Breaking up doesn’t have to be Drama {Sweet Video}.

Via Waylon Lewis
on Dec 6, 2012
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It can be Sad, & Friendly.

And, Catchy: See Video.

With thanks to Jocelyn for the tip.

Via Gawker, in an eloquent post:

Jonathan and Ivory have been together for five years. But Jonathan wants to have kids, and Ivory really doesn’t. So they have to break up, and they’re telling all of their friends (and the world) by singing about it together in a music video.

I don’t know Jonathan or Ivory, but their song almost made me cry. Breaking up “is a mess,” as they point out, but it doesn’t have to be a dramatic hatefest. Their song is matter-of-fact and earnest, but also, well, beautiful.

Here’s my favorite stanza…click for the rest.

We’ve Got to Break Up:

Yes, it’s true folks. Ivory and I are splitting up. It’s really sad. I’m really sad. I think you may have been able to tell in some recent songs. It’s going to be a hard road ahead for me, but I know that this is the right decision and that eventually we’ll both be happier in the end.

I just want to say, thanks for being out there, watching my stuff and commenting and sending me messages. Your support and love during this time of crisis in my life means so, so much.

We’ve Got To Break Up
Song A Day #1435

F Gm
I want to have kids
F Am
And I really don’t
F Gm C
I wish that she would someday
Dm C
But I really won’t F Bb
So we’ve got to break up
Dm C
It’s the only way
Cause I will resent her
And that’s not fair
We still care about each other
But this train has stopped
Dm C
We just needed you to know F
That we’ve got to break up

And breaking up’s a mess
So please be there for us
You don’t have to choose
Though it’ll be awkward, yes
Invite us to your parties
We will work it out
Don’t feel weird
We love all of you
After 5 whole years
By each other’s side
There are just somethings
No relationship can survive

I wanna have babies
I don’t wanna

I wanna have babies
I don’t wanna have babies
Couple of babies
I don’t want to have any
Couple of babies


About Waylon Lewis

Waylon Lewis, founder of elephant magazine, now & host of Walk the Talk Show with Waylon Lewis, is a 1st generation American Buddhist “Dharma Brat." Voted #1 in U.S. on twitter for #green two years running, Changemaker & Eco Ambassador by Treehugger, Green Hero by Discovery’s Planet Green, Best (!) Shameless Self-Promoter at Westword's Web Awards, Prominent Buddhist by Shambhala Sun, & 100 Most Influential People in Health & Fitness 2011 by "Greatist", Waylon is a mediocre climber, lazy yogi, 365-day bicycle commuter & best friend to Redford (his rescue hound). His aim: to bring the good news re: "the mindful life" beyond the choir & to all those who didn't know they gave a care. | His first book, Things I would like to do with You, is now available.


5 Responses to “Breaking up doesn’t have to be Drama {Sweet Video}.”

  1. eleanor says:


  2. Guest says:

    why would someone stay with another person for 5 years if having kids was that important to them but not to the other person?

  3. really?? says:

    i broke up with my love after being together 9 years and not over something as retarded as this!! like really get a friggin life you two.

  4. cocodemer says:

    Loved it. Also, in reply to really? and post, I really do not think you can judge having a baby as something retarded or that you can plan ahead for. A couple needs time to flourish, sometimes a lot of it, and if they realize they are not on the same page on such an important issue, too bad they need to break up but love is never wasted methinks!!!

  5. Jessica says:

    ^I agree! Who are you guys to say it's dumb? Maybe they were youngish when they got together and didn't know what they wanted. It's obviously not easy for them, and this seems to be a coping/healing mechanism so get a life and stop criticizing.