Guruji, Get your hand off my vagina: The modern yoga teacher-student relationship.

Classically, yoga was transmitted carefully, privately, from a master to a student, one to one. A little like an STD. In modern Western society, yoga is transmitted from one teacher to huge groups of students at a time, usually through drop in classes. Much like an STD.

Times have changed. Some folks say we are missing something in the good old days when yoga was individualized. But we’ve gained something I think is really important: the choice of how you want to learn and who you want to learn from.

Next week, I’m flying to the yoga mecca of San Francisco, all the way in America, for the Yoga Journal Conference and two of my major yoga crushes: Shiva Rea, the beautiful, blonde dancer who balances her sacrum between heaven and earth and rocks my body with her creative and flowing sequencing, and Ana Forrest, the witch doctor who I am terrified will look into my soul and see it in all its cankered glory.

Normally, I try not to get too tied up in the whole celebriyogi thing. My dad taught me that anything too popular was not to be trusted, and I took this seriously when my beloved high school teacher (who I, alone among my peers, refused to be alone in a room with) was suspended for sexually assaulting a student. I’m always a bit wary of anyone universally beloved: if EVERYONE loves you, you’ve gotta be lying about something.  I don’t need a Guru keeping too close of an eye on my Down Dog.

Spirituality and Health Magazine‘s Soul Body supplement has a lovely article on the student/teacher relationship that explains some of the pitfalls of looking to another human to teach spirituality. Zen master John Daido Loori says, for example, that a great spiritual teacher

awakens in the student what is inherently there. That’s why we call it the wisdom that has no teacher. It comes from within. At best a teacher is a facilitator rather than a conveyor of knowledge. This is important, because it protects the dharma from individual personality flaws.

Forrest had her own experience with a Guruji, B.K.S. Iyengar, who “accomplished his ‘active correction’ through hitting, spitting, and screaming.” She writes:

Whatever wisdom he had, he wasn’t willing to give it to me because I hadn’t agreed to his demand for subservience. At the end of the month-long training, we all lined up during the celebratory dinner to kneel before Iyengar and touch his feet. As I approached, he said, “Oh, so, expert, you have no need ever to come back here.” And I replied, “Oh, I know that, Mr. Iyengar.” I’d learned what I most needed to know: that I couldn’t look to others for the wisdom that lay inside me.

Just because a teacher is super successful and popular doesn’t mean you should trust them, and them alone. But that doesn’t mean they have nothing to teach: I want to know Shiva’s Rea’s secrets of sequencing and how she creates such captivating and gorgeous ways of doing core work that make you feel beautiful even as you are working up a sweat. And I want to meet Ana Forrest, who claims not to subscribe to the classical yoga principle of Ahimsa, or non-violence, because sometimes things have to die or break or get ugly before they can really, truly heal. I won’t touch these teachers’ feet, but I sure will listen to them.

Shiva Rea, being gorgeous

Ana Forrest. She's serious.

In my humble modern-yogi opinion, yoga has this built in function (which I like to call the bullshit detector) which is developed through a practice of paying attention and thinking for yourself. This way, I can look to very different teachers and learn from both. And there’s room for more: I’ll experience other fascinating experiences with Janet Stone, Judith Hanson Lasater, Dharma Mittra, and other teachers I know little about just yet. It’s up to me, in the end, what to keep with me and what to throw away so I can find my own path.

There are ways in which I wish I had a true teacher. Just the one, who could really show me the way. But yoga teaches me again and again that I am my own true teacher. We have new ways of learning now, through communities of teachers and students in which those roles switch and shift all the time. If we keep our hearts open and our bullshit detectors on high, there is so much we can learn. I just want to soak it all up (just maybe not swallow it all).

I’ll let you know how it goes. And I’ll keep these wise words from Kabir in my mind as I go:

The words Guru, Swami, Super Swami, Master, Teacher, Murshid,

Yogi, Priest,

most of those sporting such a title are

just peacocks.

The litmus test is:

hold them upside down over a cliff for a few hours.

If they don’t wet their


maybe you have found a real



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Victoria Aug 20, 2015 10:44pm

Ragaman Das come on!!! Its not about puritan! Pattabhi jois it’s clear more than adjusting. There are ways to be touch… I personaly see the picture and found it offensive and disgusting. Let’s call the things by their name. And every Ashtangui knows that picture is real.

yaaya Aug 17, 2015 3:20pm

As an Ashtanga lover who has never met Patthabis Jois (pictured above with his hand touching those ladies…) but have an understanding of the style of Ashtanga… I will say that picture looks like its taken waaaaay out of context.

First of all, beginners would never ever get adjustments like this – the adjustments in Ashtanga can be quite strong – but at the beginning you are never doing such complex poses which expose your vagina like that. You see over time, that the teacher, and from everything I have heard about Patthabis Jois…. has no sexual intent but is entirely focused on your breathing and technique.

Ashtanga becomes a blissful union with the body and you know from feeling how aware the teacher is of this. There is no sexual intent whatsoever… the teacher will rub up against a sweaty fat man to make an adjustment just as much as with a gorgeous lady. The teacher sees beyond the body and you can feel it. And you even can request no adjustments if you want. Believe me, when you are doing the whole sequence, it is such a delight and getting further contorted is a delight too.

Also I'm not quite sure what he is doing but he may be checking for mula bandha which an advanced technique.

Liz o'Brien Aug 17, 2015 2:10am

While I agree that the need for common sense and to not hand over personal responsibility/accountability to anyone else (as this article says) is so important, these things need not be lost through following a Guru. The whole concept of Guru is so misunderstood in the West – a true Guru is a beautiful teacher who should assist the student in reaching the most remote depths of their being, while the “surrender” of the student is an act of utter humility, a method to step back from the ego and the arrogance that we might know it all already. A long-term teacher can bring us deeper and deeper inside ourselves; one who has “been there” before can help us to find our way through the mire of human emotions, traumas and the sticky mind… Which is after all the true purpose of yoga.

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Julie JC Peters

Julie (JC) Peters has been practicing yoga on and off from the tender age of 12, and it has gotten her through everything from the horrors of teenagedom to a Master’s degree in Canadian Poetry. She is a yoga teacher, spoken word poet, and writer, and teaches workshops on yoga and writing called Creative Flow. Julie also owns East Side Yoga in Vancouver with her mom, Jane.