In my previous articles, I gave you steps to stalk your fear, and some tools to use in frightening situations.
Let’s look now at some common scenarios that are very scary. We all need to learn to handle everyday fearful situations, such as walking alone in a dark parking lot, or having a near-miss car accident.
Living your life in constant vigilance is incredibly tiring as ongoing fear drives you into exhaustion.
Dealing with our fear frees up that energy and ends our adrenal overload. Part of the exhaustion is also due to lousy coping habits—people try to zone out with TV or “out-eat” anxiety, which just makes it worse. Learn some new skills to down-regulate your nervous and endocrine systems, then the body can move out of fear and truly, deeply rest.
For example, imagine you are on the road and a car swerves in front of you. You almost get in an accident and can feel the surge of adrenaline wash through you, speeding up your heart rate and flooding your body with a chemical rush. As you continue down the road, you are on high alert. You watch everything that moves with complete attention. Even once you get where you are going, you are on overdrive, startling easily and slightly shaky.
The event may replay in your head over and over, adding to your distress. So you sit or lie down for a while to calm yourself, maybe adding a sweet snack or a stiff drink for good measure. The rest of the day, you feel edgy and off-balance, unconsciously dreading and expecting the next threat.
I want to educate you about a stress condition I call “adrenaline poisoning.”
If I don’t move and dissipate the adrenaline after a fright, it feels like food poisoning. The overload of adrenaline hurts my muscles and joints. It’s like having a bad headache in my whole body.
Part of our age-old response that goes with freezing, fleeing and fighting is that adrenaline courses through us as a safety mechanism to give us the energy to save our own life. This is hardwired into us. When we live in constant fear without being able to take physical action, the adrenal glands become terribly stressed. We end up nervy, shaky, sick and anxious. It is a self-perpetuating cycle. Our constant vigilance results in an excess of adrenaline moving through us all the time and we struggle on in a startled, frightened state. Stalking your fear, instead of being stalked by it, helps end this cycle and changes your chemistry.
Returning to the car scenario, let me teach you some new and improved coping skills.
As the car in front of you swerves, first start breathing deeply. Make a warrior’s choice: intentionally use deep breathing to immediately begin to regulate your heartbeat, clear the panic, oxygenate your blood and change both your brain’s response and chemistry.
When you get home, or wherever you are going that is a safe place, walk off your startle. Even if that means walking the halls or circling, walk somewhere safe, move your arms vigorously and breathe deeply.
This is also a perfect time to practice some simple sun salutation exercises. Move and breathe to process the adrenaline through your system. After that, taking a bath, or a shower helps complete the down-regulating process, making you refreshed rather than exhausted. Take action and avoid ending up with that nasty “adrenaline poisoning” hung-over feeling.
Be sure to take action soon after the event, whatever it was. Resist the urge to eat, watch TV or drink—none of which is an effective response. Move and breathe, and understand that what you are feeling is just the body’s survival response. Feeling fear doesn’t make you weak or a victim. Fear is just the body’s response to a life-threatening situation. Moving and deep breathing disperses the chemical reaction of fear.
If you keep revisiting the frightening event in your head, you continue to re-panic yourself. Choose to deliberately move the adrenaline and the fear out. Be clear on making the choice not to keep yourself in a scared state even if you are addicted to the fear.
An added bonus is that anyone who happens to live with you will vastly appreciate you learning to regulate this energy. The situation will be so much better than being snapped at by you when you are in a fear overload state, especially if it is habitual. It’s difficult to be around someone who is terrified a lot. (When you snap at the people close to you, it perpetuates being ashamed of your own behavior, which is closely tied into the fear syndrome.)
In my next article, I will address another common fear—having to walk alone into a dark parking lot to get your car.
I will tell you about one of my own experiences being attacked. Plus, I offer you some very useful tools to survive and emerge victorious from scary situations. Learn to shift from being a victim into a warrior!
Ana Forrest has been changing people’s lives for nearly 40 years. An internationally recognized pioneer in yoga and emotional healing, Ana created Forrest Yoga while working through her own healing from her life’s trauma and experience. With thousands of licensed practitioners around the world, Forrest Yoga is renowned as an intensely physical, internally focused practice that emphasizes how to carry a transformative experience off the mat and into daily life. She tours and leads teacher trainings internationally year-round. In 2012, WIND HORSE, the first-ever Forrest Yoga conference featuring Ana and the Guardian Teachers of Forrest Yoga, will be held 17-20 Aug in the Rocky Mountains, Colorado. Find details of Ana’s work, WIND HORSE, and a Forrest Yoga teacher near you at www.forrestyoga.com.
Editor: Thaddeus Haas
Like elephant yoga on Facebook.
hot on elephant
Boomers vs. Millennials: Will We stay the Course or Change It? Instead of Sabotaging another Relationship, here’s how to Run into your Fear. Join: Elephant’s Fall 2016 Academy. What every Empath must Know before they Date. What we’re Actually Searching for when we Run Away. How I Used my Body Weight to Protect Me. 5 Tips for Getting Out of Bed When we Just Want to Go Back to Sleep.