Ravishing Ishtar: Reclaiming Masculine & Feminine Fierceness. ~ Rebecka Eggers

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Inciting the Rose to Blossom.

“With the disconnect from the Sacred there is no transcendence, merely acquisitive, ego-feeding need. Our worth is counted in a youth bought in extension with face creams, and our sexual allure propped up with Viagra and cut with cocaine…If we are going to be whores, we should fuck and feast as if we were divine. These are our last days on earth.”

~ Peter Grey, The Red Goddess

Something has been lost in the New Age rush toward the light. Fierceness is missing in action! We are afraid of it.

We have seen fierce men savage the land, tear women apart with sexual violation and vanquish any sense of feminine value with simple acts of cruel dismissal. We have also seen the shadow masculine channeled through large organizations and regimes that are now self-perpetuating. Their energy of dominance and exploitation has taken on a life of its own.

We have seen fierceness in women turn them into exhausted, near dead copies of the masculine “ideal.” They have lost themselves in striving and conquering. I have been there.

In an effort to restore some love and wisdom to this world, we have asked men and women alike to return to softness. In our effort to contain the kind of masculine aggression that leads to domestic violence and sexual abuse, we have also enshrined victimhood as an ideal. The rush towards the light seems to demand that we tiptoe around trying not to offend anyone’s delicate sensibilities and working to make sure nothing that looks like aggression becomes a part of our bedroom dance.

Meanwhile, a blowout is happening on the other end of the spectrum.

The rush to the light hasn’t solved anything. It has only caused the mass rejection of fierceness and the characterization of all aggression as a sin worthy of excommunication from the progressive community. All this emphasis on the light to the exclusion of anything resembling darkness has only sent aggression and fierceness underground rather than giving it its rightful expression in the warrior archetype. We have tried to exorcise the warrior. It is now expressing as the opposite pole to the passivity that runs rampant in the New Age community.

Ishtar is the Babylonian goddess of love and war. There is good reason for this. Love and war go hand in hand.

The male lover who lacks the warrior’s fierceness and commitment to a transpersonal cause is a Don Juan running about the streets with a bouquet of flowers in one hand and his dick in the other. The female lover who lacks the warrior opens her knees indiscriminately without asking for honor and reverence or else she gets lost in the idle romantic fantasies of the Don Juan seeing only the flowers.

She mistakes seduction for love. Over and over again, her heart is broken.

The warrior without the lover is just a soldier. A soldier either expresses as unbridled, indiscriminate aggression or his aggression is directed by his orders. A soldier doesn’t know what he is fighting for.

When the right set up is in place, both fierceness and aggression are part of the love dance. They are a natural, normal, and desirable part of life and of manifesting everything from dreams and goals to passionate relationships. It isn’t the content we need to look at. It is the context.

There is so much talk these days about honoring the goddess. Much of the dialogue centers around having more pleasurable sexual experiences as if being sweet to the divine feminine (and to the women who stand as vessels for her) will solve everything.

I have come to know Ishtar over months of working with her. I have offered myself as a conduit for her over and over again. I don’t think she is interested in sweet. I don’t think she cares whether you have better orgasms or not, at least not as an end all be all for sacred sexual engagement.

There was a time in Babylon when the high priestess and her male consort came together in fertility rites. Both masculine and feminine energies and the exchange of those energies was seen as vital to thriving crops and a thriving civilization. I get the sense these were fierce, aggressive primal rites as much as they were soft and pleasurable.

The high priestess and the priest made love in possession states. They opened to the divine and gave it full expression in human form. In this context of mutuality and complementary opposites, aggression and fierceness were not a problem.

Women didn’t need to ask for honor and reverence. It was built into the culture.

If I am honored and revered, my lover can pin me up against the wall and take me with all the fierceness he can muster. I will return the fierceness thrust for thrust. Without honor and reverence, he needn’t touch me at all. He will only come to know my fierceness in another capacity. He will incite the ferocity of my warrior.

I think Ishtar would approve.

I don’t intend to sound like I am angry at men. Women have played a huge part in creating the dynamics of the hedonistic, pleasure focused sexuality that has emerged. We have settled for sweet in the place of reverence and asked men to be soft so we could feel assured that nothing will ever get out of control.

Women have often put on the victim role and kept it on long after it ceased to serve any useful purpose such as exposing and addressing a violation. We have been so afraid of men that we have rejected anyone who actually behaves like a man. We have settled for fly boys, men lacking commitment to anything beyond the present moment.

Fly boys make love with one foot out the door as they kiss you tenderly. A distraction!

Women have been focused on all the wrong things. We have only asked that we never have to confront the edge of our comfort zone and that we never have to process the abuse we have suffered so we can leave it behind. We have paid a terrible price for our comfort.

We have victimized ourselves over and over again and we have used the fly boys to do it.

As for men, how many are willing to truly take on the responsibility of being a conduit for the god, a pillar of the thriving community, the seed that makes the crops grow? How many men are willing to go even further by cultivating their masculine power in its fullest and then bringing the fertility rites within? Who is willing to seed the womb of the Ishtar that lives within the soul of every man instead of projecting his creative capacity and sensuality on the women around him?

This is the true order of things. Learn to love yourself and to care for yourself and your desires first.

Commit to becoming the master of yourself. I will do the same.

And I am calling my sisters. Awaken priestess! Come to the temple and worship and then know yourself as the living temple of the goddess.

Ishtar’s flower is the rose. Every woman is her priestess. Let the rosebud remain tightly closed until a warrior lover comes along and incites the rose to blossom. Then let him ravish Ishtar with every ounce of fierceness he can bring.

Let him fiercely support her in her shining. Let him fiercely defend her temple against all assaults that would diminish or degrade the value of womanhood. Let him fiercely commit to her happiness and to the children of their union whether they be spiritual or physical. Let him fiercely plant both feet squarely on the ground and love her ecstatically. Let him fiercely witness her in ecstasy as she bathes his loins in the living waters of her womb. Let him fiercely drink of her nectar and know that it is sweet.

“Life has always taken place in a tumult without apparent cohesion, but it only finds its grandeur and its reality in ecstasy and in ecstatic love.”

~ George Bataille


Rebecka Eggers bio picRebecka Eggers, Freedom Activator and Passion Priestess, is trained as a Metaphysical Minister, a Co-Active Life Coach, and a Reiki Master. After spending the better part of 20 years working as a transactional tax attorney, Rebecka had a spiritual awakening that changed the course of her life. She now lives in Southern Mexico where she is trailblazing The Passion Path. The Passion Path is the power path of initiation into whole-hearted, skillful living. It begins at the crossroads where the path of lessons and obstacles meets the path of opportunities, growth, and transformation. If you feel like you have been chained up at the crossroads for what seems like an eternity, Rebecka is available to guide you in the process of claiming your freedom and your power so you can get on your Passion Path. You can find out more about Rebecka and the programs she offers at rebeckaeggers.com. Connect with Rebecka on Facebook, Twitter or Google +.


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31 Responses to “Ravishing Ishtar: Reclaiming Masculine & Feminine Fierceness. ~ Rebecka Eggers”

  1. Lisa says:

    Thank you Rebeka, this was beautiful!

  2. Geoff Withnell says:

    Thank you for honoring warriors! The true warrior masters himself. He directs his aggression to exalting and protecting his loved ones. Beautiful!

  3. Lara Taylor says:

    I absolutely love this article. I have 'known' this… but not been aware. Many thanks <3

  4. muriel says:

    good sex is about raising energy. and concentrating it.

  5. Steve says:

    Fuck Yes!
    So inspiring reading a woman with passion, heart, ferocity and plain old FEMALENESS. So refreshing to read a blog about sex & relationships that is not dripping with niceness.
    You echo and express words that reach a place in me aching to be released.
    The King and the Warrior are heartless cruel, power hungry, soul destroying forces, without the lover providing the grace, compassion and joy to live a full, passionate life as an empowered sexual being.
    Thank you for expressing the power of your being. HO!

    • Rebecka says:

      Thank you Steve for your passionate response. I agree with you. Dripping with niceness is not getting us anywhere. The archetypes you mention have been beautifully articulated by people like Robert Bly and others. It is so important that we all, men and women alike, recover these archetypes and integrate them.

      Thank you for offering such a personal and profound window into your soul work.

  6. motheroak says:

    RAWR! finally an awesome pagan post on elephant that i can get behind! =)

  7. Paul Terrell says:

    Thank you Rebekka. As you point out, The New Age movement has muddied issues and created confusion around understanding and embodying maleness and femaleness. It appears that you have deepened your understanding through identification with archetype. This is the shamanic way, as I understand it, to drop personality through some form of trance state and embody the archetype of choice. As a man who has trained as a warrior I can say that I scare the hell out of many men while most women's energy opens and increases. So many men are frightened of conflict, usually because they do not have the tools or capacity for conflict resolution and thus find themselves playing victim. Actually conflict is the way we men, when in groups, find our place in the pecking order. Then we work well as a group. These days, the lack of commitment to engage in conflict means we men behave as though we are confident while knowing that we are faking it. Also we give false signals of our capacity and skills to the other men. This confuses the women who are watching the men to see who is good at finding their place in the pecking order. The men will always have conflict between themselves which we handle with different cultural strategies, some more conscious than others. This aggression is what we use to protect the family and protect the tribe. When it is directed in the right way it builds up a reservoir of passion in the body which can be used in the dance with women to celebrate union in a highly passionate and abandoned way. The women can help the men, and what you have written here is a great help to us in understanding women's openness to ravishment. But until the men help each other to release the warrior inside there will be little ravishment going on.

    • Rebecka says:

      Thank you for your response Paul. I agree that the warrior is critical for men. It must be married with the compassion of the lover. I also believe that we all must reclaim this archetype and integrate it. The warrior is part of the masculine. It is not limited to men. It sounds like you have gone beyond conventional notions of the warrior and incorporated healthy conflict that in resolution creates harmony. Blessings.

  8. WOAH!!! I’m cheering out loud YES!!!!!! From the top of my lungs! At last, the voice expressed that’s been clambering for release!! Thank you so much for this piece- beautiful. Perfect. Truth.

  9. kmbaier7 says:

    I'm sure Carol Pearson would be so appreciating this article. Well done!!

  10. daryl morazzini says:

    Thank you for putting into such brilliantly focused words, what I have been flailing at for so long.

    • Rebecka says:

      You are welcome Daryl. I am glad it struck a cord for you. Part of my work is directed at guiding men to reclaim the healthy, powerful masculine. Please get in touch if this interests you.

  11. Linda says:

    This was powerful to read. I am thinking a little of Clarissa Pinkola Estes too. I did worry at one point you were advocating a dominant/male-submissive/female approach that seems to be of fashion these days. But Ishtar would never allow herself to be humilated. And you illustrated that so beautifully.

    • Rebecka says:

      Quite the opposite! Meeting someone thrust for thrust is an the act of an equal. I don't believe Ishtar was always receptive. I believe she was an active participant and an initiator. I know that is where she has led me. I have come to a place of very deep integration since She came to me.

  12. bexvankoot says:

    I was right with you, until this:

    "Women have often put on the victim role and kept it on long after it ceased to serve any useful purpose such as exposing and addressing a violation. We have been so afraid of men that we have rejected anyone who actually behaves like a man. We have settled for fly boys, men lacking commitment to anything beyond the present moment."

    Women didn't "put on" the victim role. Women have been victimized, continue to be victimized, every second of every day, but a violent, war-profiteering patriarchy since Ishtar's birth, since Babylon took the goddess out of the brothel bars and forced her to submit to man in the temple or face the life-and-death risks of exile beyond the city gates. To write as if women have voluntarily claimed the status of victim neglects the lived experiences of the human race for thousands of years. Woman-as-victim is built into our culture. It is as much men's responsibility to change this narrative as women, transfolk and the other victims of the patriarchy which captured the human race so long ago.

  13. Rebecka says:

    I do not intend to diminish the suffering women have endured or to blame any woman for the violations that have happened. I have endured much of my own suffering at the hands of men. What I meant to convey is that taking on the mantel of the victim is only useful for so long as it is necessary to address a violation. There comes a time when it becomes its own cage. There is a difference between having been victimized and living as a victim forever after, between experiencing victimization and putting on the victim role. You are right. Woman-as-victim is built into our culture, and for this very reason I am advocating a radical and evolutionary act – to cast off our identities as victims and to assume the power position in our own lives and in our sexuality. When I wrote this piece, I was really worried that someone would hear my words as victim blaming. Perhaps I could have chosen my words more artfully. But if you read that paragraph in the context of the entire piece, I believe you will hear the spirit of what I am saying. It is time for us to rise up and live as equals, self-responsible and powerful. To do otherwise is to allow the culture to define us. I refuse to be defined by the culture or limited by the acts of patriarchy. I refuse to allow men to hide behind their conditioning as well. Men as rapists is also built into patriarchy. Yet, I devote a huge part of my practice to guiding men as they recover the healthy masculine and then marry it to the feminine within. I am not an apologist for patriarchy. I am dissolving its power to define and control me, to label me, to pity me. I am dissolving its power to turn men into rapists. And I am shouting that there is an alternative that does not involve men rejecting their masculine natures. The real problem is not masculinity, fierceness, aggression…the real problem is the context of patriarchal conditioning. So, to be clear, one way in which women cast off patriarchy is to cast off the victim role and begin to live fully again. Thank you for providing this opportunity for me to clarify.

  14. Freya Watson says:

    That was a really thought-provoking read, Rebekka, thank you. I haven't' worked with the energy of Ishtar, but have frequently given expression to Kali as a similar warrior energy that rises when I sense that femininity is not being respected. I have an article half-written in the back of my mind, the subject of which you have touched on here – which is whether women have contributed to emasculating their men over the last few generations, teaching them to be 'good' sons and partners by repressing exactly the warrior energy you speak of here. Ironically, as a mother, I find now that two of my three daughters have a lot of warrior energy that I'm needing to help them respect and use wisely. I am hoping there are others out there who are teaching their sons likewise. True strength is recognising our power but knowing how and when to wield it.

  15. Love this article Rebecka, another shining example of the sacred union of the divine feminine and masculine energies anchoring in our world. Beautiful!! xoxo <3

  16. tinhyeucuadoitoi1000 says:

    Thank you for honoring warriors! The true warrior masters himself. He directs his aggression to exalting and protecting his loved ones. Beautiful! http://inversiontherapyguide.com/

  17. Brooke says:

    I love this! I have been feeling this very strongly lately and Ishtar and her Sumerian counterpart, Inanna, have been showing up I’m my cards a lot, as well. Strangely, I have always considered my flower to be the rose and I never even knew it was associated with this goddess, who is among my favorites! Thank you for this; someone needed to say it! XX

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