Lure the Goddess.

Via Kimberly Johnson
on Sep 29, 2011
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republished from Brazilian Yoga Journal, August 2011.

“You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves.” ~ Mary Oliver

We live in a world where the feminine has aspect has been ignored, if not deliberately squelched for thousands of years.  What we live today, in our modern world of industrialized mechanization and man-made progress at the expense of native cultures, the animal kingdom and natural resources, is a product of a hyper-active masculine principle.

As natural disasters like those in Haiti, Japan, and Chile, not to mention closer to home in Angra dos Reis and Novo Friburgo, seem to be occurring in rapid succession and our world economy drastically shifts, we are being called to unearth our connection to the feminine principle. On a large scale the resurrection of the divine feminine as a guiding principle requires an inclusion of collaboration, sensitivity and a consideration of the effects of our actions on future generations.  On an individual level, the result of the overactive masculine principle has been an onslaught on female reproductive health.

In our caffeine-drive, traffic-ridden, multi-faceted daily lives, the divine feminine is often forgotten and untended- left to slowly wilt.  Our lives are fast, and they seem to only get faster.


To deliberately court the feminine, we have to put on the brakes.  Our mind convinces us that it is anything other than reasonable to take a break from the push forward- that we will lose momentum, lack discipline and fall behind. Pausing can be uncomfortable because it usually shows us our habits.  Our habits we have either inherited or developed and probably both. When we remain on the running wheel, we remain in habitual action- unable to imagine possibilities outside of the rut. When we interrupt momentum, we have an opportunity to see and feel the effects of how we live.

Most of us know that the pace and demands of our lives are fairly stressful, yet we make choices all the time that dampen our ability to hear our inner voice, which is the necessary compass to living a life that increases our sense of intimacy with ourselves, and everyone and everything around us.

Both men and women can invite the divine feminine in through the act of pausing and listening.

One of the marvels of the feminine is that she is always close, like the spark of a flame waiting for the wind to come and augment the fire.  She must be courted.  And, like with all women, there are intricacies.  The more you listen, the more she will speak.  Her voice will become louder and clearer.  However the opposite is also true, if you ignore or affront her, she will also speak loudly and sometimes unpredictably to shake you and beg your attention.

She will use her wiles to make you listen.  Listen to her and you won’t regret it. That doesn’t mean your life will get easier. But it will get more satisfying- deeper and richer.  She will lead you to connection where doubt has no hold.   Stay close and lean in.  She awakens your senses and tantalizes through them.  She will show you the sensuous and sacred existence. She may ask you to do things that make no sense.  Later you might understand.

She is that closest wisp of your spirit calling you to hear the lilt of your heart, to feel the tenderness, to hold all of life- in its excruciating pain and unequivocal joy.  She reminds us that it is indeed possible to hold it all.  The births and the deaths.  The star-crossed romance and the heartbreak.   Success and failures.  She grows the heart, when we think it is not possible. To wait so that we can act.

She comes in on the breeze, along the stream in the current, with the dance. We have to pause, insert a comma, or several in our daily rhythms. She needs to be tended and lured.  She lives in those pauses and in that silence- the place where the heart speaks.  She lives in the dance, in the rhythm- the place where the heart sings.


If she seems elusive in the poetry, here are three things that you can do right now to connect to the divine feminine.


•           Take a warm bath or shower.  When you get out, massage yourself with oil, feeling each part of yourself as you make contact.

•           Fill your space with beauty.  Buy flowers.  Make an offering with a candle.

•           Close your eyes.  Deepen your breath and send it all the way down into your pelvis.  Take three full body breaths.



About Kimberly Johnson

Kimberly Johnson helps women find their way back to themselves after giving birth. She herself was rearranged by childbirth in almost every way, so she loves sparing women the unnecessary surprises of the post-partum period. She is a a longtime yoga teacher, bodyworker, doula and somatic educator and a Certified Sexological Bodyworker. She loves helping women reclaim their erotic lives through somatic sex coaching, Somatic Experiencing tools, and holistic pelvic health. She created the program, Forging a Feminine Path: Bridging Women's Sexuality and Spirituality. The next one starts March 14th!


14 Responses to “Lure the Goddess.”

  1. Lopa says:

    Kimberly – In this day with so much negative information toward woman in the media, we’ve learned to say it to ourselves ALL the time in our head which is not good. I say good mantras about myself while I’m walking my dog to help throw out the negative thoughts about self-image. I firmly believe in surrounding yourself with as much positive as you can including the people in my life. If I have a bad day, I give myself a time-limit to feel or wallow in the self-pity then it’s time to stop and whatever it takes, stop I will. Sometimes it’s ok to give yourself a day or two when it’s been rough but it’s also important not to get caught up in that cycle.

    Many women, with self-image problems (including myself) do not feel – through my body – worthy of love. I had a horrible situation happen 3 years ago that put started my path toward learning that by just being born, I’M WORTHY – OF LOVE, LIVE and EVERYTHING IT HAS TO OFFER. I still struggle with weight issues and still working toward not letting it bother me, learning to love my curves & myself. I keep a journal to write my thoughts so when I’m down, I can give myself uplifts. I also keep a separate journal of inspirational quotes that I can glance though when I need to. Everyone is beautiful. Seeing it in yourself is hard but worth the struggle to get to that self-realization.

    I also take the most potent ones and tape them to my bathroom door (around my mirror) so I’m always glancing at them – not always reading but subconsciencely seeing them and it’s a good way to start and end the night. I have a card in my bedroom with Winston Churchill’s quote, “Never, never, never, never give up” above my temple with Hindu diety, Ganesh who I relate to and they both help me when I need to send out good karma for myself or others out in the world.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the divine feminine and how to get her out. I’m putting this article in my journal as a good reminder 🙂

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  4. Thank you for this…it's so beautiful: "She reminds us that it is indeed possible to hold it all. The births and the deaths. The star-crossed romance and the heartbreak. Success and failures. She grows the heart, when we think it is not possible. To wait so that we can act."

    Well…ALL of it is beautiful, but that was my favorite part!

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  6. Hi Lopa, Thanks for sharing some of your process. And I am glad this article will keep you good company
    in your journal. Love Kimberly

  7. kat says:

    I sometimes feel guilty that I've opted out of the fast life and chosen to prioritise my creativity, that I refuse to leave the trees and the beach to chase other people's notion of success… this resonates with me so thank you.

  8. Mary says:

    Thank you so much for this. thank you.

  9. aliea says:

    amen lovely lady.

  10. […] I asked Jill about the choice of location. It has housed a few restaurants in the past that didn’t last long. She explained that the space was cavernous before the Shine renovation. “The ceilings were black and it was very masculine.” They broke up the space, added lights on the ceilings and lightened up the atmosphere. Now renovated, there are walls that section off the restaurant from the event room and create a warmer environment. “It just needed more feminine,” Jill said. “Let’s face it, we’re in the age of the goddess.” […]

  11. Angra III says:

    Angra Dos Reis is the Paradise in Earth.