How to Increase our Sexual Energy. ~ Jerry Stocking

Via Jerry Stocking
on Jan 14, 2012
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Sexual energy really doesn’t have anything to do with sex.

Mixing my experience as a Chi Kung teacher and 30 years as a self-awareness coach, I can help advise you how to intensify sex and enhance life by using sexual energy for everything you do, not just making love.

Sexual energy needs to flow through you whole body, head to toe and everywhere in between. When it is just focused on your sexual organs you will be frustrated and sex won’t be nearly as satisfying as it can be.

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The difference between making love with your whole body and not just your sexual organs is enormous.

I remember once in an advanced Chi Kung class we separated into men and women. Us men hung weights from our male organs. Weird, huh? Please don’t try this at home.

The weight hung downward providing a powerful force and also a counter force. The counter force was sexual energy pulling back into our entire bodies. Rather than feeling aroused sexually we felt aroused fully by life.

I am not sure what the women did, let’s leave that up to our imaginations.

Luckily, you don’t have to hang weights from your scrotum, or anywhere else, to enhance and increase your sexual energy. Just a little exercise will provide you with the same result.

To enhance your sexual energy and have it flow throughout your whole body begin by focusing your attention on your lower back.

Move your attention up your back to the crown of your head, around your head and back down the front of your body. Slowly move your attention all the way down to your toes then up your legs and then your back. Repeat.

In Chi Kung this simple movement is called the Macrocosmic Orbit. Energy follows attention, so as your attention is moving your energy is flowing with it.

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Blocking energy tires you, wears you out and makes life a lot less fun. It can even get in the way of sexual performance and interest in sex.

A couple of minutes twice a day, or anytime you think of it, move your attention up your back, up to your head and down the front of your body. You can do this while commuting, in line at the grocery story or anywhere. With a little practice this loop will become effortless and you will feel the energy moving in you.

You will experience three main benefits from this simple exercise:

 You will feel energized.

You will have more attention.

You will feel an increase in sexual energy.

As your sexual energy increases you won’t necessarily want to have sex all the time, but your sexual motor will always be running.

You will feel more vital, awake and alert. When you do have sex, sensations will engulf you. In fact, having sex will become orgasmic and orgasm will blow your ever loving mind.

With a little practice, you will be able to consciously flow your energy up your back, and down the front of your body while you are having sex and that is when the wild times really begin.

Are you ready for the best sex of your life? If so make sure you practice the exercise I described earlier then try this:

During sex, put your attention on your back, moving it to your head, down the front of your body and when you reach your waist, move your attention and the energy that follows it, into your partner’s body, up the back of your partner’s body, down the front, up the front of his/her legs and back into your body.

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Flow your attention, and energy in a kind of figure eight between your body and your partners.

This may take a little bit of practice, but it is way worth it. The two of you will mix your energies. You don’t need your partner’s permission to do this, and you can do it in any sexual position. You can even do it when you aren’t having sex and it can become the most inspiring, titillating foreplay imaginable.

The best foreplay is the kind that is infinitely rewarding by itself, without leading somewhere. Practicing with your energy/attention will seduce you and then you and your partner into a world of ecstasy. When you regularly share this kind of pleasure it makes every part of relationship better. It makes life and love so rewarding and mind blowing that there are always more great times coming.

Setting your sexual energy free is that easy and fun. It does take a little practice, but it is so worth it.


For more: Read:

8 Feng Shui Ways to Create the Space for Love.



About Jerry Stocking

Jerry Stocking is a modern day Thoreau who left the fast paced world as a stock broker and moved to the woods. He now spends his time helping others, and himself, express their zest for life. He lives his life with heart wide open on a 33 acre blueberry farm with two ponds and a peaceful pace. Often writing at 3 a.m., there are no social conventions here, just the pursuit of possibilities and unconditional love. To find out more, take a peek at this "Getting the Joke.", or read Jerry’s free e-book download his free e-book., visit his website for some inspiration...


29 Responses to “How to Increase our Sexual Energy. ~ Jerry Stocking”

  1. Mark says:

    Jerry knows what he is talking about.
    I Promise you have never met anyone like him.
    I have been studying his material for 12 years and it never gets old..its always new and fresh.
    How many other teachers can you say that about?

  2. John Morgan says:

    Jerry Stocking is a hidden treasure. I feel so fortunate to have been guided to Jerry Stocking. When you work with Jerry, his only agenda is your personal growth and helping you find your depth. Find your way to Jerry and you’ll find yourself.

  3. Charlie says:

    Great article. Thank you! Just tried it and it feels great!

  4. Rick Gridley says:

    Thank you, Jerry, for another playful yet practical way to say "Yes!" to Life. Your curious and compassionate spirit keep inspiring me to open doors in the mansion of my life that I'd forgotten about or never knew I had.

  5. Marianna says:

    What is it about the circle,and the figure 8 by extension, that makes it this powerful? Sure, the infinity aspect, but you can go around a square forever. I find that it does a funny thing to my attention to not have an excuse, or an edge, inspiring a shift. That smooth,gentle, neutral circle shows me in bas relief to myself, what a challenge …Thank you.

  6. Lorraine says:

    Hi Jerry, I am so happy to see you here! I am a Elephant Journal subscriber and I am excited to see you speaking to such a broad audience. Love.

  7. Anne says:

    Mmm, more attention on my body feels good any time. Thanks for the article and the reminder.

  8. Lindi says:

    Thank you Jerry!!…for sharing your knowledge and experience in an easy to learn formula. Why can't this be taught to all at an early age!??

  9. Congratulations Charlie, that makes you no longer an energy virgin. Keep flowing that energy and it will become much more tangible and way more fun. This is a lifetime practice if you are in for that much pleasure.

  10. You are welcome Anne, Isn't is incredible to have a body? As we play with energy, and attention and just touching and being touched we celebrate what we came to Earth for.

  11. Lynne says:

    This is great…….microcosmic orbit exponential expanded. Thank you Jerry……as always!

  12. Mark S says:

    Thanks Jerry. As much as I try and make this world more complex than it needs be your insights and ideas help me to see simpler routes. Thanks for sharing this exercise – I will give this a try. But…now what do I do with my weights?….

  13. Brian says:

    Wow, thanks Jerry! Free fuel, yes tapping into infinite renuable energy available for everyone curiously open to expanding into greater quality of Life.. And available for us anywhere and anytime we have our attention open this tremendous gift.. Enjoy and..

  14. Keith says:

    Another gem from Jerry! The ideas discussed here can benefit all areas of our lives, as Jerry says. Sex for procreation, or sex for recreation, take away the prefix pro and the prefix re and you're left with creation. Creation is energy.

  15. Another gem from Keith I say. Yes to creation, our natural state.

  16. Jeff says:

    Thanks Jerry! Your the King OF Process!

  17. John says:

    The energy effects are immediate, and remarkable. Thanks for sharing. I can't wait for my partner to try it with me.

  18. Great article ~ I'm studying chi kung now, and this is the perfect opportunity to hone my skills 🙂

  19. Victoria says:

    What can I say. I am fan for life of Jerry Stocking. Working with him is opening the doors to a life worth living!
    Thanks, Jerry for the article and for YOU!

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  23. chrisgraves says:

    So how will I know if its working? I’m new to these.

  24. Curtis says:

    The part about “you don’t need your partner’s permission to do this” bothers me. I think consent should ALWAYS be obtained, especially when intentionally working with someone else’s energy.

  25. rudyink says:

    Yes, visualizing self and energy:

  26. about creativity says:

    I am willing.

  27. Excellent info more diagrams needed