What would it look like if we were honest on the 1st Date? Funny, Rude Video.
Sex on the First Date? Let’s get Honest. {NSFW}
A friend of mine, we’ll call him Michael Ramsey (that’s his name) has talked for years about having a dating contract, so people could be really clear and up front about their expectations, fears, desires, questions before dating. I think he created something.
Another friend, Ted Rose, has done something along those lines, but I don’t know much about it.
Honesty and dating, and never the twain shall meet.
It’s not that dating is dishonest, for most folks—but generally folks play games, shadows against the wall, until and if everything works out. And even then there are hidden expectations and surprises.
So let’s just get it all out there, shall we?
“I love J Date”:
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oh.
my.
god.
Too funny
Hilarious!
Brilliant. "Do you do anal?" HA!
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Wow. Just wow………… If she wants a trip or a necklace that bad, couldn't she just find a call girl agency to work for for a few weeks and not have to put in the time with this geeky guy? and even be nice to his parents??!!
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Oh man. Funny and kinda depressing!
gross. not funny.
Okay, so I think it's very funny. AND, the video (I hope) is purposefully pointing to the way "some" men and women think they ought to be bargaining with one another. Videos like this can help point out the absurdity of women being valued for offering sex and men being valued for offering material goods (which can feel crappy for both involved). I think that's an old and 1-dimensional way of relating that will evolve, and has already for many people.
To me, the misogyny and misandry here are being made fun of — as in, you have to be lame to do something like that.
sorry,not only is it sad and gross and not funny but its also a bad deal, he gets anal and wont go down and yet he wont have her take a shit? im calling misogyny .
a second that call!!
I think this is very clever.
It's not the specific details of the arrangement in the video, it's the intent behind it… that honest, open transparency in a way that both parties are aware of the intentions of each other and come to an agreement that serves them both.
What if we were all so transparent in our dating lives? Some people would literally be coming to this kind of agreement, and others different agreements all based on our own personal values and desires.