If Your Dreams Don’t Scare You, They’re Not Big Enough. ~ Donna Williams

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on Feb 1, 2013
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Tell You What I Want, What I Really, Really Want.

Two of my dearest friends and I had the good fortune and pleasure to spend a weekend in the mountains together recently. I have known them both for years but it was the first time they had met. It was one of those too rare 48 hours where you find yourselves feeling utterly connected to nature, to the earth, to each other and where the conversation and wine flow and souls are bared.

One friend is just a few months back from a year’s tour du monde with his family, a gap year for the three of them, his wife and daughter included. Finally we had the time together to really talk of how they as a family found their way to this year together and of the treasured moments they discovered within it.

Most striking to me was how they decided and planned this gap year. Decided on the back of a conversation about what they and their friends all really thought about various life issues, and planned by asking each other what do you really want?

What do you really want? Boy does this question stick with me.

When was the last time I had asked myself that question and answered honestly? I’m pretty good at asking but as soon as I go to reply the answer actually becomes “this is what I think is possible” or “this is what I think I should do for my career” or “this is what my friends and family want.”

It’s hard not to let our conditioning and society’s pressures answer the question for us.

What in my heart of hearts do I really want? What does my soul long for? What will satisfy the deep yearning inside of me?

I think the only way to answer this question is to do it spontaneously. So here’s what I really want, written in no particular order but with spontaneity and fervor.

I want to sleep in for a month with no reason to get up, no place to be and nothing to do.

I want to wake up every morning and gasp at the incredible and beautiful views that surround me.

I want to ease my way into the day with long cups of Earl Grey, good books and quietness.

I want to experiment with my yoga practice for hours at a time, falling, giggling, and conquering.

I want to feel space inside every part of my body and all around me.

I want to fall deeply in love in a way that feels warm and secure and crazy and passionate all at once.

I want to teach all kinds of yoga to all kinds of people and bask in the pleasure of practicing together.

I want to watch the entire collection of Star Wars movies back to back on a cold rainy day, snuggled on the most comfortable sofa in the world. Then the next day I want to do the same with all the Godfather films.

I want to blog my heart out, putting it all out there in the hope that someone feels just the same.

I want to cook beautiful fresh food and feed my body with so much prana it starts to glow.

I want to listen every day to deep silence where all I can hear is the beat of own my heart and my long slow breathing.

I want to ski so madly I can barely breathe.

I want to feel deeply, deeply connected to everything and everyone around me.

I want to feel breathless every day because I am so overwhelmed by what nature has to offer.

I want to hike to such high remote places that I become terrified and exhilarated by the power of the mountains and Mother Nature.

I want to love myself completely every single day.

For so long I have not defined what I really want. When I look at this list above it hardly seems impossible, in fact it almost seems as if the list is full of simple things.

They say good things come in threes. We were three that weekend in the mountains, one with his tour du monde to stimulate the thinking, me to think about what do I really want, and the third I’m still to mention.

As luck, or the universe would have it, the third friend in that weekend medley is one who believes in possibility. A belief that in fact means we do not know from second to second what is possible. There are possibilities out there every day that we have not even thought of.

So I write my list of what I really want with the conviction that anything and everything is possible and the belief that just because I do not know all the possibilities does not mean they could not happen.

And so as we all slide or slink into 2013, I make this my year of pleasure, prana and most importantly possibility.

And I choose to believe that all the things I really want will come true.

And I dare you, to write your own list of what you really want and to believe that it is all possible. I mean seriously, how hard can it be to spend a day watching Star Wars?

Donna Williams

Donna Williams, (also known as Donnapranahanumanasana to her closest friends), is an Australian wannabe yogi living in Switzerland, learning and teaching yoga at the hippest studio in Geneva.  She spends her days listening to people talk about “life saving stuff” in her “very important job” for a humanitarian organization whilst harboring a secret desire to become a recluse in the Swiss alps and teach mountain people yoga.

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Ed: Apprentice Feingold/ Lynn Hasselberger


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22 Responses to “If Your Dreams Don’t Scare You, They’re Not Big Enough. ~ Donna Williams”

  1. Kathy Kwasnicki says:

    OH Donna !! wow .. first one that grabbed me * I want to wake up every morning and gasp at the incredible and beautiful views that surround me. then omg .* I want to feel breathless every day because I am so overwhelmed by what nature has to offer. & Yes ! *And I dare you, to write your own list of what you really want and to believe that it is all possible. Thank you for your inspiration and exhuberance for life, love and Yoga! kathy✫*¨`*✶♪

  2. Donna says:

    Beautiful Kathy write your list with every pore of your being and feel it in your soul, all your dreams will come true for sure. Xxx

  3. Kathy says:

    sp chk * "Exuberance" ~ abounding in vigour and high spirits; full of vitalitylightness in spirit.
    Synonyms: animation, buoyancy, cheerfulness, cheeriness, comfort, delight, encouragement, exuberance, gaiety, good feeling, good humor, happiness, high spirits, jollity, liveliness, pep, spiritedness, sunniness, happiness, geniality, gladness, glee, good cheer, hilarity, hopefulness, joy, joyousness, lightheartedness, liveliness, merriment, merry-making, optimism, solace .. yes this sounds like you 🙂 .. k

  4. Jo B says:

    Fab article Donna…I think we all know what we want but actually doing something about it is something different! Good luck with the yoga teaching…

  5. Mark Matthews says:

    Well done Donna. A great sentiment and timely. Thanks for helping me remember why we're on this journey.

  6. Donna says:

    Enjoying the ride/journey along the way is the fun part isn't it Mark? 🙂 I'm sure yours is a great one.

  7. Donna says:

    HeyJo, forget feeling like you have to go out there and do something about what you really want and just start by shouting all your dreams and desires to the roof tops, to the stars and to the universe. You'll be surprised what comes back to you almost instantaneously!

  8. Seetha says:

    How simple it seems this journey to our authentic selves…thank you

  9. Kathy says:

    yes … have made many over the years, and each time, more clarity and juicyness * all inspired free flow writing in my journal . now too being realized .. you are a mirror reflecting what is possible for sooo many 🙂
    * So lovely & truely beautiful. I can see your heart shining here .. k xoxo

  10. Kara says:

    Wow. This is beautiful. You really speak to the soul of what most people struggle with. And even if they don’t and are somehow already living the lives they dreamed of they often forget to appreciate what they do have. Every day. Sometimes until you feel like you have it figured out just having gratitude and asking the question is the beginning to an amazing journey. Thank you for sharing this. Exquisite and delicious Miss D.

  11. Meredith says:

    Well said Donna Prana! Inspiring!

  12. Eoin FInn says:

    Yeah, let your passions out, Donna-Prana! You know at least one person here truly knows what you mean when you blog.. And I am with you watching Star Wars when we aren't breathlessly held in the spell of Nautre!

  13. Donna says:

    Thanks x 1 billion Eoin and Meredith – feeling the bliss from you both – mucho love xxxx

  14. Rima says:

    I am definitely writing my own list of things too. In that same no particular order..! Thanks for inspiring us and a happy 2013 to everyone:-)

  15. Loretta Joseph says:

    Thankyou for saying what my conditioning and control has stopped me doing for years.

    You are so right Donna , things do come in threes and reading that was my third reason for bringing the change I saw but couldn’t execute in 2013 until now.

    FYI in no mountain person so I’ll swap that part for the beach!

    Good luck, god bless and Namaste!

  16. Donna says:

    You're so very welcome Loretta 🙂 I'm sure you will indeed make the changes you need but most importantly those that you really want in your life. Enjoy the beach for me and let its beauty feed your soul. D x

  17. Nicole Boaden says:

    Well old friend ‘I Like it’. Enjoyed reading your article. I’m a believer in a time and a season but I love the possibilities for personal growth this life affords us all no matter the circumstance. I did smirked at the thought of my once high school swimming buddy, girl from a little country town on the East coast of Australia yoga’n her heart out to the theme music of Star Wars. You rock sista, I admire your ‘prana’ (had to look up that word) and adventurous spirit. Look where it’s taken you! So many wonderful places and people have enriched your life… Such blessings. You have such a great attitude I just know you will live it all and make the most of ever high and low this life has to offer. xo Nic

  18. Donna says:

    So beautiful Nicky, both our journeys are incredible and amazing aren't they and despite being so different they teach us many of the same life lessons. Would love to be in touch more. Mucho hugs. D x

  19. Amy Asay says:

    Donna, your article is inspiring, exuberant, and full of love!! It’s so YOU!! I am so proud of you for sharing your passion for life!! One problem: it made me miss you like CRAZY!!!

  20. karlsaliter says:

    Nice one, Donna.

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