March 10, 2014

Want to Be a God/Goddess, or a Real Human Being? ~ Ben Ralston


The only time I write anything that I come anywhere close to feeling good about is when it comes straight from the depths of my heart.

If there is any other motivation other than True Expression—if I want to impress someone, or to show how great I am at something, or how much I know, or ‘teach’ someone something – then, well you know that feeling you get when you sick up a little in your mouth—that’s how I feel when I write something inauthentic.

So writing, for me, is both cathartic and painful.

It’s painful to bare my soul again and again. Even when what I’m expressing is pure joy there’s always pain close behind. When I’m truly expressing my Self, there’s both joy and pain, because that’s what we are—us little humans spinning through space on this great, beautiful, wondrous Earth-Home.

At our core we’re made of light, and the only way light can exist is in the context of darkness. Without darkness there is no light.

What we really are is pure consciousness, or love—and the only way love can know itself is in the context of life. So here we are…

We’re divine animals. Sacred beings blessed and cursed with the potential to experience the full range of emotions, feelings, and sensations that this miraculous body gives us. And spirituality, if it’s real and authentic and grounded, as opposed to the kind of escapist, bypass spirituality that is unfortunately all too common, is painful. It’s dark, and it’s bumpy, and rough, and treacherous.

Because it’s all about bringing out the light more fully—and the only way to do that is to go right to the heart of the shadows. Only from there can the light be experienced fully.

If you do the opposite—if you aim too much for the stars, then all you’ll see, in the end, is darkness. Try too hard to bathe in love and in the end you drown in fear.

I’m convinced that we’re not really here, as many think, to become Gods and Goddesses.

I’m convinced that we’re here to simply be more fully human.

Why else would we be embodied beings?


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Patsie Smith May 19, 2014 11:12am

Beautiful article Ben, thank you. So agree, being a divine and sacred being as we are is totally embracing the polarities of the whole fabric of life and as life. I was commenting just earlier today on an article on another site with a very hot topic on depression, where people are just so resistant toward the light-dark, up-down, yin-yang reality of our physical existence. When I cry tears of deep sorrow, I cry from the depths of my being with a joyful sadness for being so alive and human. Our whole journey and purpose is also all about integration of our divine reality, not just floating up in the clouds and like you said, "an escapist". Enjoyed your article, Blessings and Light to you, Namaste.

Anjuli Mar 21, 2014 8:46am

Thank you, I really appreciate the contents of your words

Maria Mar 18, 2014 8:36pm

Your wonderful piece reminded me of Anthem, a Leonard Cohen song, where he sings: "There is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in." Thank you for paying close attention to the world.

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Ben Ralston

Ben Ralston has been practising personal development—necessity being the Mother of invention—since he was about six years old. He’s been teaching and sharing what he’s learnt along the way for a couple of decades. His main thing is Heart of Tribe retreats—whose very purpose is to help you fall back in love with life, no less. Leading these retreats alongside his woman Kara-Leah Grant—also an elephant journal writer (that’s how they met!)—they combine a deep well of lineage-based yoga teaching experience, with expertise in healing trauma and various other methods of personal development. Ben also works with clients one-on-one via Skype, writes, makes videos from time to time, and is passionate about parenting.
He lives in an intentional, tribal community in the hills of Croatia, where you might find him gardening barefoot and talking to the rocks. Connect with Ben on Facebook or YouTube or check out his website for more info.