How to Kiss.

Via Waylon Lewis
on May 23, 2011
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“…you need kissing, badly. That’s what’s wrong with you. You should be kissed and often, and by someone who knows how.” ~ Rhett Butler.

Inspired by the viewing of Rhett and Scarlett in Gone with the Wind for the first time in eons, in Virginia, where I’m visiting with my Aunt Liz and Grandma Carol.

What’s your advice? Offer a few words, general or practical, below in comments.

Mine’s easy: be present. It’s a dance. It’s the melding or touching of two minds (not that I’ve had any practice, of late). It’s heaven.

Here’s some more expert advice, by elephant’s resident “loveologist,” Wendy Strgar.

And here’s 10 or so videos from Youtube, which I picked quickly based on popularity, and few ’cause they seemed classic. Frankly, I’m taking my own advice, and sticking with “no technique.” So, a little further advice: as I have, don’t watch any of the below. Unless you’re a teenager, in which case a little study might do you good.

This first is a new bonus via reader comments, at bottom: We are Augustine.



About Waylon Lewis

Waylon Lewis, founder of elephant magazine, now & host of Walk the Talk Show with Waylon Lewis, is a 1st generation American Buddhist “Dharma Brat." Voted #1 in U.S. on twitter for #green two years running, Changemaker & Eco Ambassador by Treehugger, Green Hero by Discovery’s Planet Green, Best (!) Shameless Self-Promoter at Westword's Web Awards, Prominent Buddhist by Shambhala Sun, & 100 Most Influential People in Health & Fitness 2011 by "Greatist", Waylon is a mediocre climber, lazy yogi, 365-day bicycle commuter & best friend to Redford (his rescue hound). His aim: to bring the good news re: "the mindful life" beyond the choir & to all those who didn't know they gave a care. | His first book, Things I would like to do with You, is now available.


25 Responses to “How to Kiss.”

  1. Dace says:

    Some people have great sense of humor!

  2. Eric says:

    Capt. Kirk's technique is BEST!! reminds me of a Waterboys song: "And I give you my love, with a bang on th' ear.." 🙂

  3. Valerie says:

    All I can think of when I see from here to eternity is "Sand in my crotch!"

  4. betterdeal says:

    Dance first, think later

  5. Sara says:

    Here's my favorite kissing inspiration, lately:

    Thank you, We Are Augustines.

  6. kim stetz says:

    kiss like that's all your gonna get

  7. Tina Surman Scully says:

    “Always kiss like it's the first time and the last time.” — excellent advice from the film Leap Year

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  9. Sara Young says:

    I love kissing. I don’t do it often enough.

  10. elephantjournal says:

    Uparrow that 1000 times. I owe you.

  11. Alex says:

    I love kissing too. Its the best part.

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  13. shayeem says:

    Sometimes you forget where your mouth ends, and theirs begins.. These are the best kisses I remember.

  14. Wimmer says:

    I just got a boner! Capt Kirk is my man crush!

  15. iloveyouoften says:

    Kissing is marrital oxygen. Occasionally I ask my hubby of 22 years to kiss me like his girlfriend rather than his wife.

  16. CandaceO says:

    Best advice I know – don't go all in right away. You don't have to be licking his (or her) tonsils to be passionate. Gently running your fingers across an ear, or on the back of their neck, makes all the difference in the world. Gently brushing your lips against the one you love as you look them intently in the eyes … That (to me) means so much more than just a quick peck as you run out the door, or cleaning the inside of their mouth with your tongue. 😉

  17. Amy E says:

    The Augustines have it. Nice!

  18. josphine says:

    Really kiss is more important than SEX