10 Ways to Say I Love You. ~ David G. Arenson N.D.

Via on Aug 7, 2012
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Love is a currency overflowing with romantic hyperbole and Hollywood luster.

Love is the subject of countless tales of the imagination and fantasy. In relationships, love develops as a bond between people. When does it overstep the mark of feeling (love) and doing (love) and become something more nefarious?

At what point does “I love you” become “I own you?”

We can only see the qualities in others that exist within us.

If we agree that everything is reflected like a mirror, then we can only love ourselves, and through loving ourselves love the experience of others. How much love you feel for another says everything about the love you are able to give to yourself.

Others are merely yourself reflected.

This all boils down to one immeasurable fact—the relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship you have.

Photo: Jeff Kubina

Questions to ask:

1. Are you comfortable being alone with yourself?

2. Do you love being “you”?

3. Do you love receiving all of Heaven’s gifts?

4. Do you feel deserving of love?

5. Do you place a cap on the amount of love you receive?

Through a variety of influences from society, media and family, we engage with others using the love languages we have developed.

These love languages etched in symbology are rich in meaning about how we think about ourselves. For instance a nagging appeal to love “you know I love you,” feels empty because it lacks the substance of a substantial relationship with God /Source.

How do you use the term “I love you?”

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Below are 10 love languages:

1. I love you = I love your money.

2. I love you = I love how you make me feel.

3. I love you = I love having sex with you.

4. I love you = I love how you make me forget everything (escape).

5. I love you = I love having power over you (because it makes me feel more powerful).

6. I love you = I love controlling you (The more I can control you, the more in control I will feel.)

7. I love you = I love your good looks/ your great body because you make me look good.

8. I love you = I love the feeling of safety I get with you.

9. I love you = I love dominating you.

10. I love you = I need you (I feel weak without you/ What would I do if you were gone?)

Authentic love is wholesome and is a creation from God / Source embedded in our love of ourselves.

Most of our troubles are sourced in our disconnection from Source energy, and the inherent fragmentation from ourselves that results. Love as an essence is pure and without need.

Love is whole and complete.

In order to experience these feelings of pure love, of being in love (our cells dancing in blissful contentment), we must first love who we are. I call this basking in our magnificence. We can then bring these authentic feelings into relationship with another. Sharing this love actually magnifies it.

How would your life look if you were truly in love with yourself?

Photo: Koinos Zoi Photography

 

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Editor: Elysha Anderson

 

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About David G Arenson ND

David is a Transformational Healer, Naturopath and Soul-Coach who integrates spiritual journeying into grounded wisdom for everyday living, presenting powerful concepts in personal change and living on purpose. He is now available for consulting or soul-coaching sessions via skype. The founder of Metamorphosis Retreat (Web: http://mretreat.com), he creates personalised packages for corporates and individuals seeking wellness solutions and adventure travel for the soul. His vision is to create journey retreats to guide people to places of mystery and power to rediscover, balance and ground themselves. David has studied for over 10 years with some of the leaders of human transformation including Grand Master Mantak Chia (Thailand) and Master Chen (China). He has worked as Naturopath, Wellness Expert and Healer at the best luxury resort as well as number one destination spa in the world. His spiritual education in mindfulness, prayer and wisdom has included immersion into Qi Gong (China), Buddhism (Thailand & Australia), Taoism (Thailand and China), Tantra, Qabbalah including 3 years spent studying in Jerusalem. For more information, he can be found at: Retreat Company , Website , Email , Facebook and Twitter.

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5 Responses to “10 Ways to Say I Love You. ~ David G. Arenson N.D.”

  1. Enjoyed this, David. Thanks for being here.

    Bob W. Associate Publisher
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