Transcendent Orgasm.

Via Wendy Strgar
on Nov 11, 2011
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“Pleasure is the object, duty and the goal of all rational creatures.”  ~ Voltaire

Orgasm transforms our physical bodies into a vessel of energy. Our cellular physical boundaries fade as our bodies become the vehicle that transports us into experiences that connect us to universal energy, our spiritual source. Studies have confirmed that as many as one in twenty individuals experience a transcendent experience in orgasm. The range of experiences cited were unique and included a shift of space and time, including a sense of timelessness and vast emptiness,  a sense of electric light-filled bodies, and a transformation of self and other converging in intersecting paths of spirit and sexuality.

For many people the spiritual awakening that comes through these kinds of transcendent orgasm is life changing. It reorganizes their beliefs about sexuality and God. In fact, of all life experiences that open the doorway to intensely spiritual experience, sex is the most common and ordinary, which is to say that it is readily available to ordinary people. In fact there are some historical notions that the forbidden fruit in the Garden of Eden was actually orgasm because it held the secret to connection with the divine through our deepest capacity to connect to each other.

While there are hundreds of scientific studies that demonstrate the physical, mental and emotional health benefits of orgasmic pleasure, the spiritual connection that our deepest sexual pleasure opens to us might be the most life-changing reason to pursue an evolving relationship with orgasm. Indeed, the French term for orgasm “le petit mort,” which means “small death” is indicative of the process where we release our ego-driven self in a divine connection to each other and the universe is revealed.

The challenge of finding this transcendent orgasm might be as simple as discovering our innate ability to let go. Begin with developing a daily routine of learning to physically recognize where and how stress lives in your body and practice releasing it. Not only is this a secret of graceful aging, but even more profoundly, the practice of release opens us to the mysterious and compelling territory of experiencing sexual pleasure. Releasing our control is simultaneously the path and the reward into the transcendent and mysterious human orgasm.

Working towards developing your pleasure capacity and having the courage to witness your unique, yet universal connection to all humanity through your erotic self is the evolution of mastery in human life. Freeing ourselves from the constraints of our culture and embracing our sexual selves as the wise energetic transformers that they are is a path to inner peace. We are all born with the birthright to know our divine source through the physical love of the bodies we were born into. This is the fertile ground at the root of all healing and the place that love is born.

The meaning of orgasm lies at the why of it all. It is the connection we all seek, beyond the illusion of separation. Each individual unique moment of exquisite pleasure sews us all together in a web of love.


Author: Wendy Strgar
Image: Flickr/Darla دارلا Hueske


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About Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family. In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy, she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative advice. It has been called “the essential guide for relationships.” The book is available on ebook, as well as in paperback online. Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


12 Responses to “Transcendent Orgasm.”

  1. Dario Jovovic says:

    Be careful to not deplete your ojas, inner force and fluid, during that happy process. That's the catch 22. 🙂

  2. Braggi says:

    Use it or lose it Dario. That notion of "depleting" your vital fluids is hogwash. The more orgasms you have the healthier you will be. The best way to prevent testicular cancer is to have lots and lots of ejaculations. Kind of intuitively obvious.

    • Dario says:

      First, an orgasm is not the ejaculation, it should be separated. You can have your orgasm without ejaculation (with a little bit of bandhas). The ejaculation is a depletion of ojas; more your deplete it, thinner inside you become. And without ojas, no real insight is possible, except if you count an ordinary mentalisation as an insight, but it's far away from it. So, what's the point if the nature is producing your ojas, like perpetum mobile, and you're depleting it non-stop? You need to make that raw ojas conscious by meditation, and then you'll have a right insight into the nature of things. So, continue with your ejaculations, and I'll continue with my ojas, no problems.

  3. Rhyscurrency says:

    beautiful Ecstasy ,thanks

  4. Shoot – I knew there was something I forgot to do this morning!!

    In all seriousness, though, wonderful article! Thanks for writing it, Wendy!

  5. LMisht says:

    I gain a lot more energy, bliss, and transcendent experiences from celibacy.

    • Dario says:

      Forced celibacy (as with catholic priests) is not the option. The only way is a spontaneous celibacy, then you get all these things you speak about. The spontaneous celibacy comes when inner energy turns towards 'up', instead of going down. (by sex)

  6. cc says:

    Just a great article thaxs for writting !!!

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