Why I Give a Damn About #yesallwomen. {Adult Content}

Via on Jun 11, 2014

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“The women’s movement has really just begun. In this wave, I would say—you know—from what we can see from history, movements do seem to have to last about a century before they really fully absorb by a culture, or many cultures, and we are maybe 40 years into this one, so I think for all the great social justice movements, which are all connected, of course anyway. We probably have quite a ways to go, and we might need other waves in the future, before finally people are regarded as unique individuals, rather than groups.”

~ Gloria Steinem

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What is #YesAllWomen?

An outcry from the women of our world.

An outcry of repressed, unheard and denied voices speaking up about assault, rape, nonconsensual sex, harassment, sexual objectification, inequality, sexism and misogyny.

A much needed women’s movement on our planet.

“Me toos” have taken over, as the cry of anger gets stronger and louder. I can feel it vibrating from my screen, and pulsing in my veins as I scroll through the words of thousands of women and men adding their voices to the fight.

Women all over the world are empowering one another to stand in the light and take a stand after Elliot Rodger’s “War on Women” that killed six people and wounded 13 on May 23, 2014.

Elliot Rodger, a 22-year-old man living in Isla Vista, California resented the women who turned him down in the past, “starved him of sex” and “kept him a virgin,” and the “men who they chose to sleep with instead of him.”

He spoke freely of his hatred for women between his disturbing 22 YouTube videos and 141 page misogynistic manifesto. He uploaded a video onto YouTube the night before his attack titled, “Elliot Rodger’s Retribution,” where he spoke of attacking the very girls who represented everything he hated in the female gender—the hottest sorority of UCSB.

He believed that, “Women should not have the right to choose who to mate with. That choice should be made for them by civilized men of intelligence.”

He also proposed concentration camps for women, with only a select few allowed to survive for reproduction.

On the night of May 23, after emailing his 107,000 word manifesto, “My Twisted World: The Story of Elliot Rodger,” and killing three men in his apartment, Rodger drove to the Alpha Phi Sorority house and opened fire on women and men.

On May 24, the Twitter hashtag #YesAllWomen was created as an outlet for women to share their experiences surrounding sexism and misogyny. The hashtag spread like wildfire through the social media world, reaching 1.5 million tweets and 1.2 billion impressions, and peaking at 61,500 tweets per hour on May 25.

In my first five minutes of research online I came across a tweet that read:

 

Jenna Glatzer (@GhostwriterJG) May 31, 2014:

#yesallwomen because a man on the train stood behind me and began pressing himself into me and everyone pretended not to see.

 

I clicked “expand” on the post and read comments from several men. As I read, a slow, hoarse, momma-grizz growl escaped my lips for the women of this earth.

Mick hucknell ‏(@MHucknell) May 31:

@GhostwriterJG You are aware that trains have seats so these things can’t happen right?

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Andy ‏@AndyMiIIigan May 31:

@GhostwriterJG Hahahahahaha.

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Matthew Adams ‏@BeefcakeAvatar May 31:

@GhostwriterJG It wasn’t my fault, it was a bumpy ride.

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Fatoush Hakbarah ‏@hakbarah May 31:

@GhostwriterJG u look like a man

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Señor Suerte ‏@NotTheBot Jun 1:

@GhostwriterJG I would have watched the whole thing and probably touched myself later.

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I am a woman.

I don’t identify as being a feminist.

I do identify as being an activist, and an advocate for human rights.

I have walked down a public street in broad day light with a friend of mine in a dress and had a man grab her crotch.

I have crowd surfed and had men touch my breasts and legs.

I do get my keys out of my purse and ready when I must walk to my car in the dark. I walk quickly, and I look behind me.

I once had a male friend, who I trusted, grab my boob and laugh when I angrily reacted in a public place, and none of the men surrounding spoke up for me.

I have had men in Indonesia surround me, leering, photographing and video taping me, despite my verbal objections and physical attempts to lose them on a ferry. I have had those very same men physically grab me and try and put me in a “taxi” that was a van.

I wear long pants and sleeves while leaving an airport so as to not call attention to myself, my body and the fact that I travel alone as a woman.

I have gone through phases of my life where my closet is full of men’s clothing and I have denied my divine femininity, because I wished to dodge unwanted sexual objectification of my body.

I once had a man follow me walking on a beach in Greece, jacking off in broad daylight as he watched me. When I went looking for support, I was met by three groups of people—male and female—who after hearing me explain furiously, my cheeks wet from tears, shrugged, laughed and told me, “so?”

I get more male attention for my legs than I do for my brilliant brain and red, beating heart.

I’ve had a general manager of a Joey Tomatoes in Sherwood Park tell me I needed to put some energy into my “work ethic and performance.” When I asked him how I could improve, he replied that I “needed to start wearing high heels, straightening my hair and wearing make up to work.”

I know a woman who has been forced against her will, abusively, to have non-consensual sex and told me from behind a bruised face the next day that “she asked for it.”

I was given bear mace as a gift when traveling to Thailand for the first time.

Many members of the opposite sex, including employers, have told me that my “sensitivity” is a problem. When men call other men “girls,” it is a synonym for being weak. I see my sensitivity and open heartedness as my greatest strength, and others inability to live from this place or respect it their biggest weakness.

All the women in my class were uncomfortable with the teacher of my junior high, known as “Mr. Touching,” who requested that no women wear jackets in his class, as a class rule and policy.

I took my first stand against sexism when I refused his “no jacket policy” and wound up in detention.

I want to pick up  hitchhikers every time I see a thumb on the side of the highway, but if it is a man—I don’t stop.

“I need feminism because my vagina shouldn’t give me special treatment or shitty treatment, it should only give me ORGASMS.” ~ Shannon Roberts.

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From women on #yesallwomen:

Mayhem (@DavySunshine) May 27,2014:

Because what men fear most about going to prison is what women fear most about walking down the sidewalk #YesAllWomen

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Sophia Bush (@SophiaBush) May 25, 2014:

#yesallwomen because “I have a boyfriend” is more likely to get a guy to back off than “no”, because they respect other men more than women

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Deb Whitman (@DebAARP) May 29, 2014:

“Each time a woman stands up for herself, without knowing it…without claiming it, she stands up for all women.” Maya Angelou #yesallwomen

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 Natalie (@NatalieLeGreve) June 5, 2014:

“The reason a fetus has more rights than a woman in America is because a fetus still has the chance of being a man” #YesAllWomen

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Lili Stenn (@lphaedraa) June 5, 2014:

#YesAllWomen because when we put up posters in school to raise awareness about rape culture, they got taken down by the administration.

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 Janne Robinson (@EudaimoniaJanne) June 10, 2014:

“We don’t want a pretty girl. We want a writer. Go home. ” @GloriaSteinem #yesallwomen

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From men on #yesallwoman: 

Chris Speed (@TheDeadlyAngel) June 1st, 2014:

#YesAllWomen Rape should be legalized so when the rape happens it won’t be seen as a bad thing, it will save so many lives.

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Chris Speed (@TheDeadlyAngel) June 1st, 2014:

#yesallwomen if you wear a short dress then you deserve to get raped, just my opinion

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SLUT WHISPERER (@KirillWasHere) June 3, 2014:

#yesallwomen play hard to get and then cry sexual harassment when we play along

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Josh Groban (@Joshgroban) June 3, 2014:

Because we all know someone who has been made to feel like it wasn’t assault when it was #yesallwomen

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Danforth France (@danforthfrance) June 3, 2014:

Post a #yesallwomen post about my mom, get @-reply “jokes” from dudes. You’re making the ladies’ point, you dickbaskets.

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Albert W Dubreuil (@awdubreuil) May 24, 2014:

Started reading the #yesallwomen tweets b/c I’ve got a daugter[sic], but now I see I should be reading them b/c I’ve got two sons.

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Activism is my way of holding the world accountable for its wrong and hate. As an activist I hear the millions of voices who have spoken out through #yesallwomen and feel a burning fire inside my bones.

Do I think there is value in #yesallwomen? Yes.

Is it all feminist “male shaming?” No.

“The first resistance to social change is to say it’s not necessary.” ~ Gloria Steinem

This week SC Johnson Companies billionaire heir, Samuel Curtis Johnson III, confessed to repeatedly sexually assaulting his teenage stepdaughter and has received a prison sentence of a measly four months and a whooping fine of $6,000, because the judge ruled that he is a “productive” member of society.

Does Elliot Rodger ring any déjà vu bells, maybe the Montreal Massacre? Where in 1989, 25-year-old Marc Lépine separated men and women in a classroom of École Polytechnique and opened fire, shooting all nine women and killing six. He then proceeded to walk the halls targeting women in what he claimed to be a “fight against feminism.”

The attitude of the police in many countries often discourages victims from reporting rape: one study in Turkey found that 33 percent of police officers agreed with the assertion that “some women deserve rape” and 66 percent agreed that “the physical appearance and behaviors of women tempt men to rape.”

74 percent of women in Mali said that a husband is justified in beating his wife if she refuses to have sex with him.

Did you read in the newspaper article about the two girls who were raped, killed and hung from a tree in India last month?

Every 22 minutes in India a woman is raped. 98 percent of the rapes are committed by men. Many happen when young women and children go to the fields behind their house to pee, as there are no toilets in their homes.

“By the time the average woman reaches 60 years old she will have made $450,000 less than a man in the same exact position.” ~ Laci Green

At the end of the day, our world may have progressed, but by no means is the women’s fight for equality and basic human rights over.

I want women to have worth.

I want to exist in a world full of empowered human beings—that includes both genders. I want to exist in a world where when women speak up about rape and assault, men don’t reply defensively with, “Not all men are.”

For we know that you are not all rapists, that all of you do not grab crotches in broad daylight, make sexist jokes and pop rufies in girls’ drinks. I know that when the majority of you hear the word “No,” you understand what it means, and back off.

I also am by no means saying women are the only victims of rape and sexual assault. Many women are predators and attackers in our world, and many men fall victim to rape by the hand of other men as well.

A 1997 report by the U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics showed that 99 percent of rapists are male. However, when prison rapes are included in the statistics it has been reported that, according to the U.S. Department of Justice, “more men are raped in the U.S. than women… In 2008, it was estimated 216,000 inmates were sexually assaulted while serving time…compared to 90,479 rape cases outside of prison.”

So, this next part is important.

Although most women stubbornly want to claim independence and solve sexism, and misogyny on their own—it is not just women who hold the keys to a solution.

In order to create a space for women to exist safely, and equally—we will need men.

Saying that we “need men” in this fight does not take away my power as a female for I know that the only way to instigate a change is for us collectively to work together, that means both genders. We need to humanize our roles, throw away stereotypes, stop painting our babies cribs blue and pink.

So men, instead of wasting energy asking, “What about all the good I do?” and personalizing feminism as an attack against all men, acknowledge that in order to radically shift our world, we need you to stand with us.

We need men to stand right beside us in this world, we all need to ride on the equality bus together.

Stand up. And for those of you already standing—I see you. Thank you.

We need you. We need you to call the other men out when we can’t see you—at “guys night” where testosterone is running wild.

We need you to hold each other accountable for degrading behavior. We need allies who not only stand with us when we can see them, but more importantly in the moments we cannot.

We need allies who will help build a world where women don’t need to be afraid of abuse and rape.

We need men like singer Aaron Lewis, who stopped singing halfway through a song at Rockfest when he saw a group of men groping a 15-year-old-girl who was crowd surfing.

And women—we need to let them help us.

At a topless protest march that took place in Vancouver in August, 2013, where women “bore their breasts in the name of gender equality” to support Gwen Jacob (who was arrested and charged for “indecency” for walking topless under the Canadian Criminal Code in 1991), men were requested not to march topless. A close friend of mine told me over dinner that he wanted to go march to support the cause, but was faced with resistance from women to do so.

“The future depends entirely on what each of us does every day; a movement is only people moving.” ~ Gloria Steinem

And to those of you refusing to move with us, before you shrug off #yesallwomen as a bunch of hairy armpit man eating dykes and over reacting feminists, I’d like to ask you if you have a daughter. Or if you plan on having a child someday? Is there a chance she will be born a female?

One in four females is sexually assaulted in North America.

One in four.

Give a damn for her.

If you have a son, remind him constantly of how important the divine feminine is in our lives. Whisper to him each night to walk with tenderness, sweetness and ferocious might for the ones who exist beside him, regardless of gender. Implement strongly the worth, value and importance of females into his belief systems.

“We’ve begun to raise daughters more like sons…but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters.” ~ Gloria Steinem

And women of the world, I ask one more thing of you: speak. Speak as if your lungs require you to do so, each moment of your life. That is a vital first step in a solution. If you are sexually abused, assaulted, date raped, a victim in non consensual sex or rape—speak. Ninety-four percent of sexual assault in Canada is not reported. If you don’t report it, there will be another woman down the line in your shoes. It is our accountability to look out for each other—however uncomfortable, confrontational and challenging the process may be.

It starts now. It starts with you.

It starts with being accountable for one another—hearing these voices and cries drowning social media and reacting with compassion.

To any women who added their voices to the #yesallwomen movement—I give a damn about you. Thank you.

I will continue to use my literary teeth to tear more space in this world for you to speak freely and openly about your experiences. I am listening, and I want to hear more.

Your voices pave the way to a world I want to live in, a world I want my children to live in.

 

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About Janne Robinson

Janne Robinson is currently residing on the Sunshine Coast, BC learning to cut kindling with her teeth and make friends with the black bears in the woods. You can find her coordinating fundraisers for Veterinarians Without Borders, stretching her soul in yoga, skinny dipping with glee in the moonlight and getting dirty in her garden. She loves Billie Holiday, the smell of freshly cut cedar and whiskys that sway their hips when they walk and know what they are doing. You can connect with her on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook. Please also visit and connect with her Facebook writer's page.

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192 Responses to “Why I Give a Damn About #yesallwomen. {Adult Content}”

  1. Concerned Male says:

    Oh my goodness. What garbage. Your initial premise is that "men need to be taught to show more respect" before "women need to taught what to wear"….

    First of all, men are taught by parents to not even hit women…forget rape. In addition, a majority of sex offenses are committed by a small population of men…there is no one online promoting "#rapeculture". It just so happens that certain men in society have this problem where they do not know how to take no for an answer…how the hell are parents supposed to know that their sons are doing this…because their sons are really going to show their parents what's happening. What we really need is for sexual education classes in public and private schools to talk about how real of an issue rape/respect for women is…because YES, it's definitely an real and large issue. What we don't need is an empowerment for women to be wearing shorter shorts and tighter dresses. Men are designed to find those things attractive. Also, the girls definitely KNOW what they're doing with clothing. I recently served as a graduate assistant at my former high school. Girls would ask to go to the bathroom first hours and change to more tight fitting clothing. Damn it, they want the attention and they're being part of the problem deliberately. A component of it is the media pressuring girls, but for the most part, girls are doing this for attention. Therefore, you can't we JUST need to teach boys about respect…because frankly we ARE but I agree it could go farther. We also need society to teach women a little more about DIGNITY. Women are generally pretty loose sexually with the guys they want to be with…and suddenly when they get raped by a predator, feminists outcry. A COMPONENT of the problem lies on the shoulders of women… All I'm saying is that this needs to be a team effort and that parents of boys are ALREADY pulling some of the weight. Whenever I go to a friend's house, I'm always told that if the guy has a sister, that I ought to treat her with respect and to not look at her in an inappropriate manner. This notion that men are being encouraged to rape or that they're not being taught to treat women with respect is complete bull****

  2. Person says:

    So one Isolated Incident means that all woman are objectified and men are misogynists?…That's the problem with not just feminists but many groups, it seems like feminist today are plagued by confirmation bias. I don't think it's the culture itself that sees woman in an objectified way but individuals. Me, for instance, have absolutely no problem with females, I completely respect them and see them as equals, and I believe many if not most do, I think it is a minority that thinks the opposite and that is why I think feminism is a bit stupid.

  3. brittany says:

    non consensual sex does not exist. there are two types of sex; consensual sex and rape. thats it. we need to obliterate the term "non sensensual" because it tells people there are three different types of sex, and it diminishes the impact of the word "rape". :)

  4. Trueheart says:

    Several years ago I had the opportunity to attend an event at which Gloria Steinem was the featured speaker. With every word she spoke I was struck by how clearly she was a "humanist". She gave one of the most well reasoned and thoughtful speeches I have heard. She focused on a true equality and acknowledged the difficult and painful issues that men face in our society. At no time did she bash or shame anyone. Her talk was a beautiful blend of passion and compassion.
    I am 58 years old and I have always understood that if you are a "humanist", you are by extension a "feminist".

  5. Trueheart says:

    I would encourage the writer, while she "uses her literary teeth " to explore and expose the use of rape as a weapon of war. This is an under reported and devastating practice and has been used throughout history. This includes our own military history. I have known male soldiers from 3 wars in which the United States military was engaged who are scarred and sickened by the gang rape and torture of women they were made to witness or partake in. Rape is an act that de-humanizes everyone involved.

  6. Trueheart says:

    Janne, Just a few facts and observations-Hairy armpits are a global norm and not the purview of the lesbian.
    I have never seen (or even heard of ) a dyke eating a man.
    And I have certainly never seen a feminist overreact.

    Do you really want to use your page to perpetuate stereotype and bias? Just asking.

  7. Wesley says:

    This is a great article. Thanks for writing it. I agree that men have a proactive role to play in the fight for true gender equality. I love that my wife is a strong professional woman, and I fully support women as friends, colleagues, lovers, and equals. It’s past time that men keep quiet. Our daughters deserve a future as bright as our sons.

  8. S.R. says:

    This was powerful for me to read, I thank you for this article. And I feel now, I can finally share my story in a safe place.

    After I had just turned 16, I went to a grad party being the youngest there. I was given shot after shot, until I eventually became so intoxicated that I barely remember anything from the night. Not only was I given them, but I accepted them. It was my doing as well. I had older friends whom I considered brothers there, but none looked out for my well being. I didn't know or recognize my limits, and neither did anyone else.

    I woke up the next morning, laying next to a 21 year old man, to find out from a group of laughing "friends" that I had lost my virginity, and that some even looked in and watched it happen. They mocked me and said during it I was yelling that it hurt, and still they stood by. I even had a few girlfriends there, who, because they didn't want to be judged by the other guys at the party, stayed back, they didn't want to "cock block" a buddy. What about saving a friend from something she couldn't control in that moment. If I were outside that tent, and heard a friend of mine going through that, I would barge in and drag her ass out of it.

    After the incident, I was looked at as a slut, as an easy target for the rest of the guys to hit on, or try to hook up with at future parties. I was broken, and began to see myself as my male counterparts saw me, as a sex object. The guy who took my virginity? He was "lucky" because that night he got it in, he was satisfied, and that was all that mattered in the situation, and my problem, my hurt, was overlooked because my pain became his gain.

    I am now a 22 year old working woman, who is trying to let go of her past and move forward in a successful life. But every time I see those people from high school, they only remember that moment at grad. And they don't see me for who I am now, and how I have gone above and beyond previous expectations from others.

    #yesallwomen is my voice. It is our voice. It is for all young and older women who have been silenced by guilt and shame. It is for safety for ourselves, but also future generations of women.

    Please continue to write with this fire and passion. I hear you, I am listening, and soon many more will too.

  9. MaleZ says:

    I find it strange that a lot of people are equating this single violent senseless incident to “a war on women.” Though this insane persons reasons spawned from women’s issues this was one incident that was incited by one person who any rational person is not going to support. Sexual violence is ridiculous and rape is awful but like you said yourself, it will take women and men to equalize all peoples rights. My point being that this the #yesallwomen movement needs a new name. #yeshumanequality would be more fitting and would attract less “defensive” replies from men who feel it is another slam on men and more support for the core issues. I myself feel offended when I read any statement that makes it seem like a majority of men are to blame for women inequality, and that pushes away the good ones “defensive” replies. Why not just it give power to people who do shitty things? If your “friend” jokingly grabs your breast stand up for yourself instead of expecting someone else to and don’t be friends with that person. I am a happily married man who loves, respects, and is kind to my wife and all other human beings who prove to further human love. Don’t give women or men who objectify women or men power and keep close the people who love everyone equally. The feminism movement has barely ” just begun” and the time to fight for all peoples rights equally, regardless of race, sex, class or nationality is now. The big issue is at the core of society where we need to focus on the people who love everyone equally and give ZERO attention and power to those who degrade, destroy, and deteriorate the universal spirit of love that should bind all animals, human, and otherwise.

  10. dgal26 says:

    I'm sharing a link that is the most powerful truth on this subject I have ever come across.
    https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2013/10/th

    This is what men and women need to know in order for us to create this peace in society.

  11. coffeegirl22 says:

    Very nice article, but it saddens me and most likely thousands of other feminists that you quoted "feminist 'male shaming'" when clearly feminism does not at all shame males, it requests equality for all genders. This article reads feminism all over it. In fact, it requests equality for women along the lines that they are drawn out for men which follows the definition of feminism on point. Great article, but a poor choice of words in that sentence.

  12. Drew says:

    More than 40% of domestic violence victims are male. http://www.theguardian.com/society/2010/sep/05/me

  13. sarajeand says:

    Seriously love this, except the disclaimer "I am not a feminist but…" Women need to feel like it is ok to be empowered and that feminism isn't a derogatory term. All of your sentiments express feminism. Girl, own it

    • P. L. says:

      You have a lot of great points here, but I have to agree that the “I don’t consider myself a feminist” sentiment has got to stop. You ARE a feminist. Every person who starts a discussion like this by saying he or she isn’t a feminist needs to do a little research. Feminism is a good thing. Stop criminalizing the word.

  14. Jeff says:

    Wah wah wah….having a vagina is soooo hard.

    You know what's easy? Making me a sandwich. Hop to it!

  15. Terice says:

    As a woman I find it offensive that’s so many women are telling each other that it is a man’s job to control himself and not our job to control our situation. Although men should control themselves there’s only one person who we as humans have control of. That is ourselves.we need to be prepared for bad situations we need to be able to defend ourselves. Using mens bad behavior as an excuse to not do anything to help yourself is lazy. The only person you can control in this world is yourself. It would be lovely if everybody learn to be non violent good people but there will always be bad people in the world both men and women. The only thing we can do as humans is prepare ourselves. Yes we should teach men to be respectful but we should also learn to defend ourselves and not put ourselves in bad situations. Do not take me wrong I never think it is a woman’s fault but how many situations could be avoided by proper planning.

  16. Jennifer S. White jenniferswhite says:

    This article was really well written. So thorough. So thoughtful. So experiential and also educational. Love the personal photos. Just…all around well done piece. Congrats on its success!

  17. Ray says:

    I'm tired of women abandoning common sense and then blaming men for the problems that arise from it. If you choose to get so drunk that you can't remember anything, YOU'RE TO BLAME for the bad decision(s) you made. You have no idea if you said "yes" to losing your virginity to a man because you were too drunk to remember. That's YOUR fault. If you're "crowd-surfing" in a sea of strangers, there's a pretty good chance you're going to get groped – just as there's a pretty good chance that a man would get groped while crowd-surfing. It comes with the territory. Stop whining about the poor outcomes of situations you put yourself in.

    More food for thought: if you were so drunk that you couldn't remember what happened the night before, you ought to be happy that you didn't get into your car and end up killing somebody. Stop shirking responsibility and blaming others for your bad decisions.

  18. Joe says:

    This article is about (at least partially) women NOT wanting to be viewed as sex objects. Yet you used an attractive, nude woman for marketing purposes to get viewers to read this (which, I'll admit, is why I looked at it). Kind of conflicting messages there, don't you think?

    • Equality says:

      If it were a man standing there with all of the comments you would not have found it sexually arousing. Instead you would have saw a man holding comments across his chest. But because is it a woman holding comments across her chest it is sexually appealing. This is the exact point the article is trying to make. Why do you find it sexually attractive that a woman is in the photos yet if it were a man could you say the same? If it were a man you would just be like “oh okay a guy holding comments up” but because it is a woman it’s sexual. I think the point of this article is that the woman in the photos be considered just a woman holding up comments and not to be considered a woman sexually enticing men with her body. If a man were in the photo you would have a different outlook on the picture.

  19. bob says:

    If 94% of sexual assaults in Canada isn't reported then how did they find out about there being a 94% of being sexually assaulted not being reported?

  20. 8 out of every 5 women on college campuses in the US will be raped. Fact.

  21. Gloria says:

    Every person commenting on this website should subscribe to The Factual Feminist on YouTube. It appropriately addresses the pertinent issues, sans hysteria.

  22. Tullips says:

    Great Article! This is all about respect for another person which is normally taught as young kids and adults. The role models need to be the males that the kids are learning from. It has nothing to do with what a person wears, but the thoughts that enter a mans mind when looking at a woman. Sure a mans brain is wired differently and thinks of sex more. Does he really need to undress a woman every time he looks at her??!! Sex is not a one way street! Sexual harassment is outright wrong!!

    The values and morals of respect for women that are not instilled in young minds, is why this turmoil keeps happening over and over. Us women can talk all we want, it means nothing to our future if men are not controlling their minds and bodies themselves. Men are the example, try and be a good one!

  23. MadeofStone says:

    "My body was created to birth you" is one of the most offensive things I have ever seen. My body is NOT created for birth. That is just one thing that it is capable of. It is a capability that I have chosen not to use–ever. My body is created to house a soul. It belongs to me. Its purpose is NOT to give life to someone else.

  24. cupcake says:

    Misandry is the hatred of males as a sex, as opposed to misogyny, the hatred of women; or misanthropy, hatred of the human species.

    Feminism is the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.

    Just so everyone is clear on what they are preaching.

    I for one would rather define this article as being humanistic.

    Humanist beliefs stress the potential value and goodness of human beings, emphasize common human needs, and seek solely rational ways of solving human problems.

    And by defensively arguing woman are to blame for rape not men you’re being counterproductive. This is the reason woman don’t completely have equal right. I mean if you were male and your male boss started hitting on you in the work place would you not feel weak and disgusted? You would want to just scream get off me, but then guess what you might lose your job. Think about things from woman’s shoes.

    Also this article is just one woman expressing her views and opinions on the matter of helping to prevent rape. If her opinions differ from yours well good. That is what makes us all human being. We all have the capability of making our own opinions on the matter. Don’t take her opinion personally or defensively because we are all entitled to think freely. All of our thoughts and feeling matter and that is what helps an issue to get solved. The different outlooks and ideas about one problem.

  25. Iriminage says:

    I'm a guy, of a certain age, been around, met a lot of people.
    I didn't like this article, but it took me a long time to crystallize why.
    I KNOW, I understand, that some guys are beasts, especially in Internet anonymous forums.
    Having said that, I've NEVER met a guy who would say that "rape is deserved". And I've never
    known a woman who had been raped.

    So we can either be righteous and judgemental "Oh, those guys are so messed up"
    (and of course "we" are not) – or we can be compassionate – "Those guys must have a lot of fear inside."
    And of course true compassion says "We are all in this together – there is not a separate you and me on some level"

    I studied Aikido for years, and one of the fundamental principles is no fear, no preparation, no plan.
    Sometimes your fear of something will bring that event into your life. It's the hardest thing to give
    up your plans, your analysis, your subject object views.

    The problem is not "them" – the problem is "us"

    Back in college, there was a large skinny-dipping area close. That was really the only place
    I've ever been where body evaluation and lust fell away. We're all the same, just human
    body parts.

  26. Julia says:

    "Natalie (@NatalieLeGreve) June 5, 2014:

    “The reason a fetus has more rights than a woman in America is because a fetus still has the chance of being a man” #YesAllWomen"

    I'm sorry, but since when do fetuses have more rights than women? Fetuses have close to no rights because of Roe v. Wade.

  27. Humanity is hard says:

    This article is elegantly written and speaks a truth to the heart of the matter that many cannot express. Block out all the haters. This is bigger than them and their misconceptions. Thank you do much for this.

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