55 Rules For Love.

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Rules for love.

1. When it arrives, cherish it.

2. Whatever you accept, you will get.

3. Understand that love is a mirror—it will show us who we are if we allow it to.

4. Only we can make ourselves happy, it is not the other person’s responsibility.

5. Don’t say words with the intent to hurt.

6. Accept and forgive easily.

7. Don’t be scared to disagree, it is healthy.

8. Never be too busy for each other.

9. Do not punish.

10. Accept honest criticism, it is good for us.

11. Admit when you are wrong, quickly.

12. Support each other when the going gets tough.

13. Live in the moment—be present.

14. Leave the past where it belongs.

15. Leave drama out of it.

16. Don’t try to control.

17. Allow a small amount of jealousy.

18. Don’t use comparisons.

19. Celebrate differences.

20. Communicate openly and honestly.

21. Listen very carefully.

22. Don’t judge.

23. Don’t manipulate to get results.

24. Learn and grow.

25. Don’t try to change each other.

26. Don’t condemn each other’s family and friends.

27. Lines, flaws and imperfections are beautiful.

28. Trust your instincts, but don’t be paranoid.

29. Don’t compromise your morals and values and don’t expect them to either.

30. Instead of power, aim for balance.

31. Space is needed to breathe and to grow.

32. Accept that you are both unique—never compare.

33. Have fun, laugh and play—a lot.

34. Be each other’s best friend.

35. Don’t play mind games.

36. Do not carelessly throw away love.

37. Don’t waste energy with negative thoughts.

38. Compliment often.

39. Discover each other.

40. Be attentive and understand what’s not said.

41. Do at least one romantic and thoughtful thing every day.

42. Take picnics and sleep under the stars.

43. Don’t just speak about it, show love.

44. Walk together, cook together, bathe together, read together.

45. Do not be afraid, love requires surrender.

46. Be loyal and faithful.

47. Trust.

48. Be grateful.

49. Fluidity is good, accept change.

50. Don’t sleep on a fight.

51. Don’t cling to it, know when to let go.

52. Discover what turns you both on and explore it.

53. Make love, but also f*ck (regularly).

54. Give and receive without measure.

55. Never gamble with what you can’t afford to lose.


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anonymous Feb 15, 2016 8:47pm

I’m thinking 53 should be broken into 34) Make love, but 34.5) also f*ck (regularly). I only suggest that because 34.5 is half of (a) 69.

anonymous Nov 21, 2015 12:31am

Love does have rules… Love is a beautiful thing that can be overlooked. Cherrish it and enjoy it… Embrace it.

anonymous May 23, 2015 1:14am

Damn, Moses only had 10!

    anonymous Jan 24, 2016 10:45am

    He had good help and difficult writing materials.

anonymous Mar 25, 2015 9:44pm

I liked how it looks on the outside but if you dwell in deeper, you’d realise that many of these rules can become contradictions in real life. Real life… It seldom allows these rules to be held independently, for instance: 25: don’t try to change each other and 53: have sex regularly. What if the person you love isn’t a sexual person? Would you try to not introduce them to other worlds? And ergo change them in the process? Also being in a relationship means we 24: learn and grow? Wouldn’t our growth and knowledge influence our partner’s life?

anonymous Mar 8, 2015 1:42am

@ Myriam, re: 52- I totally agree!

Why would I debase love like that!

anonymous Feb 15, 2015 2:23pm

Beautifully stated, noneyabusiness. 🙂

anonymous Feb 13, 2015 7:59pm

Find something more meaningful than sex. This society is far too obsessed with physical pleasure. Physical attraction almost always fades in at least one of the partners. Until we learn to value more than and find more meaning in something other than sex, relationships will continue to not last.

anonymous Feb 13, 2015 9:57am

Great guidelines, except for 52…making love is what you do with someone you love as for the other…hmmmm

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anonymous Nov 21, 2014 8:18pm

You are welcome, it makes my day to read inspiring posts like yours. And it does help to have guidelines/rules to refer back to. Without writing, this crazy train might have been more difficult to ride…understatement*

anonymous Nov 20, 2014 4:54pm

This post is amazing. I just finally got closure on a truly deep fall. Wrote a post about it that this post inspired. It is good to remember these for me…
and 53

among others


    anonymous Nov 21, 2014 8:38am

    Thanks for your comments and awesome to see I inspired you! Sometimes, it's good to refer back to a list as even though we all know this stuff already, in the midst of life, it is so easy to get caught up in things and forget. One of my biggest learning curves was no 2. I basically wrote this to remind myself of all the things I need to remember, work on and reflect upon. Makes my day to read comments like yours, so thank you!

anonymous Nov 18, 2014 9:57am

Good rules but many would not be ready to follow them

    anonymous Nov 20, 2014 4:51pm

    Readiness is not required for journeys to begin, but the more info you know the more good choices you can make.

    Just my perspective 🙂

      anonymous Feb 13, 2015 12:45pm

      Yes! Can I share that one on my facebook? (will link to a site if you have one :))

anonymous Nov 16, 2014 5:19pm

Love this!

anonymous Nov 16, 2014 10:15am

Too many rules!

    anonymous Nov 20, 2014 4:50pm

    As a pirate on the sea of love I would posit that the rules are more guidelines 🙂