I often experience clients wanting to live obstacle free.
I totally get it. I understand wanting to wake up in the morning and for everything to fall into place.
Here’s the deal: If you don’t have any obstacles it probably is a sign that you are coasting.
What’s coasting? Well, when I experience clients who coast in love, work—you name it, they generally stick to the status quo.
Translation: They are not thrilled by their lives, but rather just choosing what is safe.
No real hurdles to manage because they aren’t risking.
I am also guilty of this myself. Often, when I have no obstacles, I am not going after what I truly desire. I once had a job that was so easy and predictable. I was pursuing life as an actor but to pay the bills I worked at a high-end fashion store. This job required nothing other than for me to just show up, sell products and look pretty. I always felt that I wanted to be doing something more to support my life as an artist, but I had a consistent paycheck coming in.
In short: I was miserable but stable.
I knew that in order to get out of “show up, look pretty” mode I had to create a path for myself. Emphasis on the “I.” I had to take a risk. Opportunity wasn’t going to just show up and whisk me from the home fragrance table scape. But, the thought of creating my own path seemed overwhelming, so I just stayed put. No obstacles whatsoever because I was fearful of the bumps in the road that would happen:
How would I pay my rent? What would happen to my wardrobe?
I mean, I had a killer discount.
I wanted to make money doing something I loved, but that seemed impossible. And just like that, what I call “limiting beliefs” moved in to my head to put up the wall and stop me from going after my dream. But I strongly believe that—
No hurdles = no hope.
Let’s redefine the word obstacle, shall we? An obstacle simply means you are going in the right direction. You are creating something you desire, and when we do this we will have a few hurdles.
So, on a whim, I gave my leave to the high-end fashion store, gave up the discount (and my expensive shopping habits). But with it, I gave myself the gift of being an entrepreneur—to create my own company. I was on a mission to inspire people to create the life they desired by coupling awareness with action. That was 12 years ago, and let me tell you, it did come with the following:
• Financial struggle. How do I pay my bills?
• Fear of failure.
• Constantly managing the voices in my head reminding me that this was only a dream.
• I was too late to the game. Everyone who is someone is twenty-something.
Despite all the “obstacles,” I’m happy knowing that I was able to create a space in the world for people to turn wounds to wisdom—and live on purpose. I have watched my clients do everything from create award-winning acting careers, find and keep the love they desire and be the mother they always wished they had—all while learning how to become the best damn version of themselves.
An obstacle is a good sign because it shows that you are choosing to do things that inspire you. When you see an obstacle ahead, stay in the game.
The longer you stay in the game, the better your chances are of winning.
Be inspired and trust that when obstacles occur you will
~ Di Ana Pisarri
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