“If any of you gave me a glass of good scotch & a slightly-too-long hug, I’d start bawling on your shoulder. I need a good cry.”

Via Waylon Lewis
on Jul 20, 2011
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Above: Birthday Eton Mess at The Kitchen in Boulder, Colorado, with former elephants Pam Uhlenkamp & Merete Mueller (photo). And, Redford, the dog.


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I turned 37 on Saturday. Here’s what I’ve learned:

…okay, not much.


In any case, 37 might be one of the coolest ages. I’m still (more or less) young, physically, but emotionally I’ve had my arse kicked so many times by life that I’ve learned (more or less) not to get too freaked out by the big waves, or sad or mad about the bad surf days.

It’s getting to be a fruitional time, for me. I’ve been through the three hardest years of my life (when I took elephant from a magazine, online, and didn’t make any money, and my house went into foreclosure, I gave up my office and staff, yadayadayada). Before that, I had a long, hard, fun 6 years building up elephant magazine out of nothing. Before that, I had a long, hard, fun 3.5 years working for Shambhala Mountain Center. So I haven’t had a break, now, for 12 years or something. That’s okay. I can feel one coming on. I can feel some relaxation, celebration, ease, love, family…all good things coming to me.

I don’t know that you care, particularly—but I thought I’d share this happiness. I’ve had such a rough time, that if any of you gave me a glass of good scotch and a slightly-too-long hug, I’d start bawling on your shoulder. I need a good cry.

Life is overful, sometimes, apparently. Precious, short. Memories fade. But I, and you, have that most lucky of opportunities: our life, however long. As Robin Williams puts it in Dead Poets, it’s our command to suck the marrow out of life. Carpe Diem.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qQtmGcdSDAI
Because, before I (and you) know it, it’ll all be >poof<…gone with the wind.

I look forward to the next, say, 12 years. I’ll work hard and hopefully be of some benefit. I’ll take elephant (with your help, and our amazing team of volunteers headed up by Bob Weisenberg) to first tier national prominence as a force for mindfulness in the daily life of millions. I’ll take a little time for myself, and recommit to my Buddhist practice of meditation (which I do every day, twice a day, but not enough). If I’m lucky, I’ll more fully become friends with myself, and get to be a part of a family that does loud really well, does second chances, does grace, sorry, and second chances. In the meantime I’ll thank my past lovers for being among my greatest teachers, and (with the occasional relationship sabbatical) get my heart broke up again, and again, in different places.

PS: If any of you are in Boulder, most of you are invited to my bday benefit hosted by Congressman Polis, for New Era Colorado.


About Waylon Lewis

Waylon Lewis, founder of elephant magazine, now elephantjournal.com & host of Walk the Talk Show with Waylon Lewis, is a 1st generation American Buddhist “Dharma Brat." Voted #1 in U.S. on twitter for #green two years running, Changemaker & Eco Ambassador by Treehugger, Green Hero by Discovery’s Planet Green, Best (!) Shameless Self-Promoter at Westword's Web Awards, Prominent Buddhist by Shambhala Sun, & 100 Most Influential People in Health & Fitness 2011 by "Greatist", Waylon is a mediocre climber, lazy yogi, 365-day bicycle commuter & best friend to Redford (his rescue hound). His aim: to bring the good news re: "the mindful life" beyond the choir & to all those who didn't know they gave a care. elephantjournal.com | His first book, Things I would like to do with You, is now available.


13 Responses to ““If any of you gave me a glass of good scotch & a slightly-too-long hug, I’d start bawling on your shoulder. I need a good cry.””

  1. gracekboyle says:

    Happy birthday Waylon 🙂

  2. Only 37?!
    Dude, when I heard it was your birthday, I figured it was like some kinda Tibetan Buddhist birthday or something, and you were marking the 5,687th anniversary of your first incarnation as a Mesapotamian ox-cart driver…

  3. elephantjournal says:

    Nice press hit, timing-wise: http://www.mnn.com/lifestyle/arts-culture/blogs/w

  4. elephantjournal says:

    ahahah I needed that. I'm wiped out, all this online stuff will turn me 38 in just a few blinks!

  5. afAn says:

    37…I would say that at that young of a age you have given back more to a lot of people than most have at that young of an age. Keep up the good work.

  6. Jenny Paul says:

    Keep on Keepin' on!!! I turned 28 on Friday and its been a *particularly* reflective period. Elephant Journal has been an amazing resource over the years… thanks for putting it out there and wearing your heart on yer sleeve!! 🙂

  7. DaveTelf says:

    oh man, I highly recommend taking yourself up on that good cry. our friend Ellen facilitated some tear drops for me just yesterday (it wasn't even my birthday!) and it was tremendously cleansing, healing. happy birthday buddy. we love you. honestly i am honored to help tweetspin elephant to the stars and beyond!

  8. Naheed says:

    Best Birthday wishes to you Waylon! It might not have been a prosperous journey in financial terms, but elephantjournal has changed many lives for sure. On a cheerful note, a time period has been written in one's stars which he/she has to go through it, you never know if this is the beginning of happy days from now onwards.

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  10. elephantjournal says:

    To the stars…and beyond! It's been great getting to know you, Dave. Can't wait to see where we're at in five years, as I said other day. ~ W.

  11. Rajni Tripathi says:

    Dude who said you turned 37! You are 21 and for the next million years if anyone asks, continue to give that number bc my dear friend, age is just simply that….a number.. 🙂 <3

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