May 22, 2013

Beating the “I Want It All, Now” Syndrome. ~ Carly Shankman

There is truth in the saying “slow and steady wins the race.”

It’s incredibly easy to get online and check out my friend’s pictures on Facebook or learn about the new diet my friend’s on and feel like I am falling behind in regards to where I should be.

This act of comparing myself to others sets me up to feel like I’m working too slow, not doing enough or failing.

I wonder how they got to be so smart and what resources they’re using. I think, “Wow—they are lucky to have the time, money, brainpower, etcetera to create that.”

The thing that I continually need to remind myself of is that they don’t have anything that I don’t—it’s about grabbing life by the balls and running full powered with your dream, taking one step each and every day to move in the direction we want to go.

We are all on a journey…but at different points. Create a conscious shift to be grateful for where you are and excited about where you are going.

Eighty percent of the population isn’t moving toward anything—they are perfectly fine where they are and have no intention of creating anything extraordinary—but not you!

You’re striving for more; that, my friend, is a victory in and of itself.

I see this time and time again when I start coaching people.

Session one usually goes something like this,

“I want to lose 10 pounds, eat all organic food, have a six pack, never touch alcohol again and run a marathon in two months. I’ve got two months, Carly, work your magic.”

Whoa, baby! Let’s put the brakes on. The excitement of creating something new, transforming and growing creates the, “I want it all, now” syndrome.

I kinda sound like that with my business these days. I work two jobs and am in two school programs and I’ve made a commitment to live healthfully, spiritually, emotionally and physically, as a single-27-year-old-busy-professional-trying-to-maintain-a-social-life.

Daunting, much?

It can all be done, step-by-step. One foot in front of another. Day by day.

The “I want it all, now” syndrome does not serve you and it doesn’t serve me.

Focusing on the answers to the following questions will help beat that gotta-get-it-all-done-now-monster.

What goal are you working towards now?

In what area of your life do you need to apply slow and steady changes and growth to reach your goals?

Remember: it can all be done, step-by-step—one foot in front of another.

Day by day.


Carly Shankman is a certified holistic health coach on a mission to create a happier, healthier world through whole food nutrition. She believes that mental, spiritual and physical health are not exclusive of one another. In order to reach optimal (I love my life & body) health, we must look at the whole being; relationships, work environment, spiritual practices, exercise patterns, relationship with food and the food you are selecting to fuel your beautiful body. Connect with Carly on her website www.carlyshankman.com and FB.


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