15 (Free) Ways to Romance Every Lover.

I consider myself to be a pretty old-fashioned kind of girl.

I still like books in paper form and I have yet to acquire my first smartphone (and, yes, I’m still in my 30s).

I like quiet nights with glasses of wine and evening, starlit talks. Jewelry? Yes, sure. Fancy trip? Why not. Yet, to me at least, these things don’t make up or equal real romance.

So, from my old-fashioned heart to yours, here are 15 (free) ways to woo your ideal prospect, free of charge—but a little effort may be required.

1. Write a love letter. 

Cliché? Yes. Appreciated? Always.

2. Make dinner.

Preferably your special someone’s favorite foods.

3. Take a walk outside.

No matter where my husband and I have lived—New Mexico, Ohio or Pennsylvania—we’ve always found a place to get outside, get moving and…

4. Hold hands.

Sometimes the smallest gestures are the greatest.

5. Go to the planetarium.

It’s nerdy good fun—and quite romantic.

6. Ask your partner about their dreams—and then listen.

Enough said.

7. Be polite. 

We’re often more polite to strangers than we are to the people we share our lives with.

8. Wear something nice.

Do you get home…just to get into your pj’s? At least every now and then, make sure you still dress up.

9. Read together.

Yes, the same book. Take turns being the person who reads aloud.

10. Go on an adventure.

For me, backpacking with my husband has always fit this bill, but for you it might be taking an overnight trip or even a class together.

11. Watch the rain.

There’s something cleansing and healing about rain—and there’s certainly something romantic about cozying up to your favorite person while it’s pouring.

12. Go to the art museum.

You don’t have to be a professional art critic to enjoy your local museum. Bonus: you’ll often find that museums offer special evenings and events on Fridays and weekends.

13. Play a game.

My husband used to ask me regularly on Friday nights if I wanted to “go to the bar”—the “bar” being our dining room table with trivial pursuit laid out. Honestly, if you can’t remember the last time you played a simple board game, well, then what are you waiting for?

14. Smooch.

This is especially true if you’re in a long-term relationship because kissing is another thing that many couples sadly stop doing. Once you start, you’ll wonder why you ever stopped.

15. Say “I love you”—and mean it.

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Ed: Sara Crolick

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badwolf Sep 7, 2014 1:18pm

Really?? Holding hands, kissing, being polite and making dinner? If you are not doing these things anyway, then you're probably not in a relationship. Also going in an adventure generally costs money unless you are going for a walk outside.. Maybe write the title after you've written she article..

カシオベビージー Feb 17, 2014 8:22pm

Something you ought to do to find out about women before you are left behind.

Dedria Feb 7, 2014 6:44pm

Lovely. We, as a society, tend to move too fast, over use technology and forget about the simple pleasures of enjoying someone’s company. Thank you for writing! Now I need to slow myself down, unplug for a bit, and remember to appreciate the good things.

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Jennifer S. White is a voracious reader, obsessive writer, passionate yoga instructor and drinker of hoppy ales. She’s also a devoted mama and wife (a stay-at-home yogi). She considers herself to be one of the funniest people who ever lived and she’s also an identical twin. In addition to her work on elephant journal, Jennifer has over 40 articles published on the wellness website MindBodyGreen and her yoga-themed column Your Personal Yogi ran in the newspaper Toledo Free Press. She holds a Bachelor’s degree in geology, absolutely no degrees in anything related to literature, and she currently owns a wheel of cheese. If you want to learn more about Jennifer, make sure to check out her writing, as she’s finally put her tendencies to over-think and over-share to good use. Jennifer is the author of The Best Day of Your Life, available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. She’s also as excited as a five year old to announce the release of her second book, The Art of Parenting: Love Letters from a Mother, available on Amazon.