Creating Change: Start with the Heart & Not the Self-Help Section. ~ Michelle Matthews

Via Michelle Matthewson Jul 16, 2014

change

I think if we were to sit down and make a list of all the things we had to feel grateful for in our lives, the list would get pretty long.

Sure, we can complain about all the things that we don’t yet have, or want, but gratitude is often the quickest way to feeling abundant.

We are so fortunate, and we have so many different freedoms in this very precious human life! But, do we really feel free?

What I’m getting at is, we have a tendency of feeling like we’re stuck. And, when we feel stuck, it can often feel like change is impossible or like things will always stay the same.

Do we even have the confidence to change? I’m sure when we think of bringing about change in our lives, there are many different things that come to mind that we’d like to change.

Perhaps we’d like to be more patient, a little kinder, more compassionate, or more loving. Maybe we would just like to adopt a new exercise routine, lose a few pounds, or eat better. The list goes on.

So how do we actually bring about the change we are seeking?

I know I used to think that spending hours in the self-help section at Barnes and Noble and reading more inspiring books would help me to change.

I’ve sought out change in all kinds of “gonna change your life” programs on the internet, to the point where I just don’t have time to read all the inspirational emails and information coming at me day in and day out.

So what’s the problem?

My meditation teacher shared something with me that really hit home (and honestly I’ve probably heard it hundreds of times already, so don’t feel bad if this doesn’t sink in the first time).

She said the problem is that deep down we don’t believe we can actually change.

Because of this, all the self-help books and inspirational emails in the world are not going to help us change, when we aren’t really bringing these ideas into our heart.

We try out a new idea with the belief deep inside that we can’t actually change, and then when we don’t succeed at changing, we fulfill this prophecy that we aren’t good enough and are on some level a loser.

Another part of the problem is that we expect change to happen overnight.

When we try to implement a new way of eating, exercising, meditating, etc., we try it out a few times and then maybe have an off day and throw our hands up and say, “Yep, I knew it, I really I am loser.”

Instead we need to work at things step by step, little by little.

So how do we do this? Well, first we have to actually start somewhere.

Last year I took a raw food certification course with David Wolfe and he shared something that made so much sense. He said if you brush your teeth everyday, then you are capable of developing a new habit.

Think about it. Do you brush your teeth everyday?

Try this experiment: If you spent five minutes every morning centering your mind and breathing some peace into your heart, your days would start from a completely different space and energy.

Today, take five minutes and practice focusing on your inhalation and exhalation of breath.

Breathe out any tension, aggravation and frustration you are feeling.

On the inhalation, breathe in pure white positive healing light that has the nature of peace, right into your heart chakra. Do this for several rounds allowing the light to fill your entire body.

Do you feel that? Do you feel your mind become a little more peaceful?

Even if your mind becomes just a tiny bit more peaceful than it was when you started, this is proof that we can become a lot more peaceful.

This is proof that we can change.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. What would it mean to you to actually bring about positive change in your life?

What would it look like? What benefits would you gain from bringing about this change?

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About Michelle Matthews

Michelle Matthews CHHC, LMT, RYT,is a Wellness Warrior and Liberator for fellow Freedom Seekers, ready to access their unique key that unlocks the door to effortless weight-loss, digestive wellness, balanced hormones and abundant health and happiness. When not working with clients, you can find her whipping up yummy smoothies in the kitchen, hanging out in pigeon pose or on her meditation cushion.  You can connect with her on her websiteFacebookInstagram and Twitter.

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27 Responses to “Creating Change: Start with the Heart & Not the Self-Help Section. ~ Michelle Matthews”

  1. Nina says:

    Great post! I struggled with this a ton throughout my career transition. I finally started to take very small steps to achieving success in a completely different world and it actually worked. You are right when you said that we can sometimes feel like losers when the first thing we try doesn't work – but that's the thing, nothing worth fighting for will come easy. We have to push through, try new things, tweak our approaches, and never give up.

    • So true Nina! It would be so great if instead of relating to ourselves as a loser sometimes, we thought, wow, something wonderful is bound to happen soon! Trying new things can be scary, but stepping outside of our comfort zone to create lasting change feels so liberating doesn't it?

  2. Dori says:

    I can so relate! Wonderful article.

  3. Art by Nessa says:

    Change is a marathon, a journey. Not a sprint. So much of what is out there is giving us tips for running a sprint, not the marathon. It all starts with a small step. Or in this case, with brushing your teeth!

  4. Molly says:

    Hey Michelle! I LOVE your article – what a great message. As someone who focuses on helping people create healthy habits to facilitate long-term change, I really appreciate you sharing the idea that we absolutely CAN change. We CAN create new ways of living that are more in line with our sense of self.

    Rock on for shouting this to the world!

    Bless,
    Molly

  5. Jackie G. says:

    Michelle, I absolutely loved this article!! It was so insightful, true and helpful, you have no idea! I especially loved the breathing experiment and am going to definitely implement that into my mornings :) Great job, friend!

  6. I love doing this exercise Jackie. It's so simple and yet so profound! And when we start our days with a practice like this, it's easier to get back there among when chaos seems to come at us. It's a great way to end your day too, let go and move forward.

  7. Carol says:

    Michelle, this is SO freaking awesome—just like YOU!! Stellar, my friend!! Stellar!!

  8. Roberta says:

    heartfelt authenticity shining through here Michelle…enjoyed reading this.

    • Thanks so much Roberta. I think it's so easy to lose site of where happiness can really be found, and we MUST start spending time within! Thanks for taking the time to read it!

  9. Lisa McCoy says:

    Fantastic idea about brushing your teeth to focus. Love your article!

  10. Colleen Bozarth says:

    Love this! Can’t wait to see you!!

  11. Scott Apicella says:

    Michelle: you have great wisdom.

  12. Jacqueline says:

    Great Post….such a simple, very overlooked message! If you just take 5 minutes to center yourself…..you can change your outlook on so much! Jacqueline

    • The simple things are so often passed by aren't they Jacqueline? I mean sometimes, I think maybe we think because it's so simple, it couldn't possibly work, but often simple can be the most profound! xo!

  13. Andrew says:

    Incredible!…Thanks for the inspiring words…Can't wait for the next article to come out!

  14. Jackie G. says:

    As I shared with you friend, tried the breathing exercise yesterday AM and it definitely helped to start my day in a calmer manner :)

  15. Yay Jackie! So glad this is useful for you! Keep trying to incorporate it day by day. :)

  16. Amy E says:

    Great article about a tough subject. I have been blessed for most of my life with the ability to be resilient and adaptable. I am a very determined person who enjoys challenges. As I have aged into my 50s, I have developed a fear of a change in my life situation. Extenuating circumstances have created that fear. As conditions improve, I will seek out change. Life is short and I want to be happy. I want and need to create a life of my own.

  17. Lori says:

    What a wonderful, thought out article! It fills me with much hope for what I can achieve. I'm going to be sharing this with clients as well. Thank you!

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