The 11th Step to Fairy Tale Love is Key.

Via Kate Bartolotta
on Feb 12, 2012
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10 steps to everlasting fairy tale love:

1. Start out “Once upon a Time” or in a picturesque setting.

2. Meet cute.

3.Overcome great obstacles like evil stepmothers, ogres or a fire swamp.

4. Kiss a lot.

5. Be irrepressibly cheerful and attract woodland creatures to help with daily tasks.

6. Bake something. (Singing helps too.)

7. Have a fairy godmother.

8. Actually, the more fairy guardians you have, the better!

9. Perfect breasts are a good idea too.

10. If all else fails, hire a miracle maker.


{But step #11 is the most important}

Fall in love with the whole world.

Fall in love with the present moment.

Stay broken.

Die over and over every moment.

and perhaps most importantly for your happily ever after:

“If you want to be happy, think first of others. If you want to be unhappy, think only of yourself.”

Fairy tales are fun to watch snuggled up on the couch with some popcorn, but a well-lived life dedicated to being of benefit?

That is the best adventure of all.


About Kate Bartolotta

Kate Bartolotta is a wellness cheerleader, yogini storyteller, and self-care maven. She also writes for Huffington Post, Yoga International, Mantra Yoga+ Health, a beauty full mind, The Good Men Project, The Green Divas, The Body Project, Project Eve, Thought Catalog and Soulseeds. Kate's books are now available on and Barnes & She is passionate about helping people fall in love with their lives. You can connect with Kate on Facebook and Instagram.


18 Responses to “The 11th Step to Fairy Tale Love is Key.”

  1. karlsaliter says:

    Right on, Kate.

  2. Andréa Balt says:

    Well said!
    But right now, I just feel like doing N.5. 🙂

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  3. I always have birds and chipmunks help me keep house! (Sometimes they sh*t in my hair though!)

  4. mccubma says:

    Thank you!!! Four years ago this Thursday — 16 February — I walked down the aisle to Storybook Love from The Princess Bride soundtrack (instrumental). Wonderful article to run across this week :o)

  5. Awwww! Congratulations!

  6. janet says:

    Great obstacles like…witches? This witch is not impressed nor amused. Enough of the use of that word in a negative way!!!!! Geeze!

  7. You know what, I almost didn't include that word for that very reason! Will change it right now. The fake Hollywood/Disney "witches" are obstacles in fairy tales, but that doesn't mean we need to perpetuate the idea. Thanks for your thoughts.

  8. melissa says:

    amen and amen to #11.
    fellow EJ contributor,

  9. The Princess Bride is hands downs one of the best movies ever!
    "As you wish."

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  11. Agreed. I never get tired of it. Inconceivable!

  12. UmaSimon says:

    Loved this article. Thanks,

  13. Katy Bruce says:

    Absolutely !!