Is Love Supposed to Be Automatic? ~ Rajni Tripathi

Via on Apr 26, 2011
Photo: Idea Ablaze

To the quintessential romantic — yes, love is automatic, to the skeptic, rational or experienced — no, love is definitely anything but.

People say that falling in love is like being high on drugs. Attraction, which brings two strangers together, and the progression of ‘falling in love’ are indeed chemical processes in which our lovely hormones and neurotransmitters (oxytocin, serotonin, dopamine, norepinephrine etc.), set forth our whimsical mind into fantasy and the lovely feelings of euphoria.

Photo: Denise Mayumi

Oh the infatuation and joy we experience during the initial phase of a new relationship. Simply delicious!

Then comes the transition; moving from being strangers to something more. It’s the stepping-stone and, albeit bona fide frog-jump that takes us from infatuation to actual love. You go from being drugged up on euphoria to taking care of that developed emotion as if it were a beloved plant. This requires patience and a plethora of other skills to keep it growing and healthy, which includes the tantamount task to avoid or limit that characteristic which is in our biological system: being selfish.

Photo: M. Markus

Selfishness is in our primordial make-up. Being selfish entails survival of the fittest. It’s something that, along with intuition, ensured that our ancestors continued the human race. Luckily, thousands of years of communities, generated societal conditioning, revolutions, and rounds of new ageism have allowed us to evolve the inherited trait of selfishness to a reasonable degree. That being said, it does rear its ugly head and sometimes, it has a nasty habit of going unrecognized. In such cases, beloved plants and relationships start to wither.

For all those experienced, and rational individuals out there, it is a recognized fact that love is all about sustaining. It’s certainly not automatic. We are not humanoids wherein we press a button in our brains and thus a switch is activated.

Love is about being vigilant towards your partner to the point where it becomes natural.

Love is about knowing that everything in the world is worth it and every sacrifice is minute in its face.

Yes, the range and depth of all emotions that are by-products of being in this state are immensely complex, and yet they don’t have to be. It doesn’t take much to love someone, if a person can allow that emotion to dictate and nothing else.

As Elizabeth Browning said,

Love doesn’t make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile.

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Rajni Tripathi is a scorpio-yogini and a bona fide Fur-a-holic (addicted to anything 4-legged and furry). Her soul calling and heart revolve around universal consciousness and humanity, not to mention her two cats. Through yoga, practiced patience, and inner solitude, she manages to keep her stinger on hold (at least 99% of the time) as she ventures on her life path with the belief that one’s own journey and discovery need not be dictated by another’s dogma or dreams. Any spare time the Universe provides, Rajni spends with her books, her mind, her music and her loved ones. If books are her haven, then music is her solace. She can be found frolicking through her mind and drowning out the noise at www.dancingrealm.wordpress.com and twitter @dancingrealm.

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3 Responses to “Is Love Supposed to Be Automatic? ~ Rajni Tripathi”

  1. Ankita says:

    :) yet another great article! such positivity in everything…wonder how u get it!

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