How to Deal With Emotional Stress. ~ Dr. Peter Lind

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on Sep 12, 2012
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Emotional stress happens when your negative emotions begin growing out of control and taking over your life.

Why do you set things up in your life the way you do? Do you feel like you sabotage yourself constantly, not allowing yourself to feel successful or important?

You have a blueprint of your emotional self that was either given to you or you created it. Many things in your life add to this blueprint giving you happiness and joy, but there are many things in your life that cause you to feel anxious, angry or depressed.

Every emotional stress is related to one of these following negative emotions:

1. Fear. Fear is one of your most destructive emotions. It is you being afraid of something, a person or an action that you don’t want; that you are really afraid of. Fear is one of your greatest enemies, but you can work through your fear by harmonizing with God, by gaining Wisdom and Truth. You have to pursue each of these while going through a fear and this will be a large part of your healing and recovery process.

2. Rejection. You feel rejection when you need approval. When you don’t feel approval you feel rejection. Do this: work through rejection by declaring yourself important, worthwhile and needed by yourself and others around you. It’s really true—you just have to look for it.

3. Worry. Worry is a destructive mindset and a negative thinking that will dominate your waking thoughts. It is related to fear. People who worry will suffer pain and illness. To eliminate worry you must acknowledge what you know to be real and true and spend your thoughts on things that you find meaning in.

4. Anger. Anger is an emotion that comes from your need for power and domination, when you can’t overpower and dominate something or someone. Anger is stimulated by a need for revenge. Anger gives way to hatred and this fills a life of trouble. To become free of anger you must begin by eliminating your weakness of being irritable and feelings of rejection. Every person who feels anger and has the need for power and domination will eventually fall.

5. Jealousy. Jealousy is a character that grows out of vanity and greed. If you are jealous you demand attention from people. Jealousy will weaken and destroy all relationships. When it is full of envy and distrust it is a strong repelling force. Begin moving towards a state of unselfish love to eliminate jealousy in your life.

6. Criticism. When you criticize people, places or things, you propel the most common form of negative thought. Blaming, judging and condemning lead to criticism. These are all dangerous. Stop it. Criticism leads to destructive habits and passions. You will grow out of criticism when you give happy, positive and encouraging thoughts to yourself and others.

7. Vanity. Vanity is the addictive need for approval and praise of others. It is related to pride. We are full of ourselves. To eliminate vanity, you must find true and lasting meaning in your life and some kind of a connection to God.

8. Hate. Hatred is an emotional outgrowth of anger and aggression. Hatred comes from fear. All hatred is disastrous. It darkens the soul, poisons the mind and inflicts suffering on the body. The opposite of hatred is love. You have to learn to love.

There are many other destructive thoughts, feelings and emotions that will bring you stress. These are the most common and the most negatively powerful ones you will encounter. In fact, if you work on just these alone, many other negative emotions will fall by the wayside.

To change your emotional blueprint you must first identify the type of emotional stress you are experiencing the most. Then begin recognizing ways to find its opposite emotion and work to bring this into your life. It will if you continue focusing on it.

Be warned—unrecognized and uncorrected emotional states will turn into far worse physical and emotional health problems.

If you desire love, you must set up a place in your being to accept love. You must welcome it and place it in your life.

If you have conflicts in your life, you need to resolve them. If you have contradictions, saying one thing and doing another, it may be time to clear them out. It may start with forgiveness of yourself and those others who may need it from you.

Life is too short to allow emotional stress to control you anymore and it’s time to create a game plan of action.

Dr. Peter Lind is the author of three books on health, one novel and hundreds of wellness articles. His clinical specialty is in physical, nutritional and emotional stress in Salem, Oregon, USA. If you found value in this article he has designed for you a Free 7 Day Stress Management Course. Visit his website.


Editor: Jamie Morgan

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10 Responses to “How to Deal With Emotional Stress. ~ Dr. Peter Lind”

  1. In my experience of helping people cope with emotional stress, identifying the specific emotion is indeed important, but it is only the first step. Once you know what emotion is troubling you, you then need to pinpoint the internal causes, so you can do something about them. This is not as hard as most people think it is, it's just that our society has trained us to look outside of ourselves to understand the causes of our emotions, which is a very incomplete way to understand why we feel the ways we do.

  2. Beverly Alexander says:

    This article felt ripe to have our inner critic, super ego or whatever you want to call it come forward. My experience for my self personally and the clients I have worked with as a therapist for many years is that you have to make friends with all these states he list. Not try to morph them into something else. And then explore what they are about as Doc Orman mentioned in the comment above. Telling ourselves to "stop it!" as the article states just sounds like a bossy parent. Most adults have probably had enough of that. How about we use curiosity and inquiry to find out more about ourselves and who we really want to be.

  3. MollyDeShong says:

    As I've been taught — in both Buddhist and mindfulness traditions–emotions are not to be shunned. They are pure, raw, natural energy. It's what we make of them and do with them that causes us 'stress.'

  4. riverwhy says:

    I heartily agree with the above comments. I have been dealing with anger as long as I can remember. To say anger comes from a need for domination and power is extremely short sighted. Anger stems from a lack of empowerment, a feeling of being victimized, marginalized or rejected – I don't wish domination over anyone or anything – just fairness, kindness, justice. While intellectually i know we are all born whole and complete, that is not how I feel. I work hard within the Buddhist and yogic frameworks to heal some very deepseated wounds. this article does seem to point a finger of blame for those of us who can't just "stop it" Can we be done with blame and shame and really open our hearts to understanding where this energy arises and gain insight to our innate wholeness and basic goodness?

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  7. Marie G. White says:

    I must agree with what you've mentioned that identifying the emotions you have inside your inner self is just the first step in order for you to overcome such emotional stress /a>you are going through at the moment. A professional help plus the comfort from your family and friends could also be a good factor in order to overcome such troubled situations.