January 20, 2013

7 Ways to Let Go of Insults from an A**hole.

How to Not Let Jerks Bother You.

As a blogger and as a human being, I receive feedback from others—some of which can feel like a personal assault.

The reality of life is that not everyone out there likes making other people happy. Sadly, there are people who actually derive enjoyment from being nasty to others.

So, here’s how you can refuse to not let those jerks upset your equilibrium:

1. Assess what was said objectively.

If the assault was verbal, then assess if you agree with what was said. Could you take it and use it as constructive criticism even if the delivery was less than ideal? Or was this person’s statement to you really only useful as a weapon of hurt (because there was nothing truthful or helpful in it)?

If your honest answer is the former, then try as hard as you can to turn your unpleasant interaction into self-improvement, and if not, then allow your mind to focus on the positive reality of you.

2. Understand where he/she was coming from.

If the offensive person doesn’t deserve to be treated with understanding, you do. Take time to assess the underlying why behind this person’s aggression.

Is she jealous of you? Does she feel threatened?

Granted, you can’t crawl inside another person’s head, so you’ll never know for sure where she was coming from, but it will help you to let go of hurtful words.

3. Learn self-love.

Treating yourself with love is something that should be practiced. Notice, and then focus on, what you like and enjoy about yourself and your life. Go out of your way to not permit negative self statements to live inside your thoughts. There is something real in the idea that thoughts become words and words become actions, so try to force your inner voice to speak with kindness.

With time, it will become your fluent, first language.

4. Talk to someone who loves you.

Hopefully you have someone in your life who loves you and always makes you feel better. This can be anyone: your partner, your mom, sister, or just a dear friend. Sometimes the easiest way to let go of something hurtful is to unload to another person—and let them say the right things to lift you back up.

5. Have fun.

Often we just need to clear our energy. Do something you love. Practice yoga and dedicate your mat time to a quality you love about yourself. Watch a silly movie with a friend. Whatever it is, it doesn’t matter. Relax and enjoy yourself.

6. Remember what matters.

Don’t give assholes more importance in your life than they deserve. Sometimes the thing that helps me the most is looking at my two-year-old daughter.

7. Reclaim your own power.

I kind of hate that statement that no one has the ability to make you feel bad without your permission, because people do make us feel bad. Still, there’s a deeper truth in this.

In the end, you are the only one who decides to carry around your baggage and to allow other people to affect you. So reclaim your right to your own happiness and to your own personal power. Feel strong in the awareness that, while someone might say things about you, it doesn’t make them true—and it doesn’t have to be your reality.

Remember, if you meet 500 strangers, there will be 500 different opinions of you, but the only one that matters is yours.


Letting to of hurtful words and interactions with others is challenging—but it is possible.

Most importantly, when we stop carrying around unnecessary baggage, we make room to invite bigger and better things (and people) into our lives—and into ourselves.



Like elephant I’m not “Spiritual.” I just practice being a good person on Facebook.



Ed: Bryonie Wise


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