Going Without

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My project, 25 Days, is going to take me to 15 cities across the U.S. this year. I am in Denver, my third city. I will be doing yoga and riding my bike in each city. I will report to you on my adventures and misdemeanors here.

As I planned for my one-year cross country adventure, I was considering all the things I would need to pack, all the things I would not have to bring, and all the things that might weigh me down if I took them with me.  While I absolutely adore sex, I decided that this would be a sex-free year for me, for a number of reasons.

  1. Distraction: If done in the proper manner, sex can be a distracting activity which takes you away from the task at hand at any given moment or opportunity.
  2. Messy: Sex can be messy, both literally and metaphorically.  I have no time or inclination to bring all of the accoutrements that must go along with proper sex.
  3. Potato Chip Factor: Good sex is like potato chips.  You can’t eat just one, and even when you feel like you might be “finished”, you want more.
  4. Broken Hearts: I have had enough of them.  I have had my heart broken and have broken more hearts than I care to recount.  This is something that could happen if sex is thrown into the mix, and I am not sure I need one more thing to worry about while I am on the road.
  5. Danger: I am pretty sure I don’t have to illustrate why this is the case.

So, here I am in Denver.  Right now, it is tough. My teeth are itching and I suddenly have great compassion for seventeen year old boys.  I have been propositioned, but I am proud to say that I stood firm. I am thinking it will get better as time goes on and distance grows between myself and my last sexual encounter.  That is what I am counting on, anyway. Please, someone tell me that I am right. Please.


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About Sara Young

Sara Young is a writer, artist, cyclist, amateur yogi, and avid poetry appreciator. Originally from Chicago, Illinois, Sara is presently undertaking a project which she hopes will turn the tide and inspire people to love, accept, and show compassion for themselves and each other. She is traveling the US handing out love stickers and telling people they are awesome, and when she can, talking to people about the importance of remembering that love unites everyone. She is a Freedom Fighter, a Creative Adventurer, a bringer of light, and the owner of Eloquent as Fuck, a company whose mission it is to help people live boldly and confidently in their own skin, loving the ride as they go through their wild and wonderful lives. http://www.eloquentasfuck.com/ You can follow A Love Rebellion at www.aloverebellion.com


2 Responses to “Going Without”

  1. linsey says:

    Like any attachment, it frees up space to receive other things when you let go. I go through long bouts of celibacy between relationships and enjoy what both headspaces bring. You don't have to force yourself to be ok with it, that feeling will come on its own when your focus on your adventures takes over! Thanks for the thoughts. Safe travels!

  2. Sara Young says:

    Thanks so much for the words of wisdom. It helps.

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