Straight White Man Explains Human Sexuality in 2 Minutes {Video}. ~ Renée Picard

Via on Aug 4, 2013

The Gender Complex

“Sex does not determine the pronoun you should use: gender does.” ~ Hank

Labels and descriptions about sexuality and gender are confusing, because human sexuality is both complex and fluid. As Hank explains, there are “no nice, shiny boxes.”

What is meant by the term “gender spectrum”? What is the difference between sexual and romantic orientation?

I’ve shared a really informative video about this below, but Hank talks really fast, so here’s the Coles’ notes version:

  • Biological sex = body parts (*remember that this is not always binary)

  • Gender identity = brain (what you feel like you identify with)

  • Sexual orientation = who our heart is attracted to (remember that this can shift and change over time)

  • Romantic orientation = who we prefer to have intimate (but not necessarily sexual) relationships with

  • Sexual behavior = not necessarily linked to orientation


To understand more LGBTQ terminology, check out the U.C. Davis LGBTQIA Resource Center Glossary.

Please remember, these are just loose descriptions, not hard and fast labels. People change, things change. Love is love.

No one has the right to make any assumptions about someone based on any of these characteristics.

Thanks for being so awesome, Hank.


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Assistant Ed: Renee Picard / Ed: Cat Beekmans

About Renée Picard

Renée Picard is an editor and columnist at elephant journal. A grounded creative, her words often spill out via coffee shop thought streams. She prefers real conversation over small talk, red over pink, ocean over mountains. She leads life with a soft-but-fierce heart. For this story doula, a core mission is offering and holding safe spaces for others to creatively express themselves. She hopes that her writing facilitates real action in the big (and little) picture: social justice, the environment, music and art, relationships, body image, LGBTQ issues---the list is endless. A key to mindful action is keeping conversations erupting and evolving. For her, writing is an instinct, craft, a heart-thing. For more heart-writing, check out her elephant journal author page, connect with her on Facebook, at her blog and at Medium. For quickie updates and cool photos, follow her at Twitter and Instagram.  


2 Responses to “Straight White Man Explains Human Sexuality in 2 Minutes {Video}. ~ Renée Picard”

  1. Debbie says:

    This is good! Can you do something similar about religion, please?

  2. Alec says:

    more please!

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