Sex & Friendship: A Marriage Reminder. ~ Licia Morelli

Via Licia Morelli
on Oct 14, 2013
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When was the last time we laughed? Really laughed? Belly laughed?

We used to laugh all of the time, but then we got busy. Work and kids and projects and houses and ideas of what life was supposed to look like and where we were supposed to be and we forgot. We forgot to pay attention to what made us work well together from the very beginning—the ease in which we connected and restored the faith in ourselves and each other.

I would look at him and smile and remember that before him, there was loneliness an a void. Not a debilitating void, just a vacancy within my heart that was searching—always searching. But then I found him that day 11 years ago. He walked into the room, hung over from the night before, wearing his Boston Red Sox t-shirt, teacup in hand, wearily looking around for a seat to sit in.

And I knew, right then, we would be friends and then some.

Ours was a friendship that was safe and beautiful and lovely and fun. I could tell him I thought he was uptight (in a good way), and he would smile and say, “That means a lot coming from you,” and I wouldn’t want it any other way.

We were honest. We were rock-solid in our foundation.

And then out of that friendship there was sex; an extension of ourselves abandoned. We laughed and giggled and loved. Hot. Couldn’t-keep-our-hands-off-each-other hot. Hot in the way that my mother reading this now is blushing and commenting that it is a little too much. But still, steamy nonetheless.

The sex, though, was interwoven.

Carefully intertwined within the friendship. Not too much, not too little—a middle way. There was no cover up with it, no brushing under the rug because of it, no avoidance through it. Sex never replaced, it only enhanced. It was what connected the friendship to the above-average plane. It was amazing.

So today I am here to remind us: sex and friendship a good marriage makes—the basic foundation as to why this union works and still exists. We have to remember through everything—above all else—that any other foundation built by the two of us intertwined is nothing without these two pieces. It is us, the two of us, always and forever, in or out of the sack.



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About Licia Morelli

Licia Morelli is an internationally recognized clairvoyant psychic, intuitive coach, and writer. Licia sees clients all over the world for coaching and clairvoyant readings and is currently writing a children’s book on mindfulness and meditation as well as a self help book for creating success. When she’s not writing, meditating, or being mindful, you can often find Licia eating frozen yogurt and searching for witty banter. See more at Licia’s websiteTumblrFacebook and Twitter.


12 Responses to “Sex & Friendship: A Marriage Reminder. ~ Licia Morelli”

  1. Kiersten says:

    Yes – I totally agree! 🙂

  2. scoochdaily says:

    Thanks, Kiersten!

  3. Jun Ling says:

    Probably an idea where females realized it too late and men couldn't put it in words of what they really seeking. Great article.

  4. scoochdaily says:

    Thank you, Jun! I am glad you liked it! 🙂 xoxo Licia

  5. sheri says:

    I agree with you about friendship being the most important component of a relationship and when that's in place good sex is a given.
    Thank you for your sharing your experience, I enjoyed reading it.

  6. Tam says:

    I really liked this reminder. My girlfriend and I spent a year being best friends. Learning absolutely everything about each other. The good, the bad and the downright ugly. Our strengths and weaknesses. Our flaws, that make us love each other even more. I loved this article. Thank you!

  7. ina says:

    you nailed it! the best love/relationship summary i've ever read :)))

  8. scoochdaily says:

    Ina! WOW! You just made my day! Thank you! xoxo

  9. scoochdaily says:

    Sheri, Thank you so much for reading! I'm so glad to know that you liked it. I think all too often we forget that the foundation leads to so much passion xoxo Licia

  10. scoochdaily says:

    Tam, Thank you! I'm so glad that you liked it and I love that you and your girlfriend got to see it all before jumping into the love – it makes for such a great start and will carry you through many years of ups and downs. xoxo Licia

  11. scoochdaily says:

    Ina! You have just made my day! Thank you! xoxo

  12. Tracy says:

    Love this! Thanks for the reminder of what’s important!!!