My parents’ Buddhist teacher, Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche
advised his students to wish one another “Cheerful Birthday,”
instead of “Happy”
“Happy,” he said in his high Oxonian voice, “is a temporary state of being. It’s one side of the samsara coin.” (I’m paraphrasing). “Cheerful, on the other hand, we can understand to connote a fundamental way of being.”
And that’s how you are, KB, or how you seem to be. Fundamentally a.o.k. Fundamentally friends with yourself.
It’s a lot of work, but you’re there: here.
It’s why, of the hundreds upon thousands of amazing people I’m had the pleasure to meet and get to know, you stand out of the crowd (it’s certainly not because of your height).
You’re a warm, grounded, strong yet fun woman. I can’t wait to see what you do with your life.
It’s like watching a beautiful storm cloud, unfurl into dusk.
(You don’t want to miss a minute of it)
So Cheerful Birthday, Lady Budig. You are a lady—a queen-to-be—a gentle warrior whose ambition is tethered to being of benefit to us all.
Go get ’em.*
Sending you virtual cupcakes from elephant’s HQ in Boulder, Colorado:
*…and bring Ashi along with, of course.
hot on elephant
July’s Full Moon in Capricorn: The Heart wants what it Wants. The 4 Stages of a Good Divorce. How to Love a Woman who Scares You. Our Soulmates are Rarely Who We Expect. I Still Think of You. Men, Let’s Stop Fooling Ourselves: Size Matters. To the One Who Tried to Break Me. An Open Letter to the Fixers. How your Stored Memories in the Amygdala can lead to PTSD. How My Sister’s Death Transformed my Self-Perception.