On Love and Loneliness.

Via HawaH
on Mar 21, 2012
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On Love and Loneliness

Dedicated to J. Krishnamurti and all of those who have ever wondered if flowers get lonely.

You stood alone in the darkness, light pouring from your eyes, penetrating into the unknown, sailing into the vast waters of uncertainty.  We explored the deep trenches of your wrinkles, canyons of wisdom flowing into the steeple of inquiry. Sages breathe while both alive and dead; you breathed the water directly out of the air.

We stepped delicately into the river of your life, the sail of awareness hinged to your constant presence. We discussed with you tomorrow, peered at yesterday’s shadow, and peeled away all emotional attachment to discovery.

During your greatest triumph, you were in love with being alone.

You cracked the shell of solitude, a fertile egg birthing truth. A soldier of action renouncing all that is contrary to freedom, you spilled your heart into our lives. You held us in your embrace, gushed forth as the Ganges, mouth opened, you were climbing in the downward fall. We yearned to discover how we could, as you, love being so alone…

To taste you, we needed to discover that loneliness is none other than love, masked by the need for flavor.

To feel you, we needed to discover that loneliness is none other than love masked by the need for communication.

To hear you, we needed to discover that loneliness is none other than love masked by the need for attention.

To understand you we needed to discover that loneliness is none other than love…bare and naked, standing without protection, without shields or weapons.

Loneliness is none other than love made visible through sorrow and pain.

Loneliness is none other than love disguised in our need for relationship.

Loneliness is expressed through our need for each other, and in you we found that loneliness is needed for self-realization. For within the confines of our solitude we find the indivisible atom, the smallest particle, and the essence of our need.  In loneliness, we find you in love.

You loved loneliness.  Carried it with you as a feather tied to your heart.  You would occasionally remove it for us to see that you didn’t need it to fly.  We gazed you in the night sky.

Are the fireworks as captivating when you are by yourself?

Reflected in your eternal eyes, we saw the shell of sight and found that inside is the freedom for which we yearn. Freedom to love unconditionally, without fear of losing this view of paradise. For in paradise there is no comparison.

There is no view that one would rather prefer to have. In paradise, you are still in love, even while lonely.

In loneliness, the shell that keeps us confined is broken. Our isolation is no more. For in our solitude there is no shell, there is only the truth of our being, a shining interconnected reality toward all of creation.

To understand why we are never alone requires we put ourselves through loneliness. This is when freedom is found; in our greatest moment of surrender…our weakness…when it has all fallen apart and we realize finally that we can never be alone.

For loneliness is a perpetual state of ultimate freedom, of barren naked love.


Editor: Kate Bartolotta



About HawaH

HawaH is an artist, author, educator, yoga teacher and community organizer. In the year 2000, he co-founded One Common Unity, a non-profit organization that inspires a culture of non-violence through arts, media and music. He has released four books, two musical CD’s, and produced three documentary films. His fourth book, The Poetry Of Yoga, is a 2 volume anthology set featuring the writing of 300+ yogi poets from 19 different countries. In his spare time he enjoys: finding new foods to mix with chocolate, climbing trees and buildings, doing handstands on furniture, hiking through mountains with flip flops, body surfing ocean waves, making animal sounds and bird calls, enjoying a glass of wine at high altitude, lighting candles in dark rooms and traveling. His personal work can be discovered at Everlutionary.


20 Responses to “On Love and Loneliness.”

  1. Such beautiful, poetic reflections on loneliness inspired by your teacher! Thank you for sharing them with us. Many echoed with places into which I have also been moved as a result of loneliness. They reminded me of a aspect of bhakti yoga (vipralambha bhava) that honors loneliness as a state that brings us close to -as you say- realizing that we are never really alone. Or, as Braja Sorensen says at the end of her article (below): "…through the extreme emotions experienced in the state of vipralambha-bhava, the ornaments of love in separation decorate the mood of love in union." So, in the end, our own loneliness leads us to a perception of unity. Lovely post! Thank you again. http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/10/absence-an

  2. HawaH, beautiful piece. Resonates with me on a cellular level and echoes themes about which I have written as well.

    I've featured it on EJ FB page: https://www.facebook.com/elephantjournal

    Jeannie Page

  3. Capri says:

    During your greatest triumph, you were in love with being alone.

  4. lisa lindenlaub says:

    So beautiful! The fullness of the human experience. The depths of the heart.

    “For lonliness is the perpetual state of freedom, barren naked love.”

    Yes! Thank you for thesed words.

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  6. ValCarruthers says:

    Gorgeous, HawaH. The perfection of loneliness is love and freedom.

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  7. HawaH says:

    Thanks Valerie!

  8. HawaH says:

    Sweet, give thanks Tanya for helping to make this piece more visible!

  9. HawaH says:

    thanks Lisa… amazing to what we can write when we're lonely:)

  10. HawaH says:

    During our greatest triumph, we were together as one…

  11. HawaH says:

    Thanks Jeannie… yes yes, i think loneliness and depression may be one of the hugest obstacles we face… i wonder if our individual cells ever get lonely:)

  12. Candace says:

    Love this Hawah….

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    No words for this…

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  20. HawaH says:

    Thanks Candace for the positive vibes!