7 Things You Probably Didn’t Know About Islam.

Via Lasara Allen
on Sep 4, 2010
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Love they Neighbor…where have we heard this before?

“We found these beautiful flowers at our doorstep along with this anonymous message of love and support. We are honored to have such wonderful neighbors!” (i.redd.it)

Bismillah, ar Rahman, ar Rahim. (In the name of Allah, most beneficent and merciful.)

Ramadan kareem!

1. Mystical Oneness with God
In a mystical sense, Islam is a non-dualist religion. When I first read these words by ‘Ali ibn Abi Talib and Fatima bint Muhammad, I was overwhelmed with a sense of, “Oh my God! Exactly!”

Thus whoever attaches attributes to [God] recognizes His like, and who recognizes His like regards Him two; 
and who regards Him two recognizes parts for Him;
 and who recognizes parts for Him mistook Him;
 and who mistook Him pointed at Him;
 and who pointed at Him admitted limitations for Him;
 and who admitted limitations for Him numbered Him.
Whoever said in what is He, held that He is contained;
 and whoever said on what is He held He is not on something else.

~ Ali ibn Abi Talib

"Terrorism has no religion." islam

Ali ibn Abi Talib was of the house of Muhammad—peace be upon him. Ali was one of the first Muslims to convert after the Prophet was said to have been visited by the angel that brought God’s words to Muhammad. Those words were the Qur’an (the recitation). Fatima bint Muhammad—peace be upon her—was the daughter of Muhammad.

Ali and Fatima were two of the earliest Muslims. So the mystical fibre of Islam is root-deep.

2. Who is Allah?
Allah has the same roots as the Aramaic “El” and the Hebrew Elah. Allah literally means “The God.” “al” means ‘the,” and “elah” (or some variation of it) means “god.” God does not have a gender in Islam, though is referred to as “He” out of respect.

Yeah, I know, kinda messed up, but at least Muslims don’t actually think God is some guy sitting in the clouds. It is considered a grave violation and failing to give attributes to Allah, because as with anything, defining Him/It limits It/Him.

3. Islam and Peace
The Arabic words “Islam” (for the religion) and “salaam” (peace) are from the same Semitic roots; S-L-M. The word Islam means submission, and is taken to mean submission to God (similar perhaps to the expression “God-fearing”). It could as easily mean peace, purity, safety.

In common understanding, to be Muslim means to have surrendered your will to God; to have submitted one’s will to the grace of Allah.

4. Jihad
The word jihad has come to be synonymous with “holy war” in the American vernacular. It has been used by the Palestinian people to mean “uprising.”

Jihad actually means struggle.

“The best jihad is (by) the one who strives against his own self for Allah, The Mighty and Majestic,”
~ the Hadith (sayings of the Prophet Muhammad—peace be upon him).

5. Honoring Your Mother in Islam
There are many Hadiths (loosely; stories that offer the teachings of The Prophet) that beautifully address the role of the mother in Islam.

One such says: I said to the Holy Prophet, “O Messenger of Allah, I desire to go on a (military) expedition and I have come to consult you.” He asked me if I had a mother, and when I replied that I had, he said, “Stay with her because Paradise lies beneath her feet.”

Another says; I asked the Prophet who has the greatest right over a man, and he said, “His mother.”

One of my favorites goes like this: I asked, “Messenger of Allah, to whom should I be dutiful?” He replied, “Your mother.” I asked, “Then whom?” He replied, “Your mother.” I asked, “Then whom?” He replied, “Your mother.” I asked, “Then whom?” He replied, “Your mother.” I asked, “Then to whom should I be dutiful?” He replied, “Your father, and then the next closest relative and then the next.”

6. Marriage in Islam
While arranged marriage is still common in many Muslim cultures, any woman has the right to refuse a marriage match. And, while polygamy is considered lawful in Islam, a polygamous marriage may only occur where both (or all) women are in accord with the choice to be co-wives.

Divorce is legal in Islam, and a woman is guaranteed a divorce settlement even before marriage. Additionally, in marriage a man’s property becomes communal property by law, but a woman’s property remains in her own claim.

7. Sex in Islam
“Permitted to you on the night of the Fasts is the approach to your wives. They are your garments and you are their garments.”
(Qur’an, 2:187)

Obviously, Islam has a long way to go in regards to creating a healthy relationship with sex. (Still, don’t we all?)

However, when sex happens within the container of the laws of Islam, i.e.; between a lawfully wedded woman and man, Islam (on the whole) has fewer sex-negative or sex phobic views than you would think.

Contraception is allowed, as is first-trimester abortion. In addition, sex has many extra-procreative purposes in Islamic faith, including deepening companionship between husband and wife.

“The Prophet himself, while not divulging all aspects of his own sexual life, was known for his nature as a loving husband who was sensitive and physically demonstrative. In several hadith, he speaks about the importance of foreplay and speaking in loving terms during sexual relations. Again, the concept of mutual satisfaction is elucidated in a hadith which advises husbands to engage in acts that enable a woman to achieve orgasm first. …Sexual dissatisfaction is considered legitimate grounds for divorce on the part of either wife or husband.”

There’s even the suggestion that sexual intimacy between man and wife is a gift of worship, and something a Muslim will be rewarded for by Allah.

Female circumcision is not an Islamic practice, but an African tribal one, that predates the introduction of Islam to the areas that practice female circumcision (aka FGM, or female genital mutilation). The vast majority of Islamic countries and cultures do not practice female circumcision at all.

In honor of Ramadan, the most holy month in Islam, I hope we can all take a moment to honor the diversity of faiths that hold the world together, as much as they might tear it apart.

Clinging to anything causes suffering, and there is no exception to the rule here. But while we share the air, we share breath. Let’s be inspired by each other. And allow the outer jihad to give way to the greater jihad; the jihad of one’s own soul.



About Lasara Allen

Lasara is wife to her true love, and mother to two amazing young women. She’s also a best-selling author, an educator, and an activist. Lasara’s first book, the bestselling Sexy Witch (nonfiction, Llewellyn Worldwide), was published in 2005 under the name LaSara FireFox. As of 3/6/2012, after a coaching sabbatical, Lasara has openings for three three-week, individual, personally tailored coaching and mentoring programs. She also has slots in a cohort-model group coaching program available for a limited amount of time. Lasara is available for one-session commitments as well. Make whatever commitment feels best for you. Lasara offers individual coaching on topics such as; * Mental and Physical Health and Wellness - accepting your diagnosis (or that of a loved one) - learning to live with awareness of strengths and vulnerabilities - Learning to live gracefully within your spectrum of the possible * Mindful Relationships - self as primary partner - loving partnerships, friendships and connections - marriages - parenting - family * Spiritual Contemplation and Alignment - Entering into and committing to your spiritual inquiry - Learning to listen to listen for and hear the divine in your life - Inquiring into the role that faith may play in informing your path - The role of meditation, contemplation, and prayer in your practice For more information and endorsements, visit: http://lasaraallen.com/about-lasara/coaching-services/


108 Responses to “7 Things You Probably Didn’t Know About Islam.”

  1. Drupadi says:

    Thanks Lasara for writing this post. I am a muslim myself, from Indonesia, where the majority of the population is muslim. I spent elementary and early highschool learning about Islam and its history, & from all of that exposure to Islam, I do believe that Islam let people to be free to choose what they want to believe (Qur'an Surah Al Qafeerun). Even the Prophet's uncle, who raised Muhammad till he became the Prophet didn't convert to Islam, and Muhammad didn't force him to convert. So, in my opinion, we just let people who are so close minded and think that Islam is all bad whatever they want to think. You have done good by writing this post. It's up to the readers to think what they want to think.
    Thanks again for writing this post. don't let those people who are close minded and sarcastic get you down. Love and peace

  2. j virag says:


  3. Hi,Thank you for your article above. I love Elephant Journal’s articles on spirituality and, as a Muslim, I appreciate your inclusion of Islam in your journal. There are two glaring factual inaccuracy in the article, though.1 – Ali ibn Abi Talib was not the first person to convert to Islam; he was the youngest amongst the earliest converts since he was only 10 years old at the time. The first person to accept Islam was Prophet Muhammad’s (peace be upon him) wife, Khadijah bint Khuwailid. He confided in her when he first received revelation and she immediately accepted Islam upon hearing it. I don’t think you’ll have any difficulty varifying this since it’s one of the basic historical facts about Islam and a point of pride for many Muslim women ;)2 – Hadith (singular), ahadith (plural) or hadiths (Anglicized plural) are not merely stories, as the writer states. They are recorded and rigorously verified sayings and practices of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) that complements the Quran. For example, the Quran calls on Muslim to perform the daily prayer; the ahadith provide the details as to how (perform ablution before hand, stand upright, read certain verses, prostrate, etc.) Where the Quran calls for fasting in Ramadan, the ahadith details the precise period of fasting, what invalidates the fast, who is exempt from fasting, etc. I know it sounds like a small matter of substituting one word for another; however, when you consider the implication that these ahadith have on the practice of Muslims, the term stories is gravely inaccurate.On a different point, I find it offensive that the writer simply stated in passing that Islam is a homophobic religion. I feel it is somewhat tactless to say so in an article purported to shed light on little-known facts about the religion. Yes, Islam does not permit homosexual acts. But it, nonetheless, acknowledges that some people are born with homosexual tendencies, which are not considered wrong. It is a sin for a Muslim to engage in homosexual acts; still, that is a matter between him/her and God, and no human being has the right to punish or harm the doers in any way. Any law/ruling/fatwas that permit the punishment of LGBT people are rooted in misinterpretations of Quranic texts and ahadith. In Islam, every person is afforded the same respect regardless of  gender, ethnicity, status, nationality, or sexual orientation. So even though I do not believe that homosexual acts are permissable, I am obligated to stand up for any LGBT person/group that are oppressed, just as I am obligated to stand up for other victims of oppression.

    Thanks for reading my comment 😉

  4. Dina says:

    Thank you so much for clarifying a lot of points especially about Jihad…these are the darkest days for all religions not just Islam. I as a muslim consider Islam to be a continuation of Judaism and Christianity. Buddhism and Sikhism are lovely religions as well. With all these crimes and horrors happening we should all unite as this would be our force in front of this atrocious goup Isil who are inhuman in every way and needless to say..have absulutely nothing to do with Islam. RIP all victims of terrorism. Prayers

  5. Lasara says:

    I only just saw this now. Of course Khadijah was the first convert! I don't know what I was thinking when I wrote that Ali was. That is a glaring mistake. I am so sorry. I truly have no idea what I was thinking there. (I wrote this article so long ago.)

    On the point of homosexuality, I was basing my opinion on the stories I had heard from friends who are queer who were raised Muslim. I take your point though. The line is not needed. I will see if the editor will take it out.

  6. Lasara says:

    Shukran, friend.

  7. Lasara says:

    Thank you. 🙂

  8. Sandy says:

    I learned a lot, so thank you very much. One comment that was made: ( Islamic reform will come from within the Muslim world, or not at all. How much do WE (Americans, westerners) like being told how we can or should live? So, walk a mile in their shoes. It is not our place to "reform" a civilization that we are not of. ) is disturbing, because it is my understanding that they want the whole world to believe as they do and those who don't are infidels and should be killed. What kind of logic is that!