“Blue Sapphires and Red Bull” (Why I left Bangkok…) ~ Ben Ralston

Via on Sep 22, 2011
Princess Di sporting Blue Sapphire (don't think she bought it in Thailand)

Part II.

I’m sure Bangkok is a beautiful city. I’m sure there are lovely people there, and great things to do and see. I just didn’t do or see or meet any of them.

(Click here for Part I).

Instead I got on a train and headed North.

I stopped off in a town called Sukhothai. There’s a vast, ancient temple there.

I made friends with a young guy called Thum who worked in the place where I was staying. He was like a stallion. A lot of young Western girls passed through Sukhothai, and he felt obliged to sleep with all of them. He apparently had a strong sense of duty.

I hired a motorbike while I was there, and I’d drive around exploring temples and feeling free (I was 21 years old).

I noticed that all the trucks and lorries seemed to be in a hell of a hurry.

They would hurtle past me on my bike, missing my handlebars by – I swear – millimeters, the back of the truck shaking from side to side and huge clouds of dust kicking up in my face. I nearly died like this several times. Had I veered slightly to the right a moment before they passed I would have been finished…

When I mentioned this to Thum, he disappeared for a while and came back with a little brown medicinal-looking bottle. So I tasted ‘Red Bull’ for the first time (the taste was the same, but as for the ingredients, I don’t know…) back in 1994. Thum told me that it had amphetamines in it, and that the truck drivers all drank it to be able to drive longer and so make more money. I believed him. It gave an incredible energy kick.

(Year later, when I was a youth worker, I had a kid called Aaron in one of my programs. One night he had to be hospitalized after drinking 6 Red Bulls. He’d had a heart attack. He was 16 years old.)

Energy Drinks often look like this. Don’t drink 6 at a time…

There were two workmen hammering away on the roof of a small hut. I noticed that they’d hammer slowly and rhythmically for about 10 minutes, and then they’d climb down (slowly and rhythmically) and disappear inside for about 10 more minutes (before reappearing and staring their slow rhythm all over again). I mentioned my observation to Thum. He grinned his great big beautiful Thai smile, and led me into the very hut they were working on. There was a man-size bong the in the middle of the room, and Thum sparked it up for me. He told me to take a hit. I took one hit, and then I went to my room and lay down.

I began to hear the most beautiful symphonic dance music. It was drum’n bass, several years before drum ‘n bass had even been invented. I wondered where the music was coming from, and got up a few times to try and find it. But every time I stood up, the music stopped.

Before falling asleep I wondered whether this new ability would last… it didn’t. I’ve not spontaneously composed symphonic drum ‘n bass since, and it’s probably a Good Thing.

There was a cool girl from Canada called Tina staying there (longer than she’d planned, until she met Thum), and she introduced me to PJ Harvey. Tina and I also went on a motorbike ride to a nature reserve. We hired a bike and I drove all the way there with her hanging on to my back. It was incredibly hot and dusty, and by the time we got there we didn’t have much time to swim in the waterfall. I swam and she watched (as I remember), and after I came out she took a photo of me and said it would be good for my portfolio (I was an aspiring actor).

On the way back it was getting dark, and the air was full of insects. Every few seconds I’d get shot in the face by a flying beetle, and it seriously hurt. Tina hid behind my shoulders and was more or less ok. It was an epic journey. I was the hero; no one but Tina could ever understand…

The next day I decided to head off to Chiang Mai.

Tina and Thum took me to the bus station and we said our goodbyes. I was feeling ill. By the time I got to Chiang Mai I had a fever. I felt very, very, sick. I found a place to stay in the suburbs that was a vast walled garden with bungalows. I stayed in one of the bungalows. It had a shower / toilet room, and I spent two days squatting in there with my friends Projectile Vomit and Violent Diarrhea. When they’d had their fun with me they threw me on the bed, and I lay there for another couple of days hallucinating feverishly. I was so weak I could barely move, and I remember thinking that if I died no one would find me for a week.

When I got some strength back I hired another bike and drove into town.

I visited a temple. It was a cloudy day, and there was only one other person there – an old Thai man. When it started to rain I went into a doorway for shelter, and he joined me. It all seemed so natural…

We chatted, and he told me that he was a teacher. He had two hobbies: exploring the beautiful temples of South East Asia, and collecting stones. I didn’t know what kind of stones he meant exactly, but I wasn’t that interested either.

When the rain stopped, we started off on our separate ways. He turned to me and said:

Would you like to join me for lunch? I will eat traditional Thai food and see some beautiful traditional Thai dancing…”

I clearly hadn’t learnt my lesson from the first such invitation: I said ‘yes’.

I followed his car, and after a while he pulled over and told me that he had a ‘chore’ to do on the way – he was buying some ‘stones’, and he had to go to the ‘warehouse’. Would I mind waiting for him a few minutes?

We pulled up outside what looked like a very expensive jewelry store on the outskirts of town.. The window was full of beautiful golden necklaces set with glittering precious stones, and the door was guarded by what looked like a Thai policeman. Still no alarm bells in my naïve young mind…

My new Thai friend disappeared inside the ‘store’ and reappeared a moment later with a tall, beautiful Thai woman in a short-skirted suit. I was stood there straddling my motor-bike feeling young and free and lucky.

He asked me if I would like a tour of the shop and warehouse (where apparently they ‘cut the stones’) while I waited for him. The tour would be with the ‘manageress’ – the beautiful Thai woman.

She looked a lot like this (but with a suit on):

So I had a tour, and the two of us ended up in the ‘office’. She sat on the edge of the desk, one leg crossed over the other at the knee. She had long legs, and her shirt was unbuttoned enough to show some cleavage, and I was 21 years old. My usual shyness around women (especially women I was attracted to) somehow disappeared and I found myself flirting with her. She told me a long story about how Thailand is famous for it’s Sapphires. She also casually mentioned that the same Sapphires are worth 5 times as much in the West.

I started doing the math. But I wasn’t very good at it so I asked for a calculator…

Up until now, there had been no indication that this whole situation was anything other than a very fortunate co-incidence. I just happened to be looking around the same temple as a stone collector, who just happened to stand under the same doorway as me when it started raining. One thing led to another and now I just happened to be in the office of a famous Thai jewelry store falling in love with the most beautiful woman in the world, figuring out how I was going to become the wealthiest 21 year old in history.

It just happened to be my lucky day!

Then came the first ‘alarm bells’. The ‘Manageress’ asked me (ever so slightly impatiently) if I was going to buy some stones. Up until then, nothing had worried me about this situation.

I told her I’d think about it if she would let me take her out that evening.

Then came the second alarm bell. Her mouth said “yes” but her eyes were very “no”.

However, despite these two clear warnings, the voice of my intuition was being drowned out by the much stronger voice of my simple, willful greed. If I were a cartoon character I would have had dollar signs flashing in my eyes.

So I asked my future wife her name and she told me

Wâyt-sà-ya”,

and we arranged a time later that evening when I would meet her at the store for our ‘date’. Then I jumped on my bike and sped off to call my Mum and tell her the good news!

My Ma was not quick to share in my excitement. She suggested that I wait until I speak with my Father before doing anything foolish.

I decided to do some research. I visited another Jewelry store in the middle of town. It was in an old wooden building, and when I stepped inside a little bell rang. An old man came out of the back office. The moment I mentioned the name of the other Jewelry place (to this day I remember the name: ‘Doi Inthanon’) the old man froze. Then he looked out of the window, locked the door, and pulled me into the back office. His wife was there, and he quickly spoke to her in Thai. She gave me a harsh look:

You no go Doi Inthanon. Doi Inthanon bad people”.

That was the message. I don’t remember the details of what she said, but I do remember very clearly that when I suggested that I go to the police, she said:

Doi Inthanon police same same”.

That evening I turned up for my ‘date’. The ‘policeman’ was no longer there, but there was a young Thai guy, about the same age I was, looking fairly ‘bling’. When I arrived he hurried inside. Before I could follow him, he came back out.

Wâyt-sà-ya is getting ready, I take you for drink”.

A moment later we were in a bar, and I bought us two beers. Mr Bling sat opposite me resolutely refusing to look at me. His eyes darted and shifted over my shoulder and towards the doorway every few seconds, and he was shaking. He was sweating.

I told him I was going to the toilet, and I left the bar. I got on my bike and got the hell out of there. I was shaking a little myself. I drove back to my walled garden bungalow, and was looking over my shoulder the whole way back.

Later, I found out that Wâyt-sà-ya means ‘whore’ in Thai…

~

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About Ben Ralston

Ben Ralston almost joined the army when he was 18. When he was 32 he almost became a Swami. *** Now he is a healer, Reference Point Therapy teacher, and advanced Yoga instructor in the Sivananda tradition . His work as a healer acknowledges trauma as the underlying cause of almost all human problems, and resolves trauma at the causal level: gut-based survival instincts. The intention behind all his work is to empower others. *** Ben splits his time between his busy international practice, training therapists, and writing. As an experienced Yoga and Meditation teacher he also runs retreats, usually on the beautiful Croatian coast. *** Connect with Ben on Facebook. Read more of his writing on his new website with integrated blog! Yes, he's excited about that :)

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7 Responses to ““Blue Sapphires and Red Bull” (Why I left Bangkok…) ~ Ben Ralston”

  1. I enjoy both! I do think you have quashed any desire I had to visit Thailand, though…

    • Ben Ralston Ben_Ralston says:

      That's a real shame Kate. It's a beautiful country, with really beautiful people. I somehow managed to avoid much of that beauty and come face to face with the (minority) ugly stuff… but honestly, it's a wonderful place.
      Part 3 of this story is a bit more uplifting though (I think. I hope!). It's on my blog already, but don't tell anyone :)

      I'm glad you enjoy both. I really like writing this stuff, but it's not so popular. I'll just have to keep doing what I feel I guess…

  2. Sarah Beth says:

    I lived in Thailand for awhile in 2002. I spent much of my time as a dive master in the Gulf of Thailand on Ko Tao. I found the Tgai people to be amazing and beautiful. Most of my run-ins occurred with other Westerners traveling solo.

    I spent time in Bangkok (everywhere from Wat to Wat and in markets as well as some of the seedier areas). I wanted to leave no stone unturned ;-)

    In Bangkok I witnessed all types of Thai people digging into their own pockets and giving any coins they had to a homeless man on the street. EVERYONE who walked by this man gave him coins~ a group of teenagers, a mom and her baby, a business man~ it is truly amazing to be in a country that is 95% Buddhist.

    I ended my stay in Thailand (which literally means “free land”) by visiting the beautiful northern city of Chiang Mai. I wish I had spent more time within the old city walls! Incredible Sunday Market, beautiful parks and gardens, amazing food and people!

    A friend and I went on a trek to climb the tallest peak in Thailand, Doi Inthanon (interestingly enough) We stayed with our guide’s Karen family and ate wonderful meals and some very interesting meals as well (flying squirrel and barking deer to name a couple)

    Is Thailand worth traveling to? ABSOLUTELY!

    Will you see a darker side to cities like Bangkok and Chiang Mai? Most likely. But the same can be said for MANY cities across the US.

    I can honestly say that I never once felt unsafe while traveling through Thailand by myself. Follow your instincts, let your intuition be your guide ;-) and get out there and see the world! And remember “what you focus on expands”, I chose to focus on the beautiful Buddhist community, and the awe of living somewhere so completely different from anywhere I had ever been to.

    And I have no regrets.

    • Ben Ralston Ben_Ralston says:

      Thanks for a wonderful comment Sarah.
      I also found Thailand to be beautiful, and was totally stunned and amazed by the Buddhist oriented culture. In part 3 of this series I speak more about that, and how generous the people are. (you can find part 3 already here – http://benralston.blogspot.com/ … it's called "tread softly, and with joy", and old Thai saying, and is a lot more positive than the first two pieces!)
      I had no intention behind writing these pieces other than storytelling, and sharing a little of what i learnt. And you're absolutely right – what you focus on expands. Trouble is, when I was 21 I had no focus whatsoever, so i was just falling from one thing to another, with no purpose other than self discovery. So that's what I got!
      I would go back to Thailand in a flash (sure I will one day). Thanks again for sharing.
      Ben

  3. AEisenhauer says:

    For a moment I thought you were writing about the old Times Square NYC…:)
    Another group, "Friends of Thai Daughters" produced a short film about sex trade in Thailand and work to rescue several at risk, guiding youngsters through school and even into college. It IS depressing to begin to understand the practice as a cultural practice (rather than just a crime), which makes it MUCH harder to change…but getting the word out as you have done is precious to the effort. I agree with Sarah, beauty and darkness reside everywhere, this is the juxtaposition of life, Thailand has deeper pockets of both I have found, and addressing both in our hearts and minds, not avoiding any thought, absorbing it all, allows perspective on our own human capacities and capabilities, at home and abroad, eventually inspiring US to change or act on it. In Thailand, while respect is so high, particularly as you go north, Chiang Rai, Chiang Khong, Golden Triangle, so is complication in culture— things Americans would find need work, while many Thai just consider it their culture and live on. Thanks for sharing your experience Ben.

  4. Ben Ralston Ben_Ralston says:

    Thank you Nancy. That's a very helpful comment, and I guess you might be right. No arguing = no commenting. I hadn't thought of that!

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