3 Incredibly Important Questions Everyone Needs to Answer. ~ Thandiwe Ogbonna

Via elephant journal
on Apr 30, 2013
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Photo: Jon McGovern
Photo: Jon McGovern

Do you know the difference between an end goal and a means goal?

The distinction is one that is often muddied or lost as we live our day-to-day lives. We all have passions, desires, wishes (end goals), but we can get so caught up in the things we think we need to have first to make those things happen (means goals) that we lose sight of what it is we really want out of life.

This is how we can come to find ourselves in a place of complete dissatisfaction with our lives. We take detours (some we think will be shortcuts) on our paths to happiness and fulfillment, and end up at destinations far removed from our original intentions (if we even had them to start with).

So how do we get back on track?

Vishen Lakhiani, CEO of Mindvalley—an innovative company working to promote enlightened ideas—offers this useful exercise to anyone needing a reorientation. The results may be surprising (and eye-opening).

Here are a few of my answers:

1. What do I want to experience?

  • world travel
  • performing on stage
  • living on the beach

2. How do I want to grow?

3. What do I want to contribute to the planet?

  • art
  • charity events
  • mindful writing

Comment below and share yours.

p.s. You don’t need an iPhone.

“I want to get everyone…to bypass the rules of the industrial age of society, to forget about what society says you gotta do step by step, but to go straight toward that end goal, toward the very essence of being human.” ~ Vishen Lakhiani


Thandiwe OgbonnaAn aspiring hoop dancer who dreams of flying, Thandiwe Ogbonna is a recently graduated, sometimes aggravated, partially animated and fully fascinated editor, who timidly ventures into the minefield of writing. You can visit her blog Musical Meditations and Magic Moments or find it on Facebook, or email her at [email protected].

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6 Responses to “3 Incredibly Important Questions Everyone Needs to Answer. ~ Thandiwe Ogbonna”

  1. Renee says:

    Wonderful! My top answers:
    1. Experience: Limitless options and resources
    2. Growth: Have an open heart, always
    3. Contribution: Hope

  2. Ella Wagemakers says:

    My most important answers:
    1. guilt-free happiness
    2. write better poetry
    3. art of inner peace

  3. Jovanni says:

    1. World travel, LOVe, adventures
    2. More confidence, be @ peace with myself, allow creativity to flow freely
    3. Art via photography, volunteering, help restore the environment.

  4. Rezavoir says:

    1. Work while traveling with my partner.
    2. Deepen my yoga practice, my knowledge of partner dance and my DJ/production/remix skills to facilitate conscious dance.
    3. Engender greater awareness of body and mind through yoga, dance, and music.

  5. Sylvia M. Calderón says:

    I am 67.
    Today I woke up with the realization that I may die at any moment.
    So what I want is to enjoy and appreciate every moment of my Life, alone and with others.
    The rest just flows.

  6. Emily says:

    1) Live simply with few but meaningful possessions, record an album, marry someone who is my equal, live in Chamonix, France

    2) learn French, learn how to mountaineer, be able to better let go of negativity

    3) lead by example, be the rock my friends need, love unconditionally