What People Really Look Like. ~ Dale Favier

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I’ve been a massage therapist for many years now. I know what people look like.

People have been undressing for me for a long time. I know what you look like: a glance at you, and I can picture pretty well what you’d look like on my table.

Let’s start here with what nobody looks like: nobody looks like the people in magazines or movies. Not even models. Nobody. Lean people have a kind of rawboned, unfinished look about them that is very appealing. But they don’t have plump round breasts and plump round asses. You have plump round breasts and a plump round ass, you have a plump round belly and plump round thighs as well. That’s how it works. (And that’s very appealing too.)

Women have cellulite. All of them.

It’s dimply and cute. It’s not a defect. It’s not a health problem. It’s the natural consequence of not consisting of photoshopped pixels, and not having emerged from an airbrush.

Men have silly buttocks.

Well, if most of your clients are women, anyway. You come to male buttocks and you say — what, this is it? They’re kind of scrawny and the tissue is jumpy because it’s unpadded; you have to dial back the pressure, or they’ll yelp.

Adults sag. It doesn’t matter how fit they are. Every decade, an adult sags a little more. All of the tissue hangs a little looser. They wrinkle, too. I don’t know who put about the rumor that just old people wrinkle. You start wrinkling when you start sagging, as soon as you’re all grown up, and the process goes its merry way as long as you live. Which is hopefully a long, long time, right?

Everybody on a massage table is beautiful. There are really no exceptions to this rule.

At that first long sigh, at that first thought that “I can stop hanging on now, I’m safe” – a luminosity, a glow, begins. Within a few minutes the whole body is radiant with it. It suffuses the room: it suffuses the massage therapist too. People talk about massage therapists being caretakers, and I suppose we are: we like to look after people, and we’re easily moved to tenderness. But to let you in on a secret: I’m in it for the glow.

I’ll tell you what people look like, really: they look like flames. Or like the stars, on a clear night in the wilderness.


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About Dale Favier

Dale Favier has taught poetry, chopped vegetables, and written software for a living. Nowadays he writes in the morning, does database work (for a wonderful non-profit promoting literacy) in the afternoon, and does massage in the evening. It’s pretty much the perfect life, and while he’s uncomfortably aware that he’s running an unsustainable karma deficit, he plans to keep it up as long as he can. He blogs about massage and health at http://dalefavier.blogspot.com.


80 Responses to “What People Really Look Like. ~ Dale Favier”

  1. Karen Torrence says:

    Loved the humanity of this article.

  2. Priscille says:

    I am MT too and fully share your opinion! yes people! “Everybody on a massage table is beautiful. There are really no exceptions to this rule. ”

  3. Iohn says:

    I believe as a therapist you need to be science based on your approach. Touching someone in a “therapeutic way” should not have any connotation to appearance or beauty. You are a therapist that is in some form performing a procedure. If my significant other went to a therapist and they mention she was beautiful … Well let’s just say .. We’ll find another therapist.

  4. Brisa says:

    Every day, with every body I massage I am reminded of the beauty in every single person.
    I'm glad I'm not the only one to experience this joy.
    Thank you

  5. Since most of the bases are covered, I'll just add a few things.

    First of all, the only requirement is a High School Diploma or GED. I personally found that critical thinking and study skills from a BS degree (a BA is also good) really helped.

    It's a lot of Anatomy, Physiology, and Pathology – so science-based courses are really good, especially if you might get into massage research or working with other medical professionals.

    Most of us become self-employed. As such, I sometimes think a business degree would be helpful. It's not the road I took, and sometimes I need business advice as a result, for others it is an ideal route.

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  6. babz says:

    fyi , cellulite is actually considered a secondary sexual characteristic . estrogen is a fat stored hormone.

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