yésica Pineda-Moreno, though some people call me Yeye. I was born and raised in Mexico City. My mom and dad are wonderful people who raised me to believe that loving-kindness, peace of body, mind and soul ~ real happiness ~ are the only worthwhile goals in life, the rest is just history. At the age of 20, I was chosen a Mexican Musical Talent (Valores Juveniles = American Idol) between thousands of young people in the country. Such opportunity gave me the chance to travel to The United States and meet incredible famous people from whom I've learned plenty about the hard work involved in the public life and the challenges it represents to our spiritual growth. I recorded my solo album with 10 time’s Grammy winner engineer Rafa Sardina rafasardina.com, and the talented songwriter Rafa Esparza-Ruiz. You can find it in any digital store by searching "Yeye Organic Pop". When I thought there was nothing else to be achieved, I found Yoga, or Yoga found me. In 2000, I started training with Bryan Kest and educated myself in his school of Power Yoga, which eventually led me to the practice of Vipassana meditation with teacher S.N.Goenka dhamma.org, training which I consider my foundation. For more information about my Yoga Practice visit yogichocolate.com My current music project is called Planetary Moods ~ Pop Sanskrit and the exploration of different frequencies resonance. You can hear my music on on myspace Listen at our website Planetary Moods.

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2 Responses to “Power of Speech: simple tips to improve your communication skills”

  1. Clarity is good, open heart a must.

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