West Bank Story: Occupied with Love. ~ Theo Horesh

Via Theo Horesh
on Jul 17, 2014
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bethlehem man

The guy is big and tough looking—just at that age when young men are most prone to beating the crap out of people they do not know, and he is standing there with two grumpy looking friends.

Palestine has felt remarkably safe but one does not want to try their luck. It is late, getting dark, the neighborhood here in Bethlehem is starting to look a little rough and someone has just told me to be careful.

I try to avoid eye contact for the most part, but as they walk by, I nod a gentle smile and the big guy asks, “Where are you from?”

I say “America,” but I might as well say, “the country whose media has made you look like a terrorist and diminished your life prospects through tacit support for the Israeli occupation.”

Not a moment passes before he sticks out his hand and there are smiles all around. In that warm and welcoming tone of Mr. Rourke from Fantasy Island, he says, “Welcome, welcome to Bethlehem,” and everyone shakes my hand.

The word Palestinian has been criminalized in the minds of most Americans.

It is often associated with irrationality and terrorism.

Palestinians in the West Bank have been under Israeli occupation for almost 50 years. They have been ruled by military decree, and their lands have slowly been confiscated and colonized. Their resistance to this occupation has been largely suppressed through a series of decrees that make normal life impossible.

Their movement is stifled by checkpoints.

Houses are often demolished for political activity. Their relationships are broken by informers to whom Israeli authorities promise the rewards of freedom. Water to a community is often shut off due to the actions of one of its members. And peaceful protesters are often shot. So, their resistance tends to be driven underground, and the whole culture takes on the appearance of criminality.

But everywhere in the West Bank I am being met with hard exteriors and warm interiors.

The closer you get, the warmer the welcome.

Everyone gives me coffee and sweets, extra food and discounts on rooms. It is often confusing as to which gifts are free and which come with an expectation of reciprocity. But even in those cases of expectation, the friendship feels real, and the willingness to take the time to show me around feels less like some political duty and more like an ingrained sense of kindness.

So, as I shake hands and bask in the warm glow of welcoming, it is a familiar feeling. And the embrace I feel is returned to an entire culture that is vastly more beautiful than anything I had expected upon arrival.

Reporters in the West seem to miss the kindness that is everywhere here for several reasons. Reporters are often a little shallow, they tend to stay in five-star hotels, and they usually cover political drama, not day-to-day life. They also come with their own prejudices, ingrained through focusing only on the violence, and they must speak to the prejudices of their Western audiences, where the medium of television does not do a good job of portraying gentleness and subtlety.

As they focus on writing about the violence, they come to see more of it.

Meanwhile, audiences in the West tend to see only the worst parts of Arab culture and then turn their ephemeral ideas into concrete facts in their minds. Then they string together misplaced verses from the Qur’an, pieces of pro-Israeli propaganda, and thousands of years of Christian enculturation, into some vision of a clash of civilizations.

The sense of honor is strong here, make no mistake. And it accounts for the strength of Palestinian resistance. You can dishonor a man by looking the wrong way at his wife, by injuring a member of his tribe, and perhaps most importantly for Israel, by stealing his land.

When you cross these lines of honor, I am told and can easily infer, that the aggression can be intense. So, it is a largely passive and warm culture with the capacity for aggression should the kindness be taken advantage of and the people dishonored. If there is to be peace in the Middle East, this is vital cultural information that has all too often been ignored.

It is easy to miss the deeper currents of a culture and to lose ourselves in the hall of mirrors of media stereotypes.

In the process, we come to struggle with our own illusions. We miss the thousand little disagreements amongst Palestinians, which if we would only listen might signal a space for dialogue. And we miss the open arms with which we might be greeted if only we would share in the sharing.

So many Palestinians want to open their homes and also touch something of that ever tarnished but still shining American magic. When we fail to take up the offer, we lose something of our own humanity in the process, failing to grasp the way human goodness is manifested through a thousand quiet channels.

As the bombing of Gaza continues unabated, and as the death count of Palestinians has already climbed into the hundreds and Hamas rockets fired into Israel miss their targets, fail to explode, and kill no one in return, it is important to remember what is lost when we fail to see the dignity of Palestinians.

They will resist in whatever way they can, Israel will be less secure, and America will be continually drawn into the Middle East.

A warm handshake and a smile might not stop a needless war and end the occupation, but it is a start to making peace and forging the kind of security that will allow us all to see more deeply into one another’s hearts.


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About Theo Horesh

Theo Horesh is the author of Convergence: The Globalization of Mind and The Inner Climate: Global Warming from the Inside Out, a book of interviews with leading thinkers, like Frances Moore Lappe, George Lakoff, Paul Ehrlich, Andrew Revkin, and Peter Senge. He is a former cooperative organizer and host of the Conscious Business podcast, which was recently chosen by the Business Insider as one of 100 podcasts that will make you smarter and more successful. He has been meditating for 25-years and currently resides in Boulder, Colorado. You can connect with him on Facebook, here. Theo's new book, The Inner Climate is now available for purchase!


6 Responses to “West Bank Story: Occupied with Love. ~ Theo Horesh”

  1. Pranajewelry says:

    Thanks – the only way to create peace is to open your eyes –

  2. Yaisa says:

    If only more people would shake their hands…. thank you!

  3. Ariana says:

    Thank you for this piece Theo, and blessings on your journeys ~ that sounds like an amazing and purpose-filled adventure!

  4. Salaam says:

    It may be true that Palestinian Arab culture is “largely passive and warm.” Still, in the last legislative election (2006), the Palestinian voters handed victory to Hamas, who won with 74 seats, while Western-backed Fatah won just 45. Hamas is classified as a terrorist group not only by the U.S. and Israel but also a number of Western and non-Western governments, including Canada, the European Union, Australia, Japan, Egypt and Jordan. Since the Palestinians themselves elected Hamas to a majority in the Palestinian Legislative Council, they bear collective responsibility for their choice and its consequence. A year later (2007) Hamas violently expelled Fatah from the Gaza Strip and instituted a brutal Islamist regime that has ruled there ever since. Due to the ongoing Palestinian Civil War between these two main political factions, Hamas and Fatah, subsequent elections have been repeatedly postponed.

    In regard to Israel’s ground invasion, what the writer glosses over is that the Palestinians in Gaza are victims of their own morally bankrupt leadership. Hamas uses schools, mosques, hospitals, and neighborhoods as command centers and rocket launching sites. In their PR battle they parade innocent children in front of the world media, even as they reject the Egyptian-proposed ceasefire that could have stopped the violence.

    The Palestinians find in Israel a convenient source of blame for their troubles, but the true origin of their struggles was at the hand of their Muslim brothers. Did the Ottomans—the Muslim Caliphate—give them a homeland during 400 years of occupation? No. Did the Egyptians grant them a homeland when they controlled Gaza from 1948-1967? No. Did the Jordanians grant them a homeland when they took control of the West Bank in 1948? No. Prior to 1967 Israel was not a barrier to the establishment of an independent Arab state in Palestine. But what happened is that the Arabs put their Palestinian brethren into squalid refugee camps and kept them there for 20 years until Israel inherited the problem. Even today, Arabs use the Palestinians as a thorn in Israel’s side, refusing to resolve the refugee problem in a way that permits Israel to exist as a Jewish state. None of this would have happened if the Arab leadership had accepted the 1947 Partition Plan. The UN recommendation that Palestinian Jews and Arabs should each establish an independent state alongside one another was derived from the fact that the land is inhabited by two peoples, each deserving of self-determination.

    Though Israel, like any nation, is not without error, the goal of peaceful coexistence is not well-served by averting one's eyes from the actions taken by an intransigent Palestinian leadership that has missed several off ramps on the path of violence. The real issue at the heart of the Arab-Israeli conflict is the core ideology of Arab leaders in general and Hamas in particular: that the Jewish people have no right to self-determination in any part of their homeland. And for this reason, the Palestinian people (good and bad alike) continue to suffer.

  5. JohnH says:

    Salaam, I would also add that the continuing degradation of the conflict of the Arabs and Iran (Persians) has created over ten million refugees crowding into the nations bordering Israel and this ancient grudge match between the Suni Arabs and Shia Persians is destined to erupt into a large scale conflagration. "Palestine" is, as you point out, not really a state, but an occupied territory that has been occupied by various outside forces for centuries. In fact, it is the West Bank of the River Jordan, which is strategic for Israel for both water and as a natural line of defense. If (most likely when) the Arab – Iranian war ignites, Israel will push the Arabs in the West Bank across the Jordan River and hunker down under their Iron Dome trying to survive the madness around them. There is no Palestine and as long as there are Arabs, Iranians and Israelies there will never be so. To think otherwise is disullion which will prolong the suffering of the West Bank Arabs.

  6. Mira says:

    Salaam and John H, How convenient for the land thieves to consider Palestine eternally occupied. How convenient to call us "Arabs". Did you ever live there during that time? We had homes, cities, villages, municipalities, we were also able to live in OUR homes that go back centuries from our forefathers. The Israeli occupation is the worst thing that ever happened to us Palestinians. No explanations of Sunni-Shia divide in the region can exempt you from this historical error/fascism/cruelty/genocide (you choose). May the truth prevail, as confused as you sound, there is no excuse for ignorance in this age of information. From a proud Palestinian who doesn't give a sh** about flags, only truth.