Candlelight graces a table on our houseboat in Kerala.
Tears well and fall down my cheeks at the taste of okra.
The cook comes in, “Ma’am are you alright? Was the food too spicy for you?” I smile and nod subtly sideways, the Indian way that says…no…yes…maybe.
“Her father died two years ago,” my friend tells him. The cook’s bright smile closes as he says, “I’m sorry.” He didn’t question why tears should be falling from something that happened long ago. In India, crying is normal.
Meanwhile, I sat there feeling the tears roll down my face fresh as rain, moisture on dry thirsty skin. In my mind, I was not at the table, but found myself clear as the early morning in a memory of being in the family garden with my father.
Peppers hot and ready for pickling; tomatoes heavy on the vine, pole beans falling from the trellis and the okra was sticking straight up, saluting to the sky.
I remember okra growing in my grandfather’s garden in the deep-Southern terra-cotta colored dirt of Clay County, Alabama. That orange earth, infused with minerals, never lacked for nutrients. And neither did we. The taste of corn, black-eyed peas and of course, okra, gave a lasting flavor in the mouth of something you yearned for more of. Long stems grew tall with subtle yellow flowers in springtime, before warm, sensual summer nights encouraged the nub of okra to swell almost overnight.
As my grandfather hoed around the plants one morning, he heard a squeak. He had come upon a bed of baby rabbits. He brought them to me with the eyes of surprise. I fed them a baby bottle. They didn’t make it.
Cutting okra was slimy. Putting it in a paper bag with cornmeal and shaking it was the way to take care of that. Dropping it in hot corn oil and watching it turn golden is a visual memory that sticks, a fried delight that can’t be beat. With a sprinkle of salt, it gives a crunch of southern satisfaction.
Fried okra is a staple in the south, along with black-eyed peas and cornbread. Not everyone’s friend, okra becomes triple unxious, seedy and slithery not unlike cooked snake, but less chewy, when boiled. I have eaten snake before (rattlesnake) that had been caught and killed in the hills of Tennessee and skinned for it’s skin.
I tried it. I can assure you it tastes like chicken, not boiled okra. I’m not saying that okra tastes anything like snake, just that if you wanted to make an obsequious Halloween dish, blindfolded, boiled okra would do it.
Those days are gone, along with grandfather and my father. In the familiar heat of Kerala, on a houseboat, I had a conversation with my childhood and a loving memory through the association of a vegetable. Visions come not only with psychedelics, but taste memory in bright living color.
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