You can’t…they have to see for themselves.
They can see with their eyes and hear with their ears, but if the heart is not open they will never understand what you are saying.
It means a great deal to me to be honest to others and myself. Honesty isn’t an easy thing to come by because we have so many tricks up our sleeve to make us feel differently, mainly our thinking mind.
Many folks rely on the mind for all of their answers—if the heart is not open, those answers and responses will be lies to ourselves. Ego usually creates the responses in our mind and is truly threatened by the heart and its openness.
We all have a story with a personal history, much of it good and much of it bad. Those personal histories are like veils that cover what we can actually see and hear, especially if the truth is being spoken to us. If you have not worked out that personal history, you will never see or hear the truth.
For example, if you come from a childhood that is full of pain and anguish, say your mom or dad abandoned you or your mom or dad died when you were young, you are left with is this empty hole that you keep trying to fill up. The last thing you want to do is sit with the feelings of being abandoned or the grief of losing your mom and dad at an early age.
If these situations are not reconciled within you, you may see certain men and women that remind you of your parents as a threat or you might be quick to place blame—forget about seeing or hearing the truth from any of these people that remind you of your parents.
I had a client who wrongfully accused me of taking advantage of him. I showed the client in black and white with clear cut documents of how he was wrong—that it was the other way around. What he was actually accusing me of, he was actually inflicting on me.
No amount of wisdom would make this person see or hear me.
It was impossible because of all of the unresolved issues in his own life, which covered up the truth that was being spoken to him. His ego was pushing him onward on an endless journey of creating pain for himself and others—probably creating the same pattern of action over and over again.
And that’s another thing: If the same situation and pattern keeps happening in your life over and over and over again, bringing you bad results, does it make you wonder if you are that blind man or woman?
Sherri Rosen is now living in Harlem, New York. She has had her own publicity business for 12 years, giving a powerful voice to people who are doing good things in the world. She writes her own blog at SherriRosen.com.
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