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February 23, 2012

Beauty Shapes Us All.

 

When grace is joined with wrinkles, it is adorable. There is an unspeakable dawn in happy old age.
~ Victor Hugo

Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been.
~ Mark Twain

With mirth and laughter let old wrinkles come.
~ William Shakespeare

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~

Growing Old.

I’m 37. Not old, but not young.

I have many small scars that only I see and three that everyone can see. And I have many new wrinkles this year alone and thinning hair and weakening eyes (thanks, internets).

Nobody gets out of life alive, he used to say.

But I’ll wear big sharp black or tortoise shell glasses and look smart, finally, and I’ll wrinkle more and look like a poor man’s McQueen, and I’ll miss my hair but begin to look, finally, as if I’m mature (I’ll know better).

Aging happens to the best of us.

Aging is beautiful if the emotions that feed into our wrinkles are true and unobstructed by self-deception.

Pain, sadness, joy, a humor about oneself…honest wrinkles tell true stories that perfect plastic hides.

Beware the urge to hide, for we smother ourselves.

I (admit that I) often recoil in horror at the idea of being married to an old person. For that’s what happens when we get married: we all age and before we know it our lover is elderly (and so are we, of course). But then once in awhile I see an old woman who is active, her back unbent, her eyes bright, her white hair uncut, her day alive…and I say: wow.

She’s beautiful.

(Without condition)

For our task here is to practice loving our wrinkles, loving our hair loss. Love our aging. We must be among those who do not fight death but who still embrace life, and do not give in to it easily…and then our life and wisdom may unfurl like an epic, and

we may become more beautiful, with age.

 

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More: Getting Older Happens. This is what it looks like (warning: video autoplays).

And: The Buddha, on aging gracefully.

How to love yourself: Maitri!

How to stay healthy:

How to be human:

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Marc Brenner Jul 11, 2019 3:32pm

Who authored this? This is terffic-!! MB

Katherine DuBrall Jul 11, 2019 7:23am

I turn 59 today. I’m good, thanks.

Maggie McReynolds Dec 16, 2013 10:40pm

I want to like this, I do. But the truth is, not everyone ages gracefully and beautifully and like Meryl Streep. Not everyone avoids osteoporosis and a curved spine. Not everyone avoids liver spots, turkey wattle neck, weird teeth. I want to like this, but I think I'm hearing you say that you are only interested in aging alongside a BEAUTIFUL old woman. And you are only cool with aging. yourself, if you cast yourself as a poor man's version of Steve McQueen (who died too young, as it happens).

I want to like this, because you have good stuff to say. But I'm really stuck on the part where it's only cool to look old as long as you, well, look cool. Some of us are lucky enough to do so. I'm 54, and I think and am told I look pretty good. But one day, perhaps, I won't. I'll be baggy or saggy or something less than graceful and iconic. Perhaps, someday, you will be something less than that yourself. What then?

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